On 2023-12-25 16:53:39 BendOver said:
Good Day Sir

Thank You for sharing your story and Iam sorry that your experience was not a great one, especially being your first encounter with a Working Lady.

In this industry we come across many different types of people and we don't know the background of what they have gone through that defines their true nature.

We do get the hustlers and scammers but we also do get the genuine people who have integrity and honesty that we depend on.

Even though I have met the hustlers and scammers in my time thus far but I have also met some real good people and have developed some great friendships over the years.

My good encounters far out weigh the bad encounters.

Don't give up and don't let one bad experience stop you from engaging in quality time with some lovely ladies and developing better experiences and good friendships.

Feel free to drop me pm if you need any advise or some punting tips.

Best regards and keep positive.

BO

What a lovely post and great advice. Thank you for this.

Word. Word. Word

On 2023-12-25 16:53:39 BendOver said:
Good Day Sir

Thank You for sharing your story and Iam sorry that your experience was not a great one, especially being your first encounter with a Working Lady.

In this industry we come across many different types of people and we don't know the background of what they have gone through that defines their true nature.

We do get the hustlers and scammers but we also do get the genuine people who have integrity and honesty that we depend on.

Even though I have met the hustlers and scammers in my time thus far but I have also met some real good people and have developed some great friendships over the years.

My good encounters far out weigh the bad encounters.

Don't give up and don't let one bad experience stop you from engaging in quality time with some lovely ladies and developing better experiences and good friendships.

Feel free to drop me pm if you need any advise or some punting tips.

Best regards and keep positive.

BO

Whenever someone does this to me(punting or real life), I pray that they're using the funds to put food on the table for their families. That kinda softens the blow, but that's just me. In the world of morality, different I guess

The response I've received has been quite something. It feels good having shared my story and hopefully it helps someone avoid what I had to deal with.

I'll definitely take advice and tips from those who have offered. I've even received some nice messages from some ladies which were certainly worth a smile.

I have to reply to shoe here and say I am very much the same in how I view such situations. Sure a person feels foolish initially but in many ways it's best to reconcile. This is to say that losing money isn't the issue - it's the principle... I simply pray the money I gave away did in fact go towards something necessary, something vital for a persons survival - only reason I let them get as far is because my greatest strength is always my greatest weakness: that being kindness even in the face of ignorance. Life is tough and has been unfair to a lot of people... I've experienced and seen it... and in my 30+ years I've seen some terrible things and met some terrible people and it's a clear example of nature vs nurture I suppose . So I go out of my way to do the right thing and ease the suffering of others whether they're a stranger or someone I know personally.

As always I never get angry over money, simply disappointed in humanity that people have to hustle in such a way in order to survive. If caring about the well-being of a person makes me a fool then I'll shoulder it with no complaints.

Anyway, thanks for the wisdom. There's a whole layer of appreciation and insight I've uncovered. I'll always put my faith in the fact that deep down there's good in all of us.

Hope everyone had a good Christmas and has stayed safe...

Much peace, love and harmony to you all.

Very nice story very well written. A pity there are more punters out there that is just like you. See the good in everyone. And they too wil be scammed by the very same lady who scammed you, unless you put a name or link down in your post. At the end of the day this is business. We not here to help the ladies. We pay them for the specific service they offer and if the service is to scam people wel then the rest of the punters need to know who to watch out first. The warning is not to kill her business but for the punter to know not to fall for her stories. Just maybe she wil get her act straight and try and walk the right path from then on forward.

On 2023-12-25 11:16:37 slow2melt said:
This is the only place I can share this story... my first fumble as one might say... forgive the poor writing, I hope I convey with sincerity this heartfelt tale that has taught me a lot about myself and the world of escorts.

My thoughts and feelings towards paying for the pleasure of another persons company were mixed. In some ways it felt selfish... in other ways it made me feel like a creep - I was reluctant to say the least. My initial attempt ended up with me being scammed, as one might expect... the embarassing details are that I have paid a booking fee and after an hour past the appointment my "lady" tells me she was in a car accident on the way... she tells me a long story about how she has no money or insurance and the guy she hit looks like a gangster and she's scared... terrified for the safety of another human being I sent her some cash to settle the altercation... needless to say she was grateful and made plans to meet the next day... first thing in the morning she greets me with some beautiful pictures and starts the "girlfriend experience" by asking for money so she can have breakfast before I arrive later that day. Seeing as her car is damaged she gave me her address and we agreed to meet at her place... turns out the address she gave me was that of an abandoned house...

