I know this is one hell of a sensitive issue to discuss but please I'll appreciate all your input.

I have a cousin and very close , he is very promiscuous, in my books is a serial cheater, being very close to him that has lead to his wife being to me as well to such and extend she would tell me everything the husband is doing outside, the smses he received and the ones he sent..the WhatsApp messages.

Well I never said anything regarding whatever she tells and most cases I just listen to her, never offered an advice whatsoever to her.

Last year November she asked me to help her with something on her phone, I noticed this unnamed number in her inbox and I decided to open it....it read "my love I'm home now, I will call you later" cool I was shocked but I decided not to think about it too much.

Last week I went to see my cousin at his place and unfortunately while I was still there my phone fell and the screen got damaged, she offered to borrow me her other phone coz she's no longer using it so that I don't miss important calls.

Took the phone and after few minutes I left, got home and decided let me familiarise myself with this phone, call register I found tons of outgoing calls to the same number I discovered last year. I used truecaller and it gave me some male name and surname.

This has lead me to conclude that she's also cheating yet again still tells me how the husband is doing all the wrong stuff..

Now my question is should i ask her about the number, the message and call history or wait for her to tell me about the hubby and then talk about the above mentioned secrets.

Women are very intelligent beings and more so they have this way of letting a man eat right from the palm of their hands.

If you ask me she started cheating after she caught her hubby, she probably thinks nothing is wrong as he does it with multiple women and she is doing it with one guy.

She is probably telling you all of her hubby so if things do get serious with whomsoever she is busy with and shit hits the fan and she wants out she has you to testify to all that has been going on.

My advise with married couples don't get involved especially since she is not your relative and her hubby is. Or if u want u may ask her why is she doing what she is doing, you probably will get an answer like I didn't have anywhere to go or I did it because he didn't give me the attention I deserve etc.

Good luck buddy

Hi rual28

let me tell you one thing about women, before she do that she fought to her cheating hubby, complain about her hubby, talk about, report about but guess what nothing changed the situation, women we don't just wake up and then think or decide to cheat NO we go through a lot first before failing to get attention especially from partners we really go insane like really try to get attention in many ways, talking from experience,,,,,
my 2cent advice is just turn blind eyes continuer using the handset.

@Mohamed187 and Poppy

I do get what the two of you are saying and believe you me I thought about it and decided to turn a blind eye on it and that of which I still do.

Here is what irritates the hell out of me, she keeps on telling me what the husband is doing and pretend as if she's all holy and not doing anything wrong. I really feel that she thinks I'm a fool or some sort of an emotional dumping bag...

I had a chat with my business partner about this issue and told him what frustrates the most and he said " given the nature of the things she tells me and the manner in which she goes into details she might be hinting on something." I refuse to believe that, I can pick up on such hints very quickly but in her case I haven't noticed anything suggesting some advancements..not unless I'm slow and not just slow, very slow

My best advice would be just to stay far away from this escalating problem. And if she wants to discuss it, tell her to discuss it with her husband.

Never get involved.

Keep your distance.

Remove yourself from the situation. It is guaranteed to bite you in the ass.

Regards

Take a step back and let them sort it out rather.

You don't want to be caught in the middle of this when the shit hits the fan.

Just take a step back and let this scenario work itself out ( hopefully they both stop seeing their stukkie on the side ) and choose to be with one another. ( wishful thinking, but not impossible )

[QUOTE;774611;I never learn] My best advice would be just to stay far away from this escalating problem. And if she wants to discuss it, tell her to discuss it with her husband.

Never get involved.

Keep your distance.

Remove yourself from the situation. It is guaranteed to bite you in the ass.

Regards

How do I keep my distance?

Stop visiting may be? Well I tried that and my cousin picked it up and asked why a sudden change.

All I want is her to stop telling me all this things and do her thing... it's not like I do give a thing about she does, NO.

@lookingforfun29

I don't foresee a stage where my cousin would stop cheating and the sad part is when ever this women fall in love with him, he leaves them and start ignoring them...moves on to the next available victim

Raul

Family is family and everyone else is just a stranger.

Your cousin is close to you. She is aangenaaide family.

Blood trumps that.

Stay far away from this, the shit is bound to happen soon and you want to be far removed from it.

And if your cousin finds out that you knew about it, which will be the very first thing his wife tells him, the rest of the family will ostracise you. And for what ? Aangenaaide lappie ?

Easy choice here.

Regards

@ I never learn

I get all what you guys are saying and I've already reliazed that I need to be very very far from the situation as it is bound to get and that's the reason why I decided to seek an advice from this forum.

How do I stay away from all this? I really don't wana be part of it not even by chance