I'm not one to talk openly about my life but since this is done anonymously and I will most probably delete this account immediately after this so let me just say this.
I drive a not so cheap car(not to say expensive),live alone in an upmarket appartement which is paid for till 2019(I'm not from SA so don't really wanna buy a house which I could if I wanted to), and then I get +/- R50k/month off tax just for breathing(not working).
A young(26 old),handsome and very generous black male with a bright future in front of him,no kids and single.
I believe in God and I'm so so grateful for what he has given me,I know that there are a few(1%) that has far more than what I have but I also know that there are a thousand(99%) others that are dying out of cold and hunger so I'm really really grateful and I engage in charity work whenever I can.
Now that you all have an idea of what kind of person I am let get to the real reason of my post,punting.
I get bored so easily,I mean really really easily,I'm an introvert so don't really like going out a lot,the only things that seem to distract me are movies(good movies),travelling and SEX and now I've realised that I've been to much into punting,I know I could get any young woman I want but the headaches just make me run and run fast but punting is just so easy so effortless,I mean spending quality time with a beauty with brain without the hassle is just...
Anyway what can one do to quit this?

Just quit punting ... it's a choice only you can make by yourself !!!

That is a sad reality for many! If you don't search for a partner, you'll never know the beautiful agony of love and what makes it so worth the headaches you refer to!

In a world of instant gratification, you are screwed if you don't make the effort to leave this world and stop turning to it for an instant emotional and physical crutch!

You probably are already feeling the emptiness of it all and the lack of human fulfillment you don't get from truly connecting with another human being other then paying for their affection. I'm afraid the only way out is to find that person whom will fulfill all your needs and you won't get that without headaches or the effort of getting yourself out there to meet various people.

The headaches are a part of relating to other people, good or bad, you can't have everything perfect all the time! It will cripple and stunt you as a functional member of the human race to carry on with the effortless way of life you hold so dear!

This is an addiction not easy to break. You have to make effort! There's no instant magic solution that doesn't involve the headaches you fear so much!

So many people live shallow, easy existences and can never understand what they are yearning for because it lies deeper then money, looks and proffesion.

Great advice Miss V ... he must just make that choice now.

So how about... stop splurging... get a "on the side" cheap ass car, no fancy clothes, hang out where grounded people hang out... meet REAL people... perhaps get to KNOW girls who dont chase money and cause headaches... then just maybe you will see things you have never noticed.... and you will most probebly find that not all women are so "easy" ... and the nice ones who are real will make your life less borring...

And yes... stop punting!!

On 2017-06-08 15:52:35 BOOBS53 said:
Great advice Miss V ... he must just make that choice now.

This addiction is like any other! No effort and no conviction means no escape....life was not meant to be easy!

Thank you Ms VF for your wise words,to some it sounds ridiculous and as easy as 123 to quit but it's really not!The last 2 girls I dated (in a year and wasn't/stopped punting during that time),the 1st complained about me giving her too much gifts so it ended up being a source of problems(again some will say just stop giving!unfortunately for me I don't know how to do that),then the second complained about me being too quiet(I don't talk much) so since then I've decided to put an hold to the relationship thing but I do want a kid tho(a little girl lol) but don't seem to find the right person so I'm thinking of surrogacy(crazy I know).
But yeah you're quite right and yes I'm already feeling the emptiness hence why my struggle.
I really wish I could come talk with you coz I do follow you and could say I'm almost always inspired by your words but the anonymity thing...

@Kristy thank you,that's also another way and I guess I just have to keep trying until it works out!
But I'll quit after visiting you lol!

@BOOBS53 many thanks for your very insightful input.
Stop punting!

On 2017-06-08 15:26:20 BOOBS53 said:
Just quit punting ... it's a choice only you can make by yourself !!!

Quit while you can. It can become a very exspensivevand time consuming hobby.

Find a girlfriend, marry have kids and teach them to also stay away from punting.