On 2018-08-23 08:05:28 Mynx said:
@Tegwane...when one is psycologically stuck in a Stockholm syndrome type realtionship, it is very challenging to exit. This is why so many abused people stay so long in toxic/abusive relationships.
It does help a lot to have the words to research to firstly understand wtf happened to you (how your reality has been distorted and manufactured to keep you trapped), then to understand wtf you are actually dealing with (it is not human in the normal sense, and thus cannot be approached in any way a human would be approached), thirdly to understand you are not alone(there are people who actually really understand, have lived the experience, and therefore truly understand) and lastly, there is a formula for helping yourself and a formula for freeing yourself.

One cannot in fact, tell a person who is living a nightmare, to simply snap out of it. However, I maintain...if they are not willing to face the truth, nobody can help them.
Kisses, Mynx

Thank you for your detailed response.

Firstly I have years of experience in the counselling of battered and abused women.
Secondly this guy asked 'for advice' not a counselling session
Thirdly it might have been a flippant response, but the reason for the flippancy, unless you are a trained professional stay out of it

@Tegwane: the only training ever needed is experience. Then one day, somebody somewhere decided that a piece of paper should take the place of it.
Im truly happy that you are a trained professional. However, untill you have LIVED a situation, your advice is useless. Quite the same as pregnancy or childbirth. Whomever has not lived through that, can say whatever they want to, it is meaningless.
Anyway, this is a free forum and I am allowed to give my advice. And you have every right to, in your personal opinion, view it as whatever pleases you.
Kiss my ass, Mynx

On 2018-08-23 10:24:56 Mynx said:
@Tegwane: the only training ever needed is experience. Then one day, somebody somewhere decided that a piece of paper should take the place of it.
Im truly happy that you are a trained professional. However, untill you have LIVED a situation, your advice is useless. Quite the same as pregnancy or childbirth. Whomever has not lived through that, can say whatever they want to, it is meaningless.
Anyway, this is a free forum and I am allowed to give my advice. And you have every right to, in your personal opinion, view it as whatever pleases you.
Kiss my ass, Mynx

Thank you, I put it too you that Jose Mourinihou is one of the best football coaches yet did not play at the top level.

Secondly you assume I have not lived through this degradation or something similar. You know what assume means?

Thirdly I hope one day I will

To that man... whoever he is:
"She only use you... stop being her back and call... her problem solver... her last option... she is playing you... Being a dad to her other daughter already said enough of the person you are... you should never stop being a father to the little girls but you don't need to take more of her shit..."

On 2018-08-23 10:56:47 Ms Paige said:
To that man... whoever he is:
"She only use you... stop being her back and call... her problem solver... her last option... she is playing you... Being a dad to her other daughter already said enough of the person you are... you should never stop being a father to the little girls but you don't need to take more of her shit..."

Good advice, except for the last bit, the kid will be used as psychological leverage against him, the woman is a nut and he is best without her and it would be better for the daughter to remember him fondly than as the arsehole her mother will no doubt be toxicallly filling her head with, tell him to go make his own children, let the father of the child save her from her crazy mother..