On 2024-11-23 18:33:02 Russian Bridgitte said:
And the other thing when talking about infidelity.
Meeting in this space you have something in common, you both have a secret just between the two of you. But it's not an easy one ...
For the guy it a bit easier ... she's a woman who was used by many other guys for sex. Some of us, not all though can move on from that place, even if she stays in the industry. As Vrik said, it's easier to detach sex from love. The fact that we play with escorts is evidence of such. When you check reviews you don't think ... 1000 reviews, she been fucked alot. You think, professional, likely to get a great service, and still imagine in that moment with her that you the only one.
For the women, his a liar, cheater, and every time he leaves the house she will be wondering if his wasting their money on sex workers .... not sure many women would be able to trust a guy she met in this space.
This is my pain. Yes I am a lying, cheating ass hole. It's done and can't be undone. And yes, I pay you to overlook that, and you do a great job at it. But in reality, could you ever see past that. At the end of the day it is what it is, and it would be unrealistic to expect any women "to unknow what she knows".
Or am I wrong?
I suppose in an affair where both parties were cheating and cheating was exclusive, it could work ...
But in this space, I don't think we could be more than an "infidel"; and just be happy that we have ladies who are willing to tolerate our infidelity. Accepting it, however, may be asking for to much ...
Honestly, if my wife found out about my cheating, I'd just leave. The amount of work needed to restore trust is insurmountable. Here, she already knows you are cheater, can't imagine what you'd need to do to win her trust.
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RB apologies for using your post for a lead into my rant.
To the OP, I think it's hard to be in this space and not be conflicted. But we all need to deal with it one way or the other and find peace with who we are.
As the the saying goes, it's the oldest profession ... but maybe also one of the hardest; and maybe loneliest?
On 2024-11-24 10:25:04 Michelle Savaty said:
On 2024-11-24 09:47:27 J_J said: On 2024-11-23 09:54:02 Pumpkineater said: Chros ask ur wife if u can do roleplaying and if she is into that. Then u can tell her u have this fantacy of being with an escort. You wil pay her a 1000 for the hour. Trust me she wil become more than a professional and the extras like wil be free and u know it wil be raw. Money changes people
Had an interesting experience recently. Was staying in a hotel about 150km from home. One evening I messaged my wife to come over and got the typical response that it would be a waste of money. So I deposited some money into her account and she agreed to come over. (Side note, I have a shared cheque account with her and she has her own account. So it was not like I was giving her money that she didn't already have access to).
Anyway, that night I think she probably had one of the best orgasm's I've ever observed her having. (Will write it up later on my orgasm thread as something I want to discover for myself). When she left the room the next morning, she said she feels like a prostitute. In my mind I was thinking, not really, I did all the work and you left me hanging. I'm actually the sex worker, except that I paid. Now I'm thinking, what the fucks wrong with me, lol.
Lol love the experience.
The reason why she felt like a prostitute is the mere fact that you send her money to come visit you and she had to leave the next morning.
(Thinking like probably most woman does) The flood of questions....does he see prostitutes? Would be one, and then the experience. I promise you she thought it was very kinky. And wish secretly you guys can do it more often. But the fact that you didnt finish will bother her aswell. And she will most probably overthink it. So it might come up in a conversation probabably sooner or never.
In your case you were the punter and the working guy. Lol well done you did something we cant do all at once. I think we need to get some lessons from you.
Most of all it was a super surprising experience for the both of you. And now take your wife out to dinner or date night. And ask her how it made her feel and her experiences. You are truely a legend. Cause for all the other guys out there. That is how you experience things with your wife. Spur of the moment. And after giving her time to think about it. Ask her about it. And then start to hint on your fantasies. She will feel guilty for not letting you finish and most probably give in to one of your fantasies. And so you guys can make turns.
Lol....fuck listen to me. Sounding like a real sex therapist. Hahahaha not even close.
But hey....youll never know
I should of read your post before going on a rant off RBs post. Great advice, and may work, if it was only sex that we had a challenge with. Well at one point it was, but I was stupid.
I suppose from my rant above, my biggest issue is that I betrayed trust. I don't think I can reconcile a relationship with my wife unless I tell her and she forgives, if possible. And at this moment it seems impossible, so we just live past each other, meeting our contractually commitments and having sex when she wants it.
