On 2017-04-11 13:27:22 lookingforfun29 said:
Grant74,
My piece of advice would be to attend a social next time they have one. I am not a regular punter myself, and was quite worried about how I would be at the social, but trust me, it's a great oppurtunity to meet some of the ladies, and if you go alone, one may very well hook onto you and who knows what may happen.

We all have our doubts & insecurities about ourselves as do the ladies aswell. Best to have a shit,shave & shampoo before you go and 'wing it'

You haven't got anything to worry about. You really attractive.

On 2017-04-11 14:01:51 Meg said:


You haven't got anything to worry about. You really attractive.

Why thankyou Meg. Nou laat jy my maak bloos.

Grant, it's normal. Same with me. I made a rule for myself, once I've made an appointment, I stick to it and go through with it. That means I consider all the thoughts/doubts you mentioned before I pick up the phone. Then I either go ahead or try another day.

I used to be plagued by loads of self doubt. Used to care what other people thought about me or would think about me. I've never booked and ducked but a couple of years ago I was in your shoes, letting all sort of doubts shoot my punting opportunities to sh*t. I gathered some courage and attended my first social in December. Still wasn't sure if I'd fit in. By the time I started to relax that social was over. That day I made up