On 2017-07-06 07:41:20 Blaza said:
Marriage has a way of blunting a man's instincts. I say stop focusing on the wife and also stop punting for some time cause punting is too easy. Start flirting and hitting on other girls. Try this and see for yourself how things get more interesting

I have to disagree. A little piece of paper should not change the way you acted before it was issued. You changed by choice. No-one forced you by gun point to change.

Grew a pair and accept responsibility for your choices and actions. Don't blame something or someone else.

Start focussing on the wife and things may change to the better. Don't expect a differnt result if you keep doing things the same way.

On 2017-07-05 17:11:24 Ziske said:
Sad that married life has to come to this

It should be kept spiced up and effort should be put in from both sides

Make time for each other, take time to re-explore each other and rekindle that spark

On a lighter note. I once read Marriage changes everything from sex before marriage. After marriage you fucking a relative lol.

@MrJ786 I just never understood why marriage has to change anything

Yes with married life there are kids, and a busy life, stess etc.

That should not interfere with making "us time" now and then

Communication is an essential part of the marriage. You should can communicate and say what you feel, what causes the downfall of sex, what you like, what turns you on, what you miss or long for, and what is lacking.

Together it can be repaired if not then you know that it is just a convenient marriage and not love

On 2017-07-05 22:22:47 Sultry Indian Jiah said:
Hahahahaha dude you ......... fell soundly asleep.

Sweet dreams ;-)

You make some very valid points here Miss SIJ which no doubt a number of my married punting brethren will put in to practice and there may be a little more mutual bedroom satisfaction coming up in the Republic!

However this isn't the point of my reply. I am interested in why this marriage dilemma is viewed as a male problem and up to him to sort out. In this age of equality for all, is the approach you have posted above not applicable to both sexes? Too often we see gender equality punted outside the bedroom but once the lights are dimmed and the doors closed it is expected that we revert to our stereotypically defined roles, especially within the confines of the marriage covenant, and thoughts of feminist ideals are cast asunder. Does your post above not point in same way to this idea? I realise, Jiah, that you had probably not intended this to be read that way, but for me, your post got me on to this train of thought.

Just for japes I edited your post somewhat .......


"Hahahahaha girl you watched TV in bed, than faked a yawn as a prelude to sex. Don't blame your husband for declining sex. A good night's sleep definitely trumps lack lustre sex.
Seriously girl, very few of the complaining wives are skilled in the art of seduction, foreplay,
sensuality, eroticism and plain make out sessions that leads to dragging each other to the bedroom and having crazy passionate sex as soon as you shut the door.
Wooing and ravishing at that crucial moment, leads to the most intense uninhibited sexual pleasures. If distracted with something else the mood gets spoiled and not always possible to recapture the previous urgent pulsating sexually charged feelings.
Know that I am being very blunt as I believe that some who have replied are saying what they think you want to hear to make you feel better.
Sorry Ma'am I think you really need to communicate your desires and intentions to your husband clearly. During your romantic time tell him you want to "fuck, have sex, make love" does he want to as well? If he says yes, Hallelujah!!!
Take him in your arms, kiss him passionately, whisk him off to the bedroom and start the foreplay. Continue the sensual arousing foreplay making sure to pleasure him into orgasmic bliss.
Pleasssssseeee DO NOT STOP to indulge in any mundane activities such as attempting to read a book,watch TV, play candy crush, update your FB status, upload IG posts thus causing your hubby to lose that loving sexually feeling and putting on his top, pants and socks for bed.
YAWNING, seriously my girl that is just so pitiful. Thankfully your man latched on and fell soundly asleep. Sweet dreams ;-)"



I know, I know, this is a male "dominated" site with, as we have seen by the amount of sympathetic replies the OP has received, a number of participants in sexually luckless marriages, however I do find it interesting how we all fall back to type! Thanks Miss Jiah for piquing my interest. I will now revert back to my normal innate habits and continue leering over profiles and making plans for my next punt.

Jaykay is 100 percent correct, where the fuck is my romance for the past couple of years, when is the wife going to try harder to pleasure me?? I put food on the table , keep the kids in shoes and work my ass off day in and day out, when the fuck am I going to get a surprise back rub in the tub??

Hey grant74 I have been married for 10 years and our sex life started off great now my wife wont even try initiate if I dont do anything I wont get anything at all. I recall going without for nearly 4 months at one stage.

Marriage is about giving not recieving, got my long service badge (30 years) some years ago.

Stop complaining, use that time rather productively on foreplay.

On 2017-07-06 07:41:20 Blaza said:
Marriage has a way of blunting a man's instincts. I say stop focusing on the wife and also stop punting for some time cause punting is too easy. Start flirting and hitting on other girls. Try this and see for yourself how things get more interesting

I think if a guy starts acting as if he's not interested that's when he will get attention from the wife but that's if the wife really loves him but if she doesn't then it might backfire .....

Not showing interest is a sure sign of outside activities and could lead to court.

Reading posts like this really affirms me that there's a huge market for the lifestyle magazine I have been contemplating to put together where women are educated on man's sexuality and needs.

Which will also help them handle being cheated on better because they will understand that to men sex is just an activity just like playing tennis and emotions are not always involved. Maybe if I understood this I would still be married today


Also a lot of women out there don't pay so much attention on being sexy for their husbands, some even buy grannies underwear instead of sexy lingerie. I have been researching this for almost a year and I have so much to contribute and of course I will be having a good team to makes sure that it is an irresistible read.