A lot of punter's I'm sure, including me, often go through punter's remorse. I more often than not after a bad punt feel that this was the last, never again. At least we can stop if we had the will power and we physically leave the space where we had a negative experience and dont have to return there.

I wonder how wg's feel after an unpleasant encounter. If it's that bad for us, and we do it for a hobby, I can't imagine how it must be if you have no choice but to continue, and you work from the same place, so whatever negative experience you had you stay in that space, some even sleep on the same bed where they work from. I'm sure just doing this for a living must already bring with it it's own psychological issues and feelings of regret and guilt for some if not most girls, but having unpleasant experiences on top of that must make things all the more harder.

How do you girls deal with a bad punt (unhygienic, rude punters, etc) , do you just brush it off and move on to the next one, do you tell yourself to just focus on the money, do you take the day off, do you go get drunk (or high)? How do you cope? Does it become easier with time or maybe you find that after years of being in the game your tolerance for these kinds of things are really getting low and you are having more thoughts of throwing in the towel?

A wg once told me she has the easiest job in the world - she makes lots of money, can sleep late and work any hours that she feels, etc. I looked at her and I said I don't agree, it's the hardest job. You don't know who is going to walk through your door and how they will treat you, society judges you and you have to hide what you do from family and friends, leading a double life, it can't be easy. She sadly agreed with me. That is why the least us guys can do is to treat these ladies with respect, not judge (we don't know their story) and have some empathy for what they no doubt have to endure from time to time.

Rule no 1: Sex is just that. I don't attach emotions to it.
Bad punts, nothing a good cupcake or 24, and a pair of shoes can't fix. Some times I switch off my phone and do something that makes me happy.
I still work and live in the same flat where a punter stabbed me. I hate the scar but I moved on. Every month, year in this business builds a layer of resilience. Emotionally I'm stronger than I was last year and the year before :)

As Naledi says. This is just business. A means to earn an income. Since my biological family can be counted on one hand only and two of them live in another province I really do not worry who will find out what I do for a living. The difficult part is that this industry takes up all your time either seeing clients or waiting for calls and so no time to visit friends. Still I am stronger than I have ever been and well able to stand my ground.

Agree with longjon about at least respecting wg. Thanks for feedback naledi,michelle u guys gave me extra perspective to look at. Also remember with all bad must come some gud for punter or wg like when that certain punters very respectful,does some small extra thing to make u special a favourite chocalte,ice cream,bottle of champagne etc. Same goes for wg.

Longjon, We all handle our bad days in different ways.I NEED TO gym to get switched off everyday. I also put my phone aside when i had a bad punt or after one client get a little to hard(to big) on me it puts me back 3 days to recover. I can count on 1 hand when ive been treated like shit, but thats on out bookings where the clients gets drunk and think youre a peace off meat and you only there to do youre job.(we weren't even offered some food after 12+- hours off play). But ja it isnt easy, the longer you stay in this game the more you need to work youre ass off to get everything paid. There will always be something(one last thing before you stop this industry) and then something goes wrong and you back at square one where you start. I think or feel im never getting out. Haha who knows, perhaps one day ill meet a gentleman who could get me out off this, But for now i study and hope i qualify, in doing what i really love.

I have remorse in the sense that I have become very cynical and don't trust people.....to a fault in fact. I developed a drinking problem while in this game although not because of this game. I overcame that partly because of this site and a very jaded reason (I didn't want bad reviews and comments about me reeking of booze) and partly cos a bereaved friend needed a sober support system.
But I have learnt a helluva lot in this game. My gut instinct or 6th sense has become finely honed. My ability to smell BS.....SO accurate, its scary. I have never experienced any physical danger in this business but more than my share of BS. This is in a way both good and bad. I'm an excellent BS sniffer. But with that one's ability to smell the good gets obscured. That's the remorse I feel. I often cannot smell the roses but I can smell the compost.
Like the other ladies reported I also have a panacea for that bad days/ experiences...my piano keyboard. When I sit down with my headphones and tickle the keys I'm in my own little heaven. Or I fetch my friend's 6 year old and we go walking around the mall and have lunch and I watch him play.....just sit there and watch him play in the Spur kiddies area.

Nadia i think at the end off the day we all going to have something negative regarding what we do now in the long run. I know my addiction...just hope ill find someone who can handle me after all this. F#### it seems like a lonely life at the end of the day.

Thankfully I have not experienced anything bad but I can imagine what terrible stories some girls would tell.
I strongly believe in treating everyone with love and respect as one does not know what internal battles they are fighting.
So I try to make the time I spend with someone the best I can so that for that brief moment they can forget about their problems as I will forget about mine.

So sad to read some of the stories. Yes we have good day's and then we have a cloudy day! When that cloudy day is overwhelming I think of all the gentleman that have been wonderful plus then how lucky I am to be able to buy a pretty outfit. Most important thing is being able to go to the park with my two 4 legged best friends. Watch them play In the park and enjoy the freedom.
The cloudy day does move on and we do smile again.
Luv
Tammar and Nikita

It's a very hard game made worst by insecure self centered punters who " buy" their power trips ....
I've had a few bad punts but the great majority have been good to excellent and I think it's to do with the fact that I treat WG like I treat all - with dignity and respect regardless of how I'm treated .... Always maintain your dignity even if others have none