Thanks for the insight CozyHaven. It sounds like an expensive fetish over and above the usual ones.

On 2015-10-07 17:32:19 deamonza said:
FinDom is a specific kind of fetish in which a sub derives an erotic thrill from relinquishing control of their finances to a financial domme, which is where the practice derives its name.

www.dailydot.com/lifestyle/findom-kinky-fetish-domination-extortion-blackmail/

jezebel.com/sex-blackmail-and-pay-pigs-a-look-at-findom-s-m-for-1302754177

2 write ups on it... I just don't get it.

Joh I wish i can be someones findom. Ill get additional punting bucks!

This is an interesting thread and had me doing some introspection.
The fetish for me is not a singular sexual act but actually the mental activity and stimulation on the build-up thereto. Hard to describe but an example or two.

I would randomly meet a woman and decide that I want to get into her, young or old, big or small, sexy or plane. Some brain chemical just creates an instant attraction. The chase is on and the brain works overtime at the sexual manipulation game and the rush is there. Once the deed is done in the way I want it, all interest is gone and sometimes I even look at a woman I “hunted” and think What The F$%& did I see in her.

Crossed paths with a very conservative middle aged Afrikaans lady who I immediately visualised playing a BDSM game and dominating her and getting her to do anything I asked. After a week I got her to send me some pics, a few days later more revealing ones, then got her onto the topic of BDSM…. “No Way – Jy is mal” where her words. Still I had not had sex with her but played the mental game. Within a month the sex was there and from boring missionary to having her come out of her shell and into the PSE phase… A few days later, the first light bondage and light spanking.. soon full on bondage and BDSM play, she was totally submissive. Then, the interest from my side was gone and a while later we were no more. At least she thanked me for showing her the other side of sexuality and not the “klim-op klim-af” as she called it that she got her entire married life.

This is one incident of countless over the years and reading the thread and doing the introspection has got me to realise ……. I’m slightly screwed up. LOL.

I think it explains my punting as well as punting is not a mind game but a transaction with an objective, price and duration. Most of the SP’s that I have been with have become personal friends and one or two have played me in my own game but that’s life I guess.

That’s my story Mike

@Curt, I would ask you if perhaps you are really seeking a more dominant female, one not easy to coerce or convince into playing things your way ?

While I dislike the term fetish as it is overly generic and for the most is negatively perceived perhaps your fetish is that you are in fact seeking to conquer, and once that is achieved there is no thrill left. Do you find that woman who don't present a challenge interesting or do you simply overlook them ?

On 2015-10-08 02:02:36 CozyHaven said:
Financial Slavery is purely for those that have a fetish to be financially enslaved. You have a strong fetish to be objectified and a strong desire to please. You like to be humiliated and enjoy being degraded, being used as a living wallet who satisfies a superior woman's needs.

Hang on, that sounds like my previous marriage !!! except for the enjoyment and desire.

@deamonza, I get on well with dominant woman and don't seem to see them as a threat or a challenge. In the sexual arena I have played the submissive roll and can say that it is definitely not a turn-on for me.

With regards to woman who don't present a sexual challenge, I normally get on very well with and have no ambition to get into their pants no matter how hot she may be. I enjoy working with woman and as long as that sexual conqueror urge doesn't come up, we make a stunning team.

Seeking to conquer I definitely do and not just in a sexual way but in life and business as well.

Interesting... I find most of it quite interesting from an outside perspective, For the most part I am also quite willing to try new things up to a point, anytime pain or degradation gets involved I am just completely turned off.

I understand completely from a rational point of view that it is consensual and it isn't a derogatory or abusive act, I also understand completely that there is nothing immoral in it. I just can't go to that level, my body simply refuses even though I am intellectually engaged.

I know of ay least 2x punters who were financially enslaved at some point by sp's the effects in their lives were catastrophic to say the least...soul destroying