On 2024-01-03 18:25:06 JackParrow69 said:
On 2024-01-03 17:22:46 Raphael_ Xclusive said: ....

I do feel sorry for you though Raph. Sounds like you never have and possibly never will experience non-transactional sex driven by your mutual desire and nothing else. Nothing can be more satisfying and no amount of money can buy it. Hope you get to experience it sometime in your life.

JP69

Why do you assume JP69?

I most certainly have had sex driven by mutual desire both in this industry and outside of the industry. In one area I get paid for it and the other not.

However, my point is that everything in life is about an energy exchange and everything has a price. It may not always be directly financial, but we exchange energy in everything that we do. My other point was that I don't think we should reduce people to sexual objects within the industry or not. We are all the sum of multiple parts and products of our experiences, so many layers and so many intricacies that make up a person.

I know I am in the sex industry and in all honesty, I thought my market and my aim was to sell a taboo experience - boy pussy / the transman fantasy and instead I have found that people book me for me, for how I think and for being a genuine person.

I had a regular client almost forget to pay me and not because he doesn't have money or conveniently forgot (hence why I mentioned regular) - he said the session was so authentic and good, that he forgot that it was a session and that's because there is always a mutual desire. No matter what shape or form a client may come in, unless of course they are disrespectful, I will never be dishonest or put on a show.

I believe that true desire comes from accepting oneself and being able to see that we are no different to anyone else. When we look at our similarities we find authentic connection that is not driven by ego or by looks - it is a harmony, a synchronicity and it's rare.

There was a guy I fell in love with in the early stages of me joining the industry. Imagine, me a transman, who had only been with men for money and was mostly attracted to women my entire life, now here I am besotted with a man. He was sincere, he was down to earth, he was almost innocent in a childlike sense. On our first date he ordered a milkshake. He respected my boundaries and supported that I didn't drink. The chemistry was sparked because we saw one another and accepted one another. Suddenly he became the most good looking person in my eyes and I took every opportunity to rip off his clothes. He succeeded where all other men failed and simply because he didn't try to get a free shag from me and he supported all of my dreams, ambitions, my work and his energy was beautiful. It was clean and refreshing to be in his company.

It was wonderful while it lasted.

Also I am currently in a relationship and incredibly happy. I have the most incredible partner by my side and what makes it work is that we have difficult conversations, we speak about things that make us uncomfortable and we are both willing to make it work. There is nothing sexier than vulnerability, acceptance and accountability - I guess we are all wired differently. But that makes not only my heart skip a beat, but I literally want to pin someone against the wall or have me pinned against the wall. When we first met, I was of course ravenous with desire and I still am. But now it's new things that make me want to take my clothes off, like mutual effort, an apology, being brave enough to share things that feel difficult to speak about and knowing that it's a safe space to be gentle with each other. It's the simple, I thought of you so I did this for you.

Going back to the industry - there are so many incredible people who I have met and I'm most grateful for each one of them. I have been blessed with the most wonderful clients, who I genuinely adore and genuinely appreciate in every sense. I made one rule for myself entering this industry and that was to never do anything I don't really want to do. Every client I have been with, it's because I genuinely wanted to and when I have had my boundaries disrespected I have stopped the session and sent them with their money on their way.

My point is I know about mutual desire. But my question is, have you been with only service providers who have not desired you? I ask and I don't assume. If your answer is yes, that's really sad.

Punting is convenient

Punting is way cheaper than mjolo.
No strings attached.
No hustle of finding a room.
No girlfriend allowance
No nagging calls

A wise man once said: "If it's got tits or tyres it will give you shit at some stage".

With punting (as opposed to a side chick) you can at least minimize the amount of shit that might be coming your way.

On 2024-01-06 08:40:50 danwest said:
A wise man once said: "If it's got tits or tyres it will give you shit at some stage".

With punting (as opposed to a side chick) you can at least minimize the amount of shit that might be coming your way.

Hahahahahhahaa!!!!


Love that!


But in both cases....one needs to look to the "driver"...?

:D

RB.