I understand certain ladies were nice to be around and talented as far as sex goes...but I get aggravated that clients think it's a pity when the girls move on. And even when we come back, that saying 'they always come back' makes them feel like they are not capable of succeeding at anything else! These attitudes are what breaks us down...some are never praised so much in real life and when we fail there, we give up and come back here because it's all some of us were ever told we do right!

I was so ashamed of 'coming back' when I returned from the UK...My self esteem was destroyed and I resigned myself to being a whore forever because they are probably right! The truth is I am capable of so much more, I just lack faith in myself and fear the humiliation of failure again and doing the 'they always come back' walk of shame!

This was something started by one of the most vile punters on esa years back and all pf you just carry this legacy forward!

On 2018-07-28 13:40:06 Veronica Franco said:
I understand certain ladies were nice to be around and talented as far as sex goes...but I get aggravated that clients think it's a pity when the girls move on. And even when we come back, that saying 'they always come back' makes them feel like they are not capable of succeeding at anything else! These attitudes are what breaks us down...some are never praised so much in real life and when we fail there, we give up and come back here because it's all some of us were ever told we do right!

I was so ashamed of 'coming back' when I returned from the UK...My self esteem was destroyed and I resigned myself to being a whore forever because they are probably right! The truth is I am capable of so much more, I just lack faith in myself and fear the humiliation of failure again and doing the 'they always come back' walk of shame!

This was something started by one of the most vile punters on esa years back and all pf you just carry this legacy forward!

It is very sad. This is a different world. It is not easy. And some gents have no idea what they do, when they make comments like that!

We not failures if we tried something and it did not work, especially when you do not know the truth behind the reason of coming back to the industry!

Ladies, you are all beautiful in your own way!

Lady Sade

Girls and punters get upset if I take it upon myself to call out certain behaviours...

I am not a psychologist or anything like that, but I do a lot of reading on human behaviour and have always found it fascinating since I don't understand a lot about the things people do and say!

I have however been around! Met lots of girls that tell me about themselves and I have been there many times when these girls break, not to mention going through shit myself and walking a mile in their shoes. I have been from the top to the bottom of the barrel and have scraped myself up again. I haven't given up yet! I speak for myself as well as all the ghosts i have encountered in my past and present in the form of other girls and even the punters I have known and do know!

Some ladies leave the industry and never come back.
Some ladies do come back.
I respect all the ladies for whatever decision they make.

On 2018-07-28 13:57:17 Mike40 said:
Some ladies leave the industry and never come back.
Some ladies do come back.
I respect all the ladies for whatever decision they make.

It is never an easy choice to make, but knowing people think it's a given is extremely demoralizing!

VF, don't know how one responds to such a post, except that I have big respect for your honesty and openness. It is obviously a very big issue for many of the ladies.

It is human nature to strive on others failures and disasters, we all a bunch of fuck ups and I am ashamed of our species for it.

It is one of the hardest things in life, eating humble pie and we have all done it and that feeling should be a reminder to oneself, before you spew out shit like "they always come back"

I would rather be remembered for treating people I have met well, regardless of my profession, then being the best sex worker. If I cannot or do not succeed in being better at doing something else, I do know I am a good person and I tried my best at that!

On 2018-07-28 14:06:28 daporra said:
It is human nature to strive on others failures and disasters, we all a bunch of fuck ups and I am ashamed of our species for it.

It is one of the hardest things in life, eating humble pie and we have all done it and that feeling should be a reminder to oneself, before you spew out shit like "they always come back"

Well said

Lots of people, both men and women, try to change their jobs or careers in order to better themselves.

Some succeed.
Some do not.

Failure in a new venture is difficult to accept and the embarrassment of failure in the new venture is sometimes used to belittle the person who did not succeed.

The comments from former colleagues, clients and suppliers can make the failure seem far worse than it actually is.

Time heals people from all walks of life....accountants...lawyers....buyers...sales reps...secretaries...clerks...and sex workers.