I don't think she's really bothered with me not finishing. Been happening for years, and her response is that I should see a doctor or a therapist. Eventually I took the advice and saw a therapist, a massage therapist. Definitely nothing wrong with me, lol. But that was a dumbass move. Probably fucked everything up from there onwards.
Regards
On 2024-11-23 17:57:25 Vrik said:
On 2024-11-23 13:20:46 Kylie @ Elements said: On 2024-11-23 11:53:38 Sir Shadow Hefner said: On 2024-11-23 10:08:56 Ryantrixyconnors said: If you truly loved her then you wouldn't want anyone else but her.
Nope, that's not how a man's brain works.
How does it work then?
Please, I'd love to have some insight....
Most men dont need to love someone to want to have sex with her.
We can separate love and sex very easily (unfortunately). I may crave sex with you like crazy because of your body and looks. But as a person, i may totally dislike your personality. We men are despicable like that.
Hmm I'm not in that category then and perhaps the reason for the lack of sex
I can't see a stunning woman but if she doesn't have that allure, personality or humour I like, then i lose interest
For me it's about the intimacy
Knowing someone, caring for them and them Me and then giving into and wanting each other
It's so much better for ME and i think it has to do with acceptance, knowing a woman I find attractive and appealing would want me the same way, makes me feel.. accepted
I'm on the wrong site aren't I? Lol
I don't mind a fun time but I ideally I like friends and more.
It can he had, I have in the past which makes it more difficult to make a booking knowing if i wasn't paying her, she most likely would not.
Good night
I fell in love with someone who could switch off desire like a switch or so I thought
She was intellectually amazing, challenged me, drop dead gorgeous on top of it but something about her behaviour always had me wondering about her random craziness
She decided we are closest but since I moved away that I should be happy IF she date's but gets upset when she can't call ME up at any time
I've become the best friend without even knowing
She suddenly has a low libido when it came to me yet does risky things and comes to me for support and then it all came out
She sees men randomly and has for a while before we met and now that I moved away shes back at it and can't stop it seems
Says I'm her number ONE and that these guys mean nothing and yet I see it's affected her.
She also takes out the issues that brings onto me
Long story not so short is..
I wonder how being with so many men changes a woman. I've seen the issues it has caused Her.
And I'm not sure one can just disconnect from something so personal and bonding.
It's more than just physical energies that are exchanged.
And I went off on a rant. Wrong forum again
This is not a rant but my personal truth and my perspective on this very very sensual share between strangers.
First.
I do believe that this space chosen, for whatever reason, is NOT meant for 80% of the advertisers.
It WILL mar them in various ways. It will change their perspective on so many things where there may not be a comeback.
There are many women that are in no less of a financial challenge than those who have decided to choose a "profession", older than time itself,to surrender not only their body but, innermost self to stranger after stranger after stranger, that do not choose this as their financial savior.
Again, as I always say, the purple world is a microcosm of society on the whole.
The choices we make do define us. Does history know to repeat itself? Yep.
But how often?
Well.
If one chooses to hide from self truth...a road destructive, painful and without true purpose and understanding of self might be the tragedy breaking one down relationship after relationship, fuck after fuck....
A self unconscious detesting, criticism, low self worth and esteem.
That switch off button to evade a painful truth.
Not only when it comes to sex but, life itself.
Truth.
How we hate it. How we evade it. How we lie about it and excuse it.
Since entering this space in 2015, I have always said...should I ever be blessed with a longterm rewarding loving sexy companionship with a like-minded man, he would come from the punting pool.
Why?
Because I ain't a serial dater nor one for skeletons in the closet that one fears will eventually surface.
I don't need a man to compete with or, complete me.
I want a man who knows me and ....loves and is in love with me as well as likes me.
Both him and I would know each other...
He the one that paid for sex.
I the one that was paid for "sex".
No judgement...a hard hard cold truth
It takes courage, honesty, integrity and truth to make it work.
Nobody but nobody comes into a relationship without luggage.
And should such a companionship be my blessing then punting and prostitution would be a goodbye for both of us .
Can such a thing happen?
Yep. I do believe so...but then again, I am of an age blessed with a most brilliant life, put on a journey most unexpected and embrace it with all of me no matter the views and labels society has deemed fit to bestow upon me.
I would imagine he too, would know and recognize life for what it is and be prepared for a journey new.
RB.
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