Unfortunately my skin is also damaged... stretchmarks all over but I carry them with pride... I feel sexy again... I have so much energy and got my self confidence back...
Mia and other girls who are struggling... I was the most ugliest, fattest plain housewife ever... I converted myself from a nobody to a somebody. I hated myself... please don't give up.

On 2017-07-12 11:11:26 Mia said:
If a healthy delivery service of healthy meals was available I would be delighted...mhhhh business opportunity right there.

FitChef is an option. The Sandwich Barron also have a banting menu. Hope this helps xxx

On 2017-07-12 15:28:03 I never learn said:
"Nothing taste as good as feeling thin."

Peter Buck

Lol couldn't agree more!
But for me seeing results is so much beta.

We all beautiful in different ways....

In sticking with the original question, before I'm accused of hijacking this thread or not keeping with the original question, I lived on junk food as a skinny girl. I actually cook most nights now, but the food I cook is by far much tastier and hard to resist then junk food ever will be. Miss Joy also feeds us small portions morning, noon and night when we work late at Joyville. I just eat more daily then I did before. Last year, I would sometimes only eat once every 3 days.

Having said that, Pantum and I never learn, don't you think that is a very unfair remark to make and question to ask. I expected more from you of all people.

I have recovered from anorexia and bulimia, which started at the age of 8 as a young dancer who was always teased for having a little extra weight and took vicious comments from other kids and even my overweight/morbidly obese family.

I never had a balanced relationship with food due to my families eating habits being passed on to me, coming from a family of emotional eaters with thyroid issues was not easy. I sacrificed many things in my life to be thin as a youngster, including healthy teeth and my reproductive system amongst other health issues that developed, trying to keep to others ideals of what they said I should look like. I look back and my heart breaks for the insecure and tortured young girl I was, but truth be told, that state of mind however never leaves a girl as I will always look in the mirror and see a fat girl even if my rib cage juts out from under my skin. People made comments about my weight loss last year because of my addiction but I never saw what clients were referring to because I still saw a fat girl in my photos and yes, in the mirror. My drug addictions were in part hard to relinquish because of the fact that it kept me thin at minimal cost and effort with a severe loss of appetite and replacement of the energy I lacked.

I picked up weight and lost it through my 10 years in this industry due to various reasons. Weight loss at times was due to an attempt to keep up with ideals like yours at the gym etc, my weight gain at another time was brought on by getting dosed with Cortisone due to severe eczema at one point and my clients made me aware of comments others, mainly other punters, were making about me being expected to charge half because I was double the size. One comment said I probably should charge double because I can have a double with myself.....yeah, it's fucking hilarious, isn't it, but the amazing and beautiful reality is that I do much better as a big girl in this industry financially. My business escalates when I pick up weight, so overall, it's been such a lovely surprise to find out that not all men view the skinny waifs or lusty larger ladies in the same way you do!

We might not be what your ideals say we should be, but there is a larger percentage out there that actually love it, so losing some clients due to weight gain is not the end of the world to any of us.

People are amazed at how strong I can be or wonder why I speak my mind....one of the simplest answers is, I have dealt with cruelty from people saying things like you from a very young age and learning how to defend myself and accept myself was paramount to both physical and mental survival. This is just another example why we turn to vices such as alcohol and drugs and why so many of us have eating disorders and problems with acceptance and acknowledgement as human beings.

Thank you to all my clients that find my size pleasing, who prevent me from going down any of the above mentioned avenues again because your increased support makes me feel I am beautiful regardless of what I think. I see in the mirror.

To other big ladies in this industry, stay as you are and if you do commit to change, do it right and for nobody else but yourself! I am living proof that bigger can most certainly be better. My most successful years in this industry have been as a larger girl, so never let them make you believe that because of your size, you are not as worthy as the skinny ladies!

Regards, V.

XXX

@Meg and Vegas.....totally agree!

I have no doubt this is something that will be thrown in my face to try and hurt me in the future, but I lay myself bare so that people might acknowledge their own lack of empathy and their contributions to what is wrong in this very vein, shallow and superficial way of life we find ourselves in!

Saying nothing validates comments and insults that I often see on this site directed at bigger ladies.

I Had a look in the mirror this morning....cannot comment on this thread.

No Miss V, that was all Pantum. Now I am in deep water. And I just commented about cock and feeling thin.

Bliksem Pantum, gonna sort you out next time. Strafdop for you.


Miss V, as someone that is struggling for the last two years with weight after a horrific incident, I am well aware how difficult it is to keep in shape.

