If one takes up a hobby, like hiking or cycling, even if you do do it on your own, there are always lots of people around to help you if you need assistance and you will end up making friends outside of this industry.
Every Sunday I go hiking or walking in nature reserves or at Mountain biking places (there are always walking trails there). Its become my relaxing time and afterwards I always sit and have a breakfast and admire the scenery.
I date myself all the time. It's really awesome!

Just a thought.

Since Sunday seems the loneliest and I'm assuming it's quiet business wise while everyone is at church and recovering from Saturday night, why not take Sunday off?

Make it a day for yourself to go do normal things. Leave your Monday to Saturday JOB behind. Don't touch the working phone or check ESA. Pretend it doesn't exist for that day and concentrate om doimg something, anything and you'll meet people on the way.

I used to go fishing at 5am alone on weekends when my wife used to work then and I never spent 1 day alone as I always met random people to chat to, watch, or learn from.

Book tickets to an event that you like. There are a few coming up :

Live concert in Menlyn
Winex in Sandton (everyone gets pissed there and who can't chat when you are pissed ?)
Cat Stevens at The Dome
Evita at Monties

Just for starters.

Either go on your own or get someone to go with.

Be a fool like me and buy double tickets, and then pressure yourself in finding someone to go with.

Cheers

On 2017-10-10 10:09:33 Laura - Lady Of Pleasure said:
If one takes up a hobby, like hiking or cycling, even if you do do it on your own, there are always lots of people around to help you if you need assistance and you will end up making friends outside of this industry.
Every Sunday I go hiking or walking in nature reserves or at Mountain biking places (there are always walking trails there). Its become my relaxing time and afterwards I always sit and have a breakfast and admire the scenery.
I date myself all the time. It's really awesome!

@Laura: I definitely find this works girl. I date myself almost all the time and sit and just enjoy nature and just breath in fresh air. It's so refreshing! Clears the mind as well so I can start my week afresh.
Finding a hobby and doing something that you like is also a great way to rejuvenate and meet and make new friends. I've met some of the most amazing girls through my dancing hobby. And the dancing is enjoyable and good for my inner being and body that I won't leave it for anything. So it's a win win.

Thanks for all the advise ladies and gents.
Xx

On 2017-10-12 04:56:26 I never learn said:
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Be a fool like me and buy double tickets, and then pressure yourself in finding someone to go with.

Cheers

Yip I sometimes have to force myself to do something with someone else. I have become so used to my own company. But when I least expected it the loneliness hit me and because I never made time for friends and family and hobbies before, I found a lot of them had moved on and found other friends who were more present. People will only tolerate their invitations being turned down for so long. So I had to work on old friendships that were worth saving and nurture some new acquaintances made. Even just going to the same salon or coffee shop regularly will help you meet new people. I made a very good friend on Twitter. At first I thought she was a nutcase, then I realized I was a nutcase too. We met for coffee one day and a year later we still meet once or twice a month. And we can be nutcases together. She knows what I do and has no issues with that. But I found her in the most unlikely place. She is not the kind of friend I can go on holiday with or to concerts because she has kids and she has a psych condition or 6. You have to put yourself out there and open up to meeting people and being a friend.

I'm on a few singles groups on fb and have forced myself to attend their events in spite of being an introvert. Other than that, I've filled my home with animals (6 yorkies) who have given me unconditional love and fulfill my life more than I could ever imagine. (My mom seems to think I've filled the void of a man in my life with animals... I think she might be correct LOL)

Feeling lonely is a state of mind and after my divorce (and heartache) it took me many years to feel content and at peace with myself. Loving myself for being just me was a turning point in my life and forgiving others, another major part. I look back when I was at my deepest and darkest time and I never want to feel like that again.

Thank you to everyone who shared a bit of themselves.. this industry isn't easy..

Lots of hugs
XOXOXO

Can always yell thecsingle ladies by their cats or lots of dogs, lol

Weird thing is, I started punting because I was lonely and just wanted some for of intimacy and human connection. Now I am more lonely than ever before. Once that high subsides and a day goes by, boom, straight up downer. I recently saw one girl 3 times in 4 days. Now I'm stuck having feelings for her and no idea what to do about them. Hats off to all you ladies who can make us feel like kings and not get attached.

It happens to all of us we just need to find the strength to carry on.

@Sniper.. shame darling.. I hope things work out for you.