The more u worry about it, the more it would become a problem. You must see a psychologist to break that mental barrier you have. I had a similar issue. Unfortunately my wife left me as she could wait for me to sort myself out. But after counseling and a change of mindset it gets much better

I'm really sorry for your loss. I think, allow your self to grieve.

If you're not ready for it, say so. You will be okay again in due time. Just be human for a bit.

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On 2024-07-06 17:00:14 lasttime80 said:
I lost my mum about 3 months ago. I lost all sexual feelings as her death really hit me hard. My wife has been understanding however about two weeks ago she communicated that she wanted to be intimate again. She tried to make it special but I couldn't respond at all. Now I don't want to push my wife away, I can't take a pill as I have hypertension but I want to perform. Is there any form of massage that can perhaps wake up my dead penis? Should I book a WG to try and fuck hard(which I would never do on my wife as I'm gentle with her) so that I bring back the feelings? This is under the assumption that Wgs can perform miracles.

Please first don't think yourself a loser. Losing a loved one and a parent is very difficult. I have been through it and it took me years to heal from it. See a therapist and allow yourself to heal. Try ans talk with your wife. Hopefully she will understand and give you the compassion thag you need.

As someone who's been in a very similar situation:

1) Go for counselling, it really helps
2) Hypertension alone shouldn't prevent you from taking the blue pill. Hypertension is one of the leading causes of ED, so it would be a bit of a cruel irony if you couldn't take anything to counter that. Fortunately, the universe isn't that cruel. But: SEE A DOCTOR - DO NOT SELF-MEDICATE. Certain heart meds plus viagra can be deadly (Ismo is one), but your doc should gladly switch out your meds for an alternative that is safe. (or at least mine did)

Just an idea... seeing your wife is missing this...

1. Schedule a romantic evening with her, have her put on sexy lingirie, some hot oils etc..
Give her a nice sexy sensual massage.. sexy foreplay, touching, teasing..
And then fuck her hard and proper, not just missionary like us general married folk, not soft and gentle as always, she most likely will enjoy it, perhaps that could re-ignite your spark too... and add a twist of spunk to the marriage..
WIsh my wife was begging me to screw her..
Just my 2c

On 2024-07-09 06:53:32 Stevensteven247 said:
Just an idea... seeing your wife is missing this...

1. Schedule a romantic evening with her, have her put on sexy lingirie, some hot oils etc..
Give her a nice sexy sensual massage.. sexy foreplay, touching, teasing..
And then fuck her hard and proper, not just missionary like us general married folk, not soft and gentle as always, she most likely will enjoy it, perhaps that could re-ignite your spark too... and add a twist of spunk to the marriage..
WIsh my wife was begging me to screw her..
Just my 2c

So... your recommendation for someone struggling to perform sexually is..."have sex"? Smart.

The idea is that sometimes scheduling sex with your spouse already gets you into the mood. It creates a build up if you will. It could work and then maybe it won't

3 months is not a long time to grieve. Cut yourself some slack. Putting yourself under pressure is not going to help with performance either.

On 2024-07-09 18:09:41 NickNailer said:
The idea is that sometimes scheduling sex with your spouse already gets you into the mood. It creates a build up if you will. It could work and then maybe it won't

Ja. This guy already has severe self-esteem issues stemming from this (i.e. see subject of the thread), so what he definitely needs is the added pressure and anxiety of building in a deadline.