And I have on many occasions said here that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that the one thing that I learned on this site is that there are so many different tastes than what there are people. For each his own.

It boils down to personal preference at the end of the day.

I like a specific type of lady. Pantum likes another, Mini likes you. They will all look different.

Pantum, bad boy !!!

Cheers

On 2017-07-13 08:59:21 I never learn said:
No Miss V, that was all Pantum. Now I am in deep water. And I just commented about cock and feeling thin.

Bliksem Pantum, gonna sort you out next time. Strafdop for you.


Miss V, as someone that is struggling for the last two years with weight after a horrific incident, I am well aware how difficult it is to keep in shape.

And I have on many occasions said here that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that the one thing that I learned on this site is that there are so many different tastes than what there are people. For each his own.

It boils down to personal preference at the end of the day.

I like a specific type of lady. Pantum likes another, Mini likes you. They will all look different.

Pantum, bad boy !!!

Cheers

I understand this. But how do you think these kinds of threads affect the ladies you guys praise when they put on weight and don't hear from you again?

Eating disorders are not only the problem of over weight ladies. Thin ladies see how we are treated and become terrified of getting the same if they dare put on a few.

Consider the following as an example:

You sing one girls praises constantly, then move on when you find your next favorite. New girl is perhaps thinner so that immediately starts giving your previous favorite a complex as she knows you like thin girls and she's put on say 5kgs. So another eating disorder is born....and you merely stated that you prefer thin ladies, yet you have no idea that your words and actions combined have started her down a dark road. Yes it is as simple as putting the wrong assumptions together, but you will never know. A women once vivacious and friendly becomes self loathing, depressed and sickly. Praise can destroy just as much as it uplifts. It's in our nature's to focus on the one bad over all the good!

Ag jassas weet ..nie bedoel om iemand in die gesig te vat nie net gesien daar is n paar girls wat gewig op getel het wat n n jaar laas gesien het ..Fokkol name genoem of gese jou gat is duk nie fok tog!! Ek is self foken duk in die gat ..wie gee om ? Net wie in Venues of in privaat huise wat eet julle ? wie maak kos ..maak jy self kos of koop jy n foken takeaway .Wil regtig nie weet wat het met jou gebeur of jou.. julle foken 10 jaar terug segeskiedenis op ESA te gooi nie . Stel fokkol belang . Ek sal fopkkol weer vra op die forum nie ...Oo EN NOU NAAI EK OOK NIE VIR DIE FOLGENDE MAAND NIE ..Sorry nou hou ek my geld vir takaways ..middelfinger for you !!!

On 2017-07-13 11:10:00 pantum said:
Ag jassas weet ..nie bedoel om iemand in die gesig te vat nie net gesien daar is n paar girls wat gewig op getel het wat n n jaar laas gesien het ..Fokkol name genoem of gese jou gat is duk nie fok tog!! Ek is self foken duk in die gat ..wie gee om ? Net wie in Venues of in privaat huise wat eet julle ? wie maak kos ..maak jy self kos of koop jy n foken takeaway .Wil regtig nie weet wat het met jou gebeur of jou.. julle foken 10 jaar terug segeskiedenis op ESA te gooi nie . Stel fokkol belang . Ek sal fopkkol weer vra op die forum nie ...Oo EN NOU NAAI EK OOK NIE VIR DIE FOLGENDE MAAND NIE ..Sorry nou hou ek my geld vir takaways ..middelfinger for you !!!

No need to get excited Pantum. My post was aimed at making you think about this kind of thing and how it makes the bigger ladies feel. Why is what we eat and putting on weight such an interesting topic, enough so that you had to ask? The responses from other ladies and how they perceived your question is what initiated my response. What were you expecting? A lively thread about how us fat girls love KFC? My name or anyone else wasn't mentioned, no, but I am a girl that has recently put on weight, so the fact that no names were mentioned leaves a question mark open to all that read the post!

This post struck a chord with me in my interpretation of your question vs how others also perceived it! I explained why your question hurts and offends. Getting upset at my post is pointless. You asked it, I responded like anyone else according to how it made me feel. Asking something like that isn't going to make us feel great, assuming that the only things involved are take aways or cooking. Your very words:

"Find lately ..Girls are putting on plenty kilo's as where they looked, much better one year ago .What do you eat during the day ??"

You implied that they looked much better before putting on weight, as in they are not as attractive anymore and it must be their diets causing it by asking about take aways vs cooking....what exactly were you expecting as a response?