Is a healthy relationship with pornography possible?

I receive pornography and requests for pornography on a daily basis and recently had a personal epiphany with regards to this as it always makes me feel uncomfortable despite not being inhibited or frigid sexually. I thought as an adult in the sex industry I could/should be ok with it, but the other day I got extremely offended and upset when a potential client sent me a pornographic picture of a man receiving oral sex from a pretty blond girl, nothing hardcore or over the top. I went into a depression and for the first time, was able to be honest with myself as to why I have always felt this way.

My first exposure to pornography was always in the company of men that sexually abused me from the age of 3 throughout my childhood and adolescent years, so I equate porn fans/viewers as perverts and men with sexually unhealthy habits that demean and objectify women as something to be used and discarded like a sperm receptacle. I know logically, that it isn't only perverts or abusive men that indulge in viewing porn, but it still makes me wonder what goes on in a mans subconscious mind that he doesn't show the world. One ex boyfriend even admitted to being turned on watching rape scenes in a movie called 'I spit on your grave' and it made me wonder how well we really know men and what is the freely available hardcore porn doing to men, boys and children on a deeper darker level.

On the rare occasion I've come across erotic and lesbian porn that has felt different, somewhat liberating, but its extremely rare.

While I do not deny feeling physically aroused watching porn, my emotional reaction is disgust in myself and feeling like a hypocrite. But where this epiphany became relevant ,in being an abuse victim from an age where I didn't know what was happening, I recall feeling aroused and never told anyone because the feeling was pleasurable and that meant it was my fault despite the feeling that what was happening was wrong.

Porn equates to sexual abuse of the mind!

Its really sad what sick people we have in this world that can just take a childhood away like that. Children are supposed to have such good childhood memories that should last them a lifetime. But unfortunately there are people out there that don't care and just think about themselves. Many times my kids want to go sleep over by a friend or even go out till late. You never know what can happen, but aslong as i can i shall do my best to protect them.
Im so sorry to hear about what happened to you vf.

Vee. What happened to you is the worst most terrible thing that can happen to a child. Your aversion to porn is completely understandable and justified. Anyone who sends You porn after reading this is sick in the head and You should should stay well away from them.
You just have to look at this forum to see how porn perverts sexuality. A while back some guy was looking for an incest experience because he had see it in porn. INCEST!! WHAT THE FUCK!!! The ladies should get together and use the private forum to cock block fuckers like this.

As much as I despise bullies and abusers unfortunately the porn industry does lend itself to displaying a lot of bad shit!

Instead of being a fantasy it can be turned into reality by some sick fucks, a very dangerous line to tread on.

Miss V I won't send you anymore more pics of my fruitsalad, lol

Ms V I really relate to your approach on porn. What a terrible experience u had. Sorry, hope the sick f*&54s get what is due to them. To me porn is an utter turn off. In the 70's it was still banned here and my curiosity was satisfied by very bad quality betamax /VHS tapes of porn movies (Debbie Does Dallas)... then already it was a turn off and did not even stimulate my fantasies. I love fantasies which lead to a truly fulfilling erotic conclusion. One should nt have to feel unfulfilled after a wonderful lovemaking session where respect and honour is evident. One of the biggest turnoffs to me when visiting a WG is seeing a TV in the background with porn videos playing.

Dunno why guys just have to send porn vids and pics of their dicks to WGs.

I will readily admit I watch porn, mainly lesbian pornos when I realy need to spank the little fella at times when my punting budget is up and credit cards maxed out. But after eruption I switch off the porn. I dont watch violent porn nor disgusting porn becoz that turns me off. Although Im addicted to punani Im not addicted to porn at all.

@Miss Vee 😙😙😙 💞 💐💐💐 💕💕

@Vee, your post made me think and brought up a childhood memory which I've never given any thought up to reading your post. With my first intro to porn I was way too young, probably 5 or 6, some older guys found a video and thought it would be funny to see me and my friends' reaction. I still remember the name of the movie. It was called Madame Blue. Obviously I had an idea what we were going to watch, but I just imagined naked bodies rolling over each other, lots of kissing and of course sex, but sex like in an 18 rated movie, I didn't expect to see genitals. When it came on, I was quite shocked and uncomfortable, and instantly knew this isn't something I should be watching, but didn't want to show my friends ( as young as we were) that I wasn't "game". I never imagined an up close shot of a penis going in and out of a vagina enlarged on a TV screen. I didn't even know what a vagina looked like and didn't know sex was so graphic. These days I watch porn maybe once or twice a year (if that much), I am honestly not into it and I've never spent a cent on any of it, except for the ESA videos that I paid for and streamed, of which the attraction was that you could actually go book those ladies.

Kids should not be exposed to porn at such a young age. Sorry to hear about your childhood Vee, and thanks for being brave to share.

V, there is nothing I can add to what other have said regarding the appalling nature of your experience. Truly awful but I will try to answer your question from my perspective.

Given an unabusive upbringing where one is taught respect and consideration towards others, male or female, I think the answer is yes, one can healthy relationship with pornography.

Personally speaking I am a bit of an adventurous soul and enjoy trying something new and pushing my boundaries. On occasion my own somewhat fertile imagination can fail me and when this happens porn helps with an “OMG I have to try THAT” kind of moment.

I think another issue comes from the furtive manner in which people relate to porn. The majority of porn is, I believe, watched in isolation and being a fan of one or more genres is typically hidden from all because of the fear that they will think it unpleasant, taboo or simply revolting.

It is not something to be brought up during the parent teachers meeting at school, at church or in most company but it is far more healthy where both parties in a relationship know and understand the reasons their partner watches porn.

My wife watches with me and sometimes on her and even recommends a scene that she believes I will enjoy. It is not an everyday occurrence or even a monthly one but it not unknown.

So yes I believe is possible for one to have a healthy relationship with pornography. As long as one is not consumed with guilt, does not have unpleasant triggering type experiences arising from past experiences or allows it to consume far too much time that could be spent more productively.

Ms. Veronica

On reading your post a few days ago, my first reaction was shock. Then discomfort.

The rape and theft of the innocence of a child. Even now, i hope to not dishonour the power of the message in your post.

My words sound stupid

But

I bow to THE POWER OF YOU.

Your courage to disclose surpasses many a brave act.

Kind hearts and a protective hand be your Guardian Angel.

Bridgitte.