I've never felt so stupid in all my life... I didn't get angry - I was simply disappointed. Disappointed in myself for believing I was helping another person... ashamed at being weak and giving money to a stranger not because of what services they offered but because I genuinely thought they were in trouble... she was very beautiful and very convincing and extremely determined.

I told her I feel sad for her... seeing how she has to get by on a life built upon lies... and apologized for contributing towards the continuation of her hustle... I don't get angry with people... only ever disappointed... I forgave them and am still trying to forgive myself...

She showed some humanity and apologized herself giving me a story about how she was scared and... well... the devil is in the details and she had the handbook on hustling from hell...

We actually became friends to an extent... until the day she started asking me for money to fix her car. According to her it was my fault she crashed and so it was my responsibility to pay for repairs. As anyone in their right mind would, I said no... yet her determination and ferocity and crocodile tears were relentless... I eventually gave in and conceded: I would help pay if she sent me a quote from the mechanic. This only enraged her because I didn't trust her enough to give her the money directly... she argued with me about this for a whole week... we still speak on occasion but it always devolves into her asking for money whether it be to pay for her studies even an Uber eats voucher... never happens... but still... it was intriguing...

I am thankful that I found this site. I have learned a lot and the people here have helped change my perspective on escorts... despite never officially enjoying the company of one of the many sensational personalities out there.

I have rationalized paying a lady for their time and would never expect anything from a woman if they weren't feeling chemistry... I spend about the same amount of money taking anyone out regardless of how we met and I never have any expectations... I've had my fair share of flattering compliments so I'm very secure in my ability to connect when there's an attraction. It's about finding the time and well... not everyone is gonna give you a massage on the first date let alone accept when I offer one after paying for a lovely night out.

There is more to the story and how I've developed a deeper appreciation of the human condition... I'll share more if people are interested... but for now I think I'll take the advice and wisdom from these forums and try finally have a nice evening in the presence of a sensational, sexy individual with the same spirit as myself... a spirit of positivity, sincerity where humility and integrity drive me forward.

I don't feel as though I've properly expressed myself... perhaps I'll try again some other time.

I wish you all much peace, love and harmony and I hope to meet at least one of the lovely ladies here on ESA...

Post a comment on her review page, not a review, only a comment about your experience,so that others can avoid this scammer. Sorry this happened to you. Let this teach u not to send money for some obviously bullshit cry cry story.
Do your homework thoroughly before taking the plunge with someone u don't know. Happy punting...

Fortunately she isn't on this site... her grift on me is a big reason for me searching and looking for somewhere more trustworthy and lo and behold I found the purple pages.

I've learned my lesson and have received some good advice and tips thus far.

Thanks to ESA for maintaining this forum. It is a wealth of information and I feel more comfortable making a booking with the ladies here as opposed to anywhere else.

Really sorry to hear of your experience. There are far more amazing women in this industry than scammers . Even now after a few years doing this , I try to do as much research up front as possible :

1. Meet providers from a credible site like ESA
2. Focus on those with good reviews overall and read the reviews - I occasionally will meet someone without reviews but that's not common ) . Another reason I like ESA - very little reviews elsewhere
3. Contact punters who have recently met this provider and get their direct opinion ( works well to augment review info )
4. Contact the provider and tell them what you like ( not just physically but also things like private incall, private shower , clean towels etc if those are important ) . This helps to manage expectations upfront for both of you
5. Be respectful ( you are paying but it's their business) and have fun and be safe .

If something appears too good to be true or right, it probably is .

@Slow2melt

Although ESA SPs are in general of a much higher moral standing and less likely to scam you, be warned. There are more than a few scammers lurking, waiting to take your money, never to deliver on their promises.

They will comment on this very thread, declaring how wrong it is, and how sorry they are, for what has happened to you. Only to do the same, when the oppertunity is there. Then to dissapear and return as a new "SP".

My advice would be to never pay in advance, as very seldom will you be rewarded with the promised services.