I am a bit baffled as most guys cry to pay a 10% deposit when booking ahead of time.

I had a guy opt to pay a 50% deposit as apposed to my 10% asking fee, for a booking today at 12:45.

He contacted me yesterday to confirm for today everything was in order.

Well 12:45 has come and gone and I am sitting with a 50% deposit for a two hour booking but no client.

I hope he is ok and he had a safe flight to SA.

Sir if you do read this please get in touch to reschedule before I leave CT.

Please and Thank you.

I had a pre booked appointment for friday afternoon he booked early in the week already through pm and confirmed with a whatsap call.

He did not pitch. A call from me went unanswered,the whatsaps has not been delivered and the pm is still unread.

Dont for the life of me understand why i decided to not ask for a deposit when the appointment was made but it is what it is.

I got lucky and managed to get hold of someone that I had to decline earlier because time slot he wanted would have overlaped with this pre booked slot. As a result my time ended up not being a total loss between the 20% deposit and the "replacement" i managed to accomodate on short notice, i made the same money as i would have if he did pitch.

Still would like to here from him just to understand what happened and to know he is okay.

Two weekends ago had a prebooked and 20% deposited appointment that did not happen due to client having a hangover;) He forfeited that deposit as he did not let me know until I got hold of him and by then it was too late to try and fill that slot.

Last week he booked again and deposited the full session fee by own choice. This time he pitched up on saturday only to be hungover again ;), he opted for a different service instead of the service he booked. I offered partial refund, he declined as he understood that time was blocked out for him and i could not fill the slot then.


At the end of the day we win some and we loose some. And aslong as we keep our mindsets positive no matter what happens we will end up being just fine. ;)

I think this is an awesome thread and might give punters a slight insight into the business of SP 's and how they go about managing many a challenge to their right to earn without being accused of being a scammer , disrespected and played for a fool or thought of as nothing more than a desperate junkie who knows nothing about anything .

There are scammers on both sides of the fence and of late it seems punters are beginning to outnumber the SP's with their disrespect, scammi g and scheming or understanding the ripple effect of their blaze attitude when it comes to not honoring their side of an "agreement ".

Deposits are good and have place in the scheme of things in the land of fuckery....and thank you to those gents who understand when it is asked for, why it is asked for and make no fuss to secure that appointment .


Not all SP's are scammers as not all punters are disrespectful of a woman in the business of intimacies agreed upon and shared between the two.

RB.

On 2024-05-12 14:16:41 Miss Red ( Aka Louise ) said:
I had a pre booked appointment for friday afternoon he booked early in the week already through pm and confirmed with a whatsap call.

He did not pitch. A call from me went unanswered,the whatsaps has not been delivered and the pm is still unread.

Dont for the life of me understand why i decided to not ask for a deposit when the appointment was made but it is what it is.

I got lucky and managed to get hold of someone that I had to decline earlier because time slot he wanted would have overlaped with this pre booked slot. As a result my time ended up not being a total loss between the 20% deposit and the "replacement" i managed to accomodate on short notice, i made the same money as i would have if he did pitch.

Still would like to here from him just to understand what happened and to know he is okay.

Two weekends ago had a prebooked and 20% deposited appointment that did not happen due to client having a hangover;) He forfeited that deposit as he did not let me know until I got hold of him and by then it was too late to try and fill that slot.

Last week he booked again and deposited the full session fee by own choice. This time he pitched up on saturday only to be hungover again ;), he opted for a different service instead of the service he booked. I offered partial refund, he declined as he understood that time was blocked out for him and i could not fill the slot then.


At the end of the day we win some and we loose some. And aslong as we keep our mindsets positive no matter what happens we will end up being just fine. ;)

I just find it strange that someone would pay a 50% deposit for a two hour slot and confirm and not pitch I messaged the man to find out if he was ok till date he has not been online.

While this could be a win for me in this instance I can't help but worry if he is ok. I will count it as a blessing though and I will just hope that he is ok.

