Seems like a mistress is harder work than a wife.
Interesting.
What is the allure?

If you think of the logistics and effort involved in keeping a mistress a secret from the wife and just about everyone else, never mind the financial implications, I fail to see the appeal in it all.
Much less complicated to visit a wg, if she's good and becomes your regular, all the better.

......May I play the devils advocate here and potentially stir a hornets nest....

This one is for my personal clarification.

Muffman69......does that not then make a wg/mg a cheaper version of a mistress?
Or are there other expectations and etc from a mistress relationship that warrant a higher price like a personal credit card, car, flat....

Bridgitte, a mistress is basically a second wife. Any reasonably intelligent wife/girlfriend would get suspicious if all of a sudden the man spends a lot more time "at work". Unless of course the man works away from home and only comes home on weekends, and even that isn't ideal.
To steal an hour or two occasionaly to spend with a wg is by far the better option methinks.

I loved,loved,loved being a mistress, it was filled with passion, get aways together ,expensive jewellery, and all things nice in life, unfortunately, it should have also been called 'mistrust.'.. Coz the trust issue always surfaced...lasted 3 yrs. Now I'm walking in the Kalahari Desert alone.I doubt I will ever look at a normal relationship the same after being a mistress/mistrust...would I do it again..?
In a heart beat,but this time with open eyes,and closed heart.!!!

I've also been mistress more often than I've been the main squeeze. It just suits me better. I have a commitment phobia as well as needing lots of personal space. And I'm really flawed when it comes to personal relationships. So being the mistress suited me then. Not quite sure how I feel about it now.

Then that means there is more to a mistress then just her perky breasts and p***y?
And the man potentially in love with her?
Damn! He better be considering the crap he has to go thru!!!!

I'm thinking now, mine just became simply exhausted.. Lol.with my appetite for sex and wifey, Yoh...shame... But it was good while it lasted..!

If the mistress is unattached, but the man is, then the man is at risk of losing all, but all the mistress stands to lose is the man, if things go sour. Of course the reverse is also true if the man is unattached, but the woman is. What's the male equivalent of mistress?

@Russian Bridgitte; Oh there is far more to a mistress than perky breasts and p***y. Its about a deeper connection. The perky breasts are certainly a bonus but after many years and many kids people drift apart and a guy needs some mental and emotional stimulation in a partner as well as more fire in sack.

A WG is great for a little fire in the sack but often lacks the mental and emotional stimulation either because the punter and WG are on different wave lengths or because the connection does not have time to develop. It certainly happens but is never a certainty.

Personally I enjoy female company and not only for a poke and some play but a mistress is not for me. I have a couple of colleagues with a mistress and the stress each of them faces is immense.

Advice for having a mistress having looked at my colleagues;

Don’t do it just because you can or to stroke your ego.

Don’t do it just to get extra sex.

Do it only if you know without a doubt that you can handle the family and kids finding out. Your wife may cause kak but the further fall out can be much worse.

Don’t be nasty to your wife, better leave than to transfer all of your positive energy to another and leaving your wife cold and alone at home.

Remember it is not too expensive to leave your wife. The costs of staying in a relationship when you shouldn’t are far greater. Money can be earned again, sanity is a far harder prospect.

Do not complain about your wife to your mistress. It’s not the mistress’ issue, it is yours. Enjoy the mistress for who she is and not simply because she is not your wife.

Looking after a mistress, caring for her requirements and buying gifts is all well and good but a constant overt requirement for gifts and a difference in behaviour if no gifts are given simply means you are paying. If you are going to pay then ESA is the place to do it.