The way you phrase your greeting to somebody says a lot about you. "Good day/morning/evening" etc is wonderful. "Hi" is very acceptable. But "Hey" or "Hey you" sets the tone for somebody who already treats you disrespectfully. As I cherish myself and respect myself, please note that messages addressing me as such, will be blatantly ignored. Kisses, Mynx

Amazing!!! The grandure of stupidity has no bounds - especially when a doze of arrogance is added into the mix

I feel the same Mynx. If someone can't even greet you properly then I don't reply. "Hi" is not a message, and I ignore it. Men who are interested call to get info.

The problem with putting words on paper is that the tone disapears.
Don't think "hey you" is as disrespectful when spoken.

Can't agree more. Every now and again I go against my own little rules and regulations. In cases where I've responded to those one word messages, via sms, pm, twitter, whatsapp, email, its never amounted to a booking or anyone I wanted to do a booking with. It has almost always been a precursor to a request for pics or 'I thought you're in Durban' or 'I want to get to know you better' or 'I just wanted to chat'.

Hahahaha Nadia, that is so true!!

Hey Mynx. Whenever I encounter a WG that is so uptight that even the way you greet her is judged so harshly I can't help but think that she has completely lost sight of the fact that she participates in a SERVICE industry and that she is the service PROVIDER. I am glad I have found a lady who is chill, accommodating and non judgmental, but if I hadn't, this nugget of information about you would instantly disqualify you from my attention. No great loss to you I am sure but there you have it, hey?

Good day Mynx, I believe it is said "Manners maketh the man"

...and as for a service provider I believe Churchill once said, treat every cleaning lady like a princess and every princess like a cleaning lady....

It is no skin of my back to be polite and respectful....if someone cannot appreciate that I move along in a graceful manner...

@Oraljim - sometimes if you disagree just keep quiet and move along....I do not recall Mynx being uptight....in fact far from that....such a pity I only managed to see her once.

Found this nugget online:

Good manners cost nothing. But acts of chivalry, however small, too often lead to embarrassment in this ungallant age. A man who offers to carry a woman’s shopping is likely to be treated with suspicion, a survey reports. Women would rather stand than take a seat occupied by a man. And who now would accept a strange gentleman’s handkerchief without first making sure she had her anti-bacterial gel to hand? Suspicion among women in turn breeds fear in men: if a chap has been made to feel a twit for leaping out of his seat on a bus he won’t offer again, even if faced with a wheezing octogenarian carrying four bags of shopping. But this timidity will not do. The medieval knights who bequeathed us their code saw it as their duty to display respect for women at all times, and so should modern men – even if the looks they receive are withering.

@jasimo Using "hey" as a greeting has nothing to do with either manners or chivalry. It can be said in a very affectionate way, or meant that way when typed.

And if it's all the same to you I will respond, in whatever manner I choose, to whatever threads I choose, and need no guidance from you or anyone, but thank you for your advice.

Stating that something as simple as a common greeting implies any form of "disrespect" is, in most people's books, a little bit uptight so I stand by what I say. It was based on her forum post not on visiting her so your perspective is naturally very different.

I am chivalrous, polite and a gentleman, as any who know me will tell you (I can also be crass at times as those same people will also tell you). I need no lessons from you on how to act and certainly none on how to treat a lady.

Jasimo, sir, you are a man of admirable good sense, which, I fear is thrown away and sadly lost on this uncouth rabble.

It begins in the cradle.

If children imbibe the good manners taught them by their parents, they will have no reason to complain about their lot in life.
It is an ample dowry which they will bequeath to future generations, and a true measure of their parents' worth.