On 2024-05-12 16:01:50 Russian Bridgitte said:
I think this is an awesome thread and might give punters a slight insight into the business of SP 's and how they go about managing many a challenge to their right to earn without being accused of being a scammer , disrespected and played for a fool or thought of as nothing more than a desperate junkie who knows nothing about anything .

There are scammers on both sides of the fence and of late it seems punters are beginning to outnumber the SP's with their disrespect, scammi g and scheming or understanding the ripple effect of their blaze attitude when it comes to not honoring their side of an "agreement ".

Deposits are good and have place in the scheme of things in the land of fuckery....and thank you to those gents who understand when it is asked for, why it is asked for and make no fuss to secure that appointment .


Not all SP's are scammers as not all punters are disrespectful of a woman in the business of intimacies agreed upon and shared between the two.

RB.

It is so important to know and acknowledge that the good the bad and the ugly are found on both sides of scale. People are so focused on the negative most of the time they seldom acknowledge Possible.

At some point both sides have been burned when it comes to deposits, or the change in mindset around them.

While I understand why some ladies request deposits, I won't go through on a booking that is adamant it's a deal breaker. I will accept and understand the SP's right to request it, and then politely decline and exercise my free right to not book. No hard feelings whatsoever.

My latest example from just the other day....

I book with a provider who I have been to before a few months ago. (No deposit required for the previous booking). Make the new booking a week in advance and say I'll communicate closer to the time to make sure her schedule doesn't change, which I do. On the morning of the booking I get a request for deposit first. I explain that I've already drawn the money, but also that I'm not happy with deposits and I'll understand if she'd prefer to cancel. She jokes and says no it's fine but bring a 6-pack of something.

So, I arrive on time, 3 grand in hand, and she's not even there. I text and get ignored for half an hour. She finally texts back and says she's 5 minutes away I must go buy tequila. Another half hour and she's still not there. Well, I wait a bit longer and then at an hour and a half after our set time I text that I really need to leave.

Well, 2 hours after I get frantic voice notes saying she's there, shortly followed by all kinds of abuse and threats of wanting a cancellation fee. Yeah that's not going to happen. And I won't return...

I'm always on time for bookings and respectful, and will happily pay the booking fee in full if the day ever comes that I don't make it. But there will be no deposit, regardless of payment method etc.

That's why nowadays I do more shorter notice bookings. Less deposit requests.

On 2024-05-15 00:05:32 The_Unicorn_Chaser said:
At some point both sides have been burned when it comes to deposits, or the change in mindset around them.

While I understand why some ladies request deposits, I won't go through on a booking that is adamant it's a deal breaker. I will accept and understand the SP's right to request it, and then politely decline and exercise my free right to not book. No hard feelings whatsoever.

My latest example from just the other day....

I book with a provider who I have been to before a few months ago. (No deposit required for the previous booking). Make the new booking a week in advance and say I'll communicate closer to the time to make sure her schedule doesn't change, which I do. On the morning of the booking I get a request for deposit first. I explain that I've already drawn the money, but also that I'm not happy with deposits and I'll understand if she'd prefer to cancel. She jokes and says no it's fine but bring a 6-pack of something.

So, I arrive on time, 3 grand in hand, and she's not even there. I text and get ignored for half an hour. She finally texts back and says she's 5 minutes away I must go buy tequila. Another half hour and she's still not there. Well, I wait a bit longer and then at an hour and a half after our set time I text that I really need to leave.

Well, 2 hours after I get frantic voice notes saying she's there, shortly followed by all kinds of abuse and threats of wanting a cancellation fee. Yeah that's not going to happen. And I won't return...

I'm always on time for bookings and respectful, and will happily pay the booking fee in full if the day ever comes that I don't make it. But there will be no deposit, regardless of payment method etc.

That's why nowadays I do more shorter notice bookings. Less deposit requests.

Please go do yourself a favor and read my last review by a new client who paid ahead of time for a retainer deal to lady he has never been with.

