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Mental health and safety VS Earning an income
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Posted: 2023-07-16 21:58:35

Before anything else, please dont take this post as me looking for anything other than actual feedback and opinions, I have had a very bad experience, but the point of this is not for me to moan about it, it is to help me gain clarity.

As I sit typing this, I am covered in bruises, I have a fractured forearm, a burst eardrum and various other injuries.
I no longer have a phone or even a number I can be contacted on and barely any money left. My mental and emotional state are far from good and will take some time to really be able to feel even remotely normal again.

I should take some time off and rest, at least a couple days but more realistically, it should be a little longer than that in order to properly recover.

BUT, we all know that it's not that simple. I do not have another source of income and I do not have family who can take me in and keep me and my animals going for a few weeks. So, my only option then is to work.

This is my question, and I do hope that some of you will help me here.

Do I (or anyone really) sacrifice my mental and emotional well being as well as deal with injuries and pain, in order to continue working because I need to survive? Also, the state I am in may very easily affect the service I am able to give, which is not fair and wont do my reputation any favors.

Or do I take time to heal, but knowing that I will be worrying constantly about the lack of income, it means I will have no money, soon run out of food etc and then be stuck trying to figure out how to get going again?

In a perfect world there would be a middle ground, but I am a realist.

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Posted: 2023-07-16 22:09:32
Edited: 2023-07-16 22:35:11

I have space for you and the animals .

Is there somewhere I can send a brochure of the house?

You will have your own room, wifi, Spotify, Netflix, cooked meals, laundry done.

Healing is much more important. A month ago I crashed, after a robbery. With the help of my clients I have been able to take time out and heal. I am eternally grateful to them.

We have 4 cats and 2 dogs

4 bedrooms

Big garden

Vegetable patch etc

Big office space

3 bathrooms

I tried emailing you a brochure but it bounced back.

Big hugs and prayers
Little Miss C

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Posted: 2023-07-16 22:11:21
Edited: 2023-07-16 22:15:50

PM me.

I'll support with 1 hour paid session of hugs and gentle words.
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Posted: 2023-07-16 22:14:20

Firstly Courts let me start by saying that this one of the most honest things I've read on this platform. I really hope you're body, mind and emotional state recovery soon.

But to answer your question:

In a perfect world mental health would need to come first. It truly sucks that you've got nobody to turn to because everyone deserves a break when life is throwing curve ball after curve ball.

Looking at your current circumstances though the honest answer is you have to work unfortunately. I think it best that you be honest with your clientele that you're not going to be giving your best service considering your injuries.

Try limit the amount of people you see to try give your body to heal?

Honestly I feel like there is no right answer here...



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Posted: 2023-07-16 22:51:20

God bless you Caroline and Courtney I hope you find peace
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Posted: 2023-07-17 00:13:16

Miss C
May you be blessed in abundance. Some may say you should have supported in silence, but i think that there is value in showing people that together with all the yuk, there are also helping hands out there.
I wish both of you and your animals all of the best!
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Posted: 2023-07-17 01:33:56

On 2023-07-16 22:09:32 Caroline said:

Healing is much more important. A month ago I crashed, after a robbery. With the help of my clients I have been able to take time out and heal. I am eternally grateful to them.



So very true and I just want to send strength and love to both of you <3 Mental and physical wellbeing should always be top priority but we all know it's not always that easy.

I suffered massive burnout coupled with the physical manifestations of chronic illness because I tried to push through mental health issues. Made money more important than my health until I quite literally didn't have a choice other than to take a break.

And at first it was hard, not knowing where a meal would come from, or what to tell those who depend on me that I'm not able to do anything. But this too shall pass, love <3 you'll feel so much better when you come out on the other side of it.

My regulars were a Godsend - I seriously wouldn't have been able to get back on my feet without them. Hope you get to spend this time with people who make you happy, and that you get to hear your real name more often than not. I hope you enjoy every good hair day, and that you pick up hobbies you might otherwise not have had time for. Sending love x HA
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Posted: 2023-07-17 12:55:31

Thank you all for being so kind.

@Caroline I have sent you a message.

@Frinch you have a pm.

@Cunilinkiss I am sure there are people who do think I should rather have suffered in silence, but I do think it helps to have people be able to talk about these things. We shouldn't have to feel ashamed when something bad happens to us.

The fact is, this job is not like others, working through something like this while still working is a challenge because of the nature of what we do and how much of ourselves we give each time.

I know that things get better, and I really hope that other ladies that go through something something like this will not try and get through it alone.

Xxx
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Posted: 2023-07-17 13:07:21
Edited: 2023-07-17 13:19:57

That so sad to hear, hope you okay.

Your mental and emotional state comes first.
From wot I observed, you a sweet kind lady. Never bullying or hurtful towards others. You mind your own business, you do NOT deserve that.

I know it is difficult for you because it's your income, but you need to heal and take care of yourself first.

I hope you take a break and heal, thats the present, now for the future...
I hope you do channel other avenues for income.

Within the sex industry there are many people with psychological and crazy behaviors. Its not worth the risk, or the money. Unfortunately the possibility ladies running into of bad luck is high to due the industry itself, from wot or whom it attracts. Its not worth it hun, try your best to channel into something else, while doing this temporarily.

Ask yourself if the money is really worth your mental and emotional state. No its not, because unfortunately there are many sick and selfish people out there that would drain the last bit of light you have. Which is so not worth it.

You are young, beautiful and brave. Do NOT get sucked and stuck into this for income, you will regret at later stages. Wot you going through is really sad but take it as a lesson and sign to more towards something better for yourself. You deserve better
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Posted: 2023-07-17 13:12:41
Edited: 2023-07-17 13:20:39

Courtney love,counseling helps alot if you have been through a traumatic experience. Taking time out to gain clarity and to heal is so important

Stay strong and positive, YOU WILL RISE ABOVE THIS

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