It is a major op, with approx 6 weeks recovering and 2-3 weeks not being able to drive, it does not affect the natural process of having sex.
The physical scare may be unsettling but it is just like a cesarean and it wouldnt bother me if I enjoyed the lady and have a good relationship, if she was back at work with pain or to quickly it would effect me also as i would be afraid of hurting her other than that im sure she will be fine and should be back into her fitness regimen after approx 7-8 weeks taking at slow I would imagine.

As for your loss of erection that would concern me more than the lady's hysterectomy psycologically youre probably going to battle more and more !

Personally I see nothing wrong with Sky blues post just a number of sensitive people reading and posting.

Skyblue it depends on how long ago the hysterectomy was done if its still recent she will still be sore and tender as the often say it takes 6 to 8 weeks to heal. Depending on the person it could be sooner or later.

Should this affect your sex drive it can if you think she's probably hurting. Its just a mental block.

Having a hysterectomy does affect ones hormones so chances are her sexdrive will be affected ;)

Also one needs to take into consideration was the hysterectomy done because it was a method of birth control or was it needed because of serious health complications. This could also affect the healing process.

I think your mind block and is simply lack of knowledge with regards to the situation.

My only advice to you is just be patient and remember hysterectomy or not the lady is here to sell you a fantasy and that is what she will do hysterectomy or not.

However if she's working sooner than she should she's probably desperate to pay medical bills etc... In which case she will be selling you a fantasy whilest still in pain.

I hope this helps

After a hysterical, uncertain stormy start, and despite a dressing down, it appears that the sky is blue, the OP is not an arsehole and thankfully won't have to fuck himself but will, however, probably be reticent in future.

On 2017-09-30 15:04:00 skyblue100 said:
I have been seeing this lady quite regularly during the past two years, very beautiful with the type of body I like (athletic). She recently had a hysterectomy, which she informed me about during a visit to her this week. I do not understand why but I was no longer "in the mood". I could not perform as I kept thinking about the hysterectomy. I just wanted to know if undergoing an hysterectomy also affects female's sex drive because it surely affected mine.

You are not alone! I lose my sex drive when I think of many things...even chatting about illness!

You say you kept thinking of the hysterectomy (them cutting her inside)....
I think the thought of putting your dick in a wounded lady instead of a sexy healthy lady would make some guys go limp!

This is a point to maybe learn from, keep it light and fun, dont get heavy!
He is paying for a fantasy and the last thing you want is for him to get turned off.
Just my 2cents

On 2017-10-02 08:15:35 Placido said:
probably be reticent in future.

Why because people read with their own perception and draw their own conclusions before taking the time to read and put themselves in the posters shoe's. From where I stand or the peeception i read with, the man asked a question he did not complain or insult anyone.

Often times when people jump and have issues with something that is said or done it's their own inner issues that needs to be dealt with ;)

Their opinions are just that their opinion based on their own personal experiences.

Spot on, Arwhen. Issues can be discussed without insulting each other because of one's anger, ignorance, misunderstanding or intolerance.

Yes it can be. Remember this is a open forum and sometimes words get lost on translation when writing texting pming etc...

As facial expressions, tone in voice body language etc... are all absent and make it easy to misunderstood what is/was written (the actual message that is/was bwing conveyed)

With respect, there is no misunderstanding or loss in translation when a person is called an arsehole or told to go fuck himself.

On 2017-10-02 08:59:27 Placido said:
With respect, there is no misunderstanding or loss in translation when a person is called an arsehole or told to go fuck himself.

True story but the person that posted the above may have misread or miss understood the post.

Not too long ago Need4passion was mistaken by ladies for a freebie kind of guy after my post the ladies in question realised that their comments where misplaced and apologised for their misplaced comments.

I'm not saying that this was the case but it may just be a possibility.

A Hysterectomy is a very traumatic experience for a woman on both a physical and especially an emotional level.

I had to have a total hysterectomy done at age 31 due to cancer. Apart from the physical pain caused by the operation and the long healing process, I went through an emotional roller coaster of note.

I was very sad and I no longer felt like I was a woman, because all my reproductive organs had been removed and I thought that I would no longer enjoy sex or be able climax. I was also worried that sexual intercourse will feel different/unpleasant to me and whoever I was having sex with - this was a big fear for me. Additionally I immediately went into full blown menopause at that young age, because I had a total hysterectomy as opposed to a partial hysterectomy. I started taking hormone replacement therapy which helped alot with the menopause symptoms and continued taking it until age 40. Since I stopped taking it, I have not found the need to take anything as there has been no menopause symptoms, perhaps it is because I eat Gotu Kola leaves on a regular basis.

Anyway I was pleasantly surprised and very thankful to discover that my ability to climax was not affected at all by the total hysterectomy. As a matter of fact, once I overcame the emotional trauma of the operation (after about 1 year) I found that not only could I climax with ease, but the climaxes were also more intense.

Since I initially felt like I was no longer a woman when I had the operation, it is understandable that a man may also think the same or be put off, when he hears that a woman has had a hysterectomy.

Thankfully when I had my hysterectomy, the 2 regular clients I told about my pending operation were very supportive, with the 1 even visiting me in hospital after the operation and depositing a few months worth of earnings into my bank account as he knew I would not be able to work for a few months, without me asking him to do so and afterwards refusing any attempt by me to pay him back. So I was very blessed in that my clients were very understanding and supportive.

I think the lady shared her experience with you, because you are a long standing client of hers and she felt that she can trust you and share her traumatic experience with you, as she sees you as a friend OR she is still busy healing and told you about her operation in the hopes that you will be gentle with her.