Furthermore those who book and pay for my reservation are people who actually have the intention of honouring appointments. Those deposits secure their session you can opt not to pay a deposit but in which case your appointment will not be secure I will treat it like a last minute booking and not a prearranged session. This is thank you to people who have no respect for our time as service providers or that of other clients who honour their appointments and arrive in a timely fashion. Including those who who think it's cool to cancel a booking as the booking is supposed to commence.

It will eventually come to a point where all the decent service providers running diaries will be doing just this this due to those who fuck it up for the good guys and will slowly start to find it more and more difficult to secure a appointment with certain lady's.

If you read my initial post had the guy not opted out of his own Accord to pay 50 for a two hour booking as apposed to the 10% asking fee then I would have run at a loss as I turned away two other clients for that spot because the man paid and he even confirmed and just never bothered to pitch knowing all well he confirmed the appointment and paid. Done you condone this behavior??? Why is it that the men seem to think we should excuse certain behavior from certain men but when it happens to us they expect us to accept it and just smile and wave. I know most men don't think much of us here on ESA because of the line of work we but this work does not excuse us from the same human rights available to them as paying clients. Is it fair to paint us all with the same brush absolutely not because we are not all cut from the same cloth. It's the same as not all men are assholes there are some real gems out there, they do exist so it wouldn't be fair or me to refer to all men as assholes correct?

While I am sorry for your experience but you need to learn to scrutinize profiles there are ladies such as Miss Red and RB and Myself but to mention just a few but there are lots more who has been around for a long time and has never Malpracticed or scammed anyone why should we suffer the same fate as those dishonest ones?

Here's some food for thought...

Dear Unicorn Chaser.. what happened to you is total shitty behavior on part of that SP.

I am sorry to say that about a fellow SP, but girl you need to do better. You are honestly going to ruin your own reputation with this kind of nonsense, somewhere, someday some guy is not gonna put up with it and leave nasty commemts on your profile that will be with in his right as this behaviour is not good.

In the end you will loose out on future appointmemts with decent guys that value their own time as much as you want yours to be valued.

If you aint 100% prepared to confirm a booking without a deposit you should have declined his booking request and let him find someone else to book.

Two you should have been where you where suppose to be when you was suppose to be there, Especially after you confirmed the second time when the cash that was already drawn discussion happend and you added a "shopping" request.

But may I say this @unicorn chaser.

Please stop enabling ladies to get away with this kind of behaviour.

Stop waiting around for them to show up or open up when you guys pitch on time.

A request to wait 5 min or even 10 miutes can be okay maybe, as maybe she cant find the gate remote or traffic was bad making getting to an agreed place on time difficult.

But waiting around a half hour or longer is just insane and a bit lame too.

There are literally 100s of other ladies that would have accepted a booking from you on short notice at that point if you just picked up your phone and called someone else.

There is no need for any guy to wait around a hour and a half past the set appointment time.

Stop doing it.

Only way some ladies will learn to respect punters time is if you guys start by respecting your own time.

Same goes for some ladies, stop waiting hours for guys that dont know how to be on time.

A little bit of respect and appreciation for the effort another person makes to be on time for an appointment or be ready for an appointment goes a long way to make future interactions even more pleasurable.

Update Finally the gentlemen contacted me yesterday when he saw my message saying are you ok. It turns out he went hiking the day before and broke his leg rather badly he needed a op.

My blessing I guess but under these circumstances :(

Unicorn it sounds like she made it to you eventually, just got tangled in life that wouldn't let go. At least give her credit for pitching up eventually.

One of my favorite persons was over an hour late on our first meet. Glad I waited for her. Today, she's like top of my list of people I'd want to spend time with.

And a bottle of tequila, I think she really was looking forward to being with you ...

Uncertainty probably drives us nuts. But honest can be equally painful. Not sure how you would handle it if she said "Babe I'm kinda broke this month, and I kinda need to take every opportunity that comes. Gonna fuck another guy quickly before coming to you, but please wait for me, I'll be their soon. Get a bottle tequila in the mean time"