Posted: 2015-09-03 13:37:18
Bridgitte, I also tend to agree with you. However, I think that it's also imperative for the wife to put herself in the husband's shoes and consider how any of her actions may impact negatively on him. Rickylick’s marital experience indicates that husbands can also be on the receiving end. Nevertheless, I’d agree that wives tend to be the recipients of the majority of the raw deals that are dished out, worldwide, albeit that women from western cultures may not be as adversely affected as other women.
What I believe is of paramount importance in any relationship, is mutual respect, consideration for one’s partner’s rights, comfort and interests and honesty. Even if one wants only hanky panky, or even to dabble in some swinging, for example, why not be honest and open about it? The consequences of partners discovering deceit can be rather devastating, as has been shown on this and other threads. It’s also much less stressful and far less logistics intensive, to take this approach.
If one’s relationship has turned sour, then, take two possible courses of action. Either attempt to fix it, if both parties want this. If that is not possible or desired, then end the relationship, deal with the emotional and other baggage and move on. Valentina has testified that there is a mature way to deal with this.
Let me also stress, in closing, that I’m not having a go at anyone. I’m just throwing in my two pennies worth. I’ve never been married and I’m a single punter. Therefore, I don’t really know what pain others have endured. I’m also so imperfect and flawed, that I’ll never qualify for sainthood in either this, or the next ten thousand lifetimes. I’m the last one who ought to be throwing stones and, I assure you, my fellow forum participants, that I’m doing no such thing.