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Posted: 2017-09-27 18:42:57

On 2017-09-27 10:27:36 DIRECTORSSS said:
Thought about it for while now....I dont know the answer to the question. Dont have a partner at this stage...so cannot really cheat. But I suppose it just happens automatically? Human beings are just a bit "fucked up"...or "messed up" that way? I donno...its a difficult question....ask another (easier) one.



We don't know, we know not, maybe we know, maybe we shall never know ,maybe we don't know that we know or we already know that we don't know...Heads are spinning man.#TooDifficult Haha
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Posted: 2017-09-27 23:21:12

This thread is depressing. I know quite a few men who are serial cheaters - never been faithful in any relationship they've been in. As for me, I have never cheated on anyone I dated and don't expect a noddy badge for it. But if I was married, I'm sure I'd be singing a different tune. And I always get crap from the same men who cheat that it's time to "settle down and get married" because no matter how hard you try and how long you live, you'll never get to fuck them all, haha!

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Posted: 2017-09-28 10:01:22

On 2017-09-27 23:21:12 Pseudonyms said:
And I always get crap from the same men who cheat that it's time to "settle down and get married" because no matter how hard you try and how long you live, you'll never get to fuck them all, haha!



That's because they don't want to suffer alone
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Posted: 2017-09-28 11:31:44

On 2017-09-28 10:01:22 cobra_za said:
On 2017-09-27 23:21:12 Pseudonyms said: And I always get crap from the same men who cheat that it's time to "settle down and get married" because no matter how hard you try and how long you live, you'll never get to fuck them all, haha!



That's because they don't want to suffer alone



True Story! All the married friends be like, settle down with a nice women. Married life is great then after you do it "Got you boet, come join the pitty party"
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Posted: 2017-09-30 06:09:52

Clearly different folks have different strokes.

Of all the opinions, Arz in my view answers the question.

Men and women are simply different.

Punting is more recreational in my world, than about finding a replacement or substitute for the woman I love.

Punting is more about my desires etc, and need to explore (re-live the conquest!) than about cheating.

I think cheating is that red line you cross when you start forming a "relationship" (beyond friendship) outside of your marriage. You don't need to have sex to know you're cheating.

In fact, I see punting as a self reward. Just as fun as scoring the match winning goal etc. It's fun!

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Posted: 2017-09-30 13:35:11

On 2017-09-30 06:09:52 Super A said:


Men and women are simply different.

Punting is more recreational in my world, than about finding a replacement or substitute for the woman I love.

Punting is more about my desires etc, and need to explore (re-live the conquest!) than about cheating.

I think cheating is that red line you cross when you start forming a "relationship" (beyond friendship) outside of your marriage. You don't need to have sex to know you're cheating.

In fact, I see punting as a self reward. Just as fun as scoring the match winning goal etc. It's fun!





Problem boss, is try saying this to your vrou. If your vrou don't know of you fucking around behind her back, its cheating.

There are punters on ESA who in the past claimed that their wives/girlfriends know that they pay for sex. so that's probably the only examples where attached guys can't punt and not be considered cheating.
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Posted: 2017-09-30 15:31:42

The root causes for a married person cheating do not lie in the marriage partner as much as it lies in the persona and psyche of the unfaithful cheater. A weed that is not rooted out will continue to grow back. Until the inner cause of the feelings of infidelity are dealt with, a person will continue to revert to cheating.. whether it be punting or other forms. That person's soul will never be satisfied... the black hole of punting or cheating experience tells us that our hunger and desires for more can never be filled. So it goes without saying that punting never makes one feel fulfilled, only satisfied in the short term.

Cheating also suffers from this drawback and I think many marriages do to. So in the end if one's root cause of cheating, punting etc.is never dealt with, one will never truly be happy. Looking at others for the reasons we fall is a selfish avoidance strategy we adopt because we sometimes fail to pull out own weeds out by their roots.

I'm not sure how to practise that in my own life though.. so perhaps my words are just that?

Peace to everyone reading this..

P.s. my comments are without judgement on any punters or ladies on the site .. this is just my humble opinion as I've come to feel over the years of doing the same things over and over again
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Posted: 2017-09-30 23:19:38

Many people in relationships cheat, because they are not happy together... And they're not happy , because they're incompatible, period.

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Posted: 2017-09-30 23:36:59

What about when the woman becomes fat...? But she believes she is now voluptuous, curvaceous, etc...

And the husband who is attracted to a slim, sexy woman and not the hippo his wife has now become, decides to stray ...

Is the husband to blame...?

Or vise versa....
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Posted: 2017-09-30 23:44:16

I cheat because i love sex

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