On 2017-09-24 12:58:41 Need4Passion said:


Marriage came and we'd only have sex when she was ovulating to try for a baby.

That sounds too familiar.

My personal opinion, BUT it's only my opinion so I could be wrong. I believe if a guy is in a relationship where he can be completely open sexually (without judgment) to his partner then he wont cheat. BUT if he feels there is the slightest judgement coming from his partner (even if she doesn't verbalize it) he won't be completely open with her concerning his needs sexually, he will then rather explore with his needs sexually either with an affair with someone who is open minded enough to explore his sexuality with him or pay a working girl for it.
Like I said, that's just my opinion and I speak from experience. I had a long term relationship with a man who had a foot fetish. In all his relationships, one as long as 8 years he was never faithful because not in one of his relationships could he enjoy his partners feet sexually.. If he slowly over time would make a suggestion or a comment about their feet and get got the slightest feeling that they either thought it was weird or freaky or didn't enjoy it then he would not go further into his foot fetish with them. Then he met me ;-) AND I was open minded you enjoy it either him and he never cheated in 5 years cause he was getting everything he needed sexually at home. Therefore there was no need to seek it elsewhere..

Lili - that is so true what you mention there.

I for one would be so glad to meet a partner who had an open mind when it came to the bedroom ( not keen on having a third person present ) but just to indulge in what we both would like to try behind closed doors.

I think it only makes the bond between the 2 people even that much stronger. I decided a long ago that I would NEVER make my lady feel ashamed or embarrassed about what she likes or look at her strange when she would tell me about it. There are some things that I have no interest in, but would never look at her weird or laugh if she had to tell me.. I would try and embrace it actually.

Men need sex in order to feel good about themselves. Irrespective of who that partner is.you

Women need their partners to make them feel good about themselves in order to make love to them. They look for a lifetime mate.

Subconsciously, men and women have completely different needs and wants.

It's such a complicated and complex question as is the answer.

A first date? What does a man look for, compared to what a woman is looking for?

Mwah

Arz

I'm in a situation where my wife just doesn't enjoy sex. I'm sure she could go the rest of her life without it and she would be totally fine with it. Or maybe I'm fooling myself, she might be cheating. Or maybe she doesnt find me attractive any longer. Either way, i dont really care. Im at a point where I'm done trying. I feel like she robbed me of 7 years of sex. If i found out that she is cheating, it wouldnt bother me in the least. We have a connection but its not physical anymore. I know that we are both staying together for our kids even though we havent ever verbalised this to each other.
Punting is nice but it lacks having a genuine connection. I'm going to continue punting until i find someone who i can have an affair with.

On 2017-09-25 01:47:23 Bazuka123 said:

Punting is nice but it lacks having a genuine connection. I'm going to continue punting until i find someone who i can have an affair with.

I agree, there's no better sex than sex with someone who's crazy over u and where the feeling is mutual. No kind of punting can compare.

On 2017-09-25 01:47:23 Bazuka123 said:
I'm in a situation where my wife just doesn't enjoy sex. I'm sure she could go the rest of her life without it and she would be totally fine with it. Or maybe I'm fooling myself, she might be cheating. Or maybe she doesnt find me attractive any longer. Either way, i dont really care. Im at a point where I'm done trying. I feel like she robbed me of 7 years of sex. If i found out that she is cheating, it wouldnt bother me in the least. We have a connection but its not physical anymore. I know that we are both staying together for our kids even though we havent ever verbalised this to each other.
Punting is nice but it lacks having a genuine connection. I'm going to continue punting until i find someone who i can have an affair with.

De...ja...vu

I'm with you on this one. Punting can't give you that connection and that genuine feel or being wanted and desired purely based on the financial nature of it bit something is better than nothing right. At least we're getting the physical now and if we're lucky, a good act to the emotional.

@blaza, touche' brother.

What percentage of married men/women cheat? over 50% or under?

Reading this thread soemma make me bang. Becoz I recently created a profile on shaadi.com hoping to meet a nice, down to earth good Muslima to settle down with.

I know of men who have four wives plus several girlfriends with kids that they support and they punt weekly.

Laughed at one of the guys when he told me to move to South he'll buy me a house and take care of all my financial needs, just so he can have some quiet relaxing time for himself. Was a great offer except that I did not want to move to the South.