I can't help but feel that there is many people out there that feel lonely at times. Divorced people who simply cannot get a decent woman / man. Have a look on tinder and it's mostly just gold diggers or not what you looking for. Yes we can put and pay to have sex, but after the fact , one goes home to yourself again. Who here are lonely and what is the solution to finding that person again?

You are right.

All thanks to social media platforms and virtual "relationships ", unrealistic expectations and "old values" being outdated and scoffed at and mocked by the internet surfers buying into the photoshopped perfection of an unrealistic life.

Language , expression and behaviour very robotic, superficial, judgemental and self centered, putting one on one's backfoot and not very keen to put oneself out there .


Dating sites in my opinion are either one night stands or a speed dating thing looking for a husband / wife . No investment in time or will to court and get to know each other.
All smiles and being on ones best behaviour hoping to bag the "prize" without much of personal investment or exposure.


As to bedding a lady in the adult world and then going home and feeling even more alone and lonely...sex can be empty when looked at as a "fix" rather than a share and indulgence for the pleasure of intimacies agreed upon and enjoyed for that escape or relief from a hard day or week or....

Where does one find like minded people to connect with?

A difficult one but, considering there are many who feel the same way one would imagine it should be easier than the reality that many single people are going through.

The advise would be book clubs and sport and hobbies and and and....finding oneself and mixing with others without doing so looking for "love" or that next one.

Easier said than done and does take a leap of faith to put oneself out there and try.

How to begin...well the first thing is not to imagine sex with an SP will make one feel any better.
Plus what if an SP ticks all the right boxes as to being "the right one"?...would you believe such a thing possible and give the two of you a chance? Romance her?...

Second...how invested is one in oneself to let go and let things happen the way they should. Who knows...maybe that next "right one" may be at a cash till and by simply sharing a bit of banter you may ask...

"Would you like to go for a cup of coffee....?"

Maybe she too, needed that little bit of sincerity and realness you too, are looking for.

The point being, the world is a hard place, fast paced, impatient, demanding, expectant, pressured....that taking a step back and a breather to "recalibrate" feels as if one is missing out and is left behind because everybody else seems to be in a better place.

Not really. Even those in relationships may be feeling exactly the same way as you, alone and lonely..and THAT to me is tragic and sad.

Good luck and don't give up.

Allow yourself the freedom of being you and open to whatever may come your way without looking for the "right one ".

The universe knows to wave its magic wand at the most unexpected of times.

RB.

Not just divorced people what about people who come out of almost marriages where for some reason things went sour and both parties had to leave the relationship to maintain their sanity. Or even people of opposite sex or same sex who've had a relationship for more than 5 years. The loneliness and physical aspect of that relationship cannot be under estimated and without it so begins the turbulent need for companionship and sometimes the physical aspect.