I would love some insight into this as everyone has different tastes, needs and desires.

What is it that makes you decide, "this one I want to visit over and over"?

From most to least important

1.Pricing
2.Appearance/Hygiene
3.Location

4. Services

The sensual is the most important thing for me. There are only 2 therapist I've been back to multiple times and both were extremely sensual in the way they would kiss my neck and body or moan while they were sliding there body against mine.

They would even grind on my leg or my back to the point that they would orgasim as well. All this is what made me keep coming back because I would leave that room feeling like that was literally out of this world, I need more.

Most therapist just do the message then give you a hand job while standing there and waiting until your done. Yes they let you touch them but it just feels like a job for them not an experience. I hope this helped

I find this very interesting because I have different criteria depending on what service is on offer.

However, what they both share is before I even make contact I will look at this website, forum and reviews. Too many bad reviews or negative experiences means it is a red flag. If the profile is too new or has not been active in years, it is a red flag. If I know a punter who has provided a review or comment then I will ask them for any extra info, then make contact. I don't like calling or sending an email. I prefer to text.

I look for 6 things in total: location, hygiene, appearance, professionalism/vibe, price and quality of service. I'll try to answer in detail below keeping in mind that I want to see this person many times., not just once.

With massage therapists I look for the following:

1) Location: If the location is in an area I don't like, I will simply not go there even if I have been to the masseuse before. There is no need to face risks in an unsafe area. As we are all South Africans, I think that we understand this without the need for further elaboration.

2) Quality of service and hygiene: If a type of massage is offered and I request it, that should be what I get. For example, it is poor conduct to offer a nuru massage but not have any gel without telling me beforehand. If a sensual massage is too robotic, that is also a downer. At the same time, if its only a massage on offer then I expect a good massage that can be customised in terms of things like pressure, where not to touch etc. Hygiene plays a role in this too because in my view you can't have a good massage from someone who smells bad.

3) Professionalism/Vibe: Related to quality of the massage but if the therapist seems drunk or drugged up, it is unlikely that the massage will be very enjoyable for me. I like clear communication too, and because I am a talker I like someone who is open to conversation.

4) Price: This is never an issue for me unless extras are offered on the spot. I don't like trying to negotiate for things that are not offered, but I would like to hear what is available beforehand.

5) Appearance: With massages I think this is the least important thing. It doesn't really matter if the masseuse is not "my type" because a good massage is a good massage.


For FH I look for the following:

1) Location & hygiene: Location is the same reason as mentioned above. With hygiene...if bareback is even hinted at then I'm not going. Again, this is South Africa. Anyone offering bareback is either infected, an addict, or both. If none of these, I just can't trust them. This is where location is helpful because if you're going to a nicer area then bareback isn't offered. OWO it depends, honestly. I've tried it and not had any issues but I would rather just not get any oral.

2) Appearance: This time it's more important because if its not somebody I am attracted to then I might as well just watch porn.

3) Professionalism/Vibe: Tell me what is allowed and what is not. We don't need to become best friends but as long as I feel some kind of connection.

4) Price: Well, you know, I'm not going to break the bank but I'm not looking for a hundred-rand-house either. A common-sense approach to price goes a long way and if you're a punter from Durban you have to keep in mind that girls from other places sometimes have a negative impression of Durban guys that is entirely justified.

5) Quality of service: This one isn't really important here. If I get a feeling that the quality isn't going to be that great then I prefer just to do doggy and treat it as a workout.

So yeah basically these are my criteria for repeat visits. I understand that we all have different preferences and needs. If I've been to someone before then I hope that they are understanding. Nine out of ten times I am going to go for a repeat because I rarely have issues. I can think of only two times where I wasn't interested in a return and if I send a message after saying hey thanks for the time etc that means I am definitely going to see you again but I can't say exactly when.

I think that at all times its best to be respectful even when we're just looking around. For example, there is a WG here who I really wanted to see but I sent her a message at 3am. I sent her a message again later being like hey what's up but that upset her because she thought that I was a time waster. In reality I was in a different time-zone and forgot to check what time it was in SA. So even though the reviews and other punter opinions checked out, our vibes were just off so its better for me to just respect that and find someone else instead of going onto her profile and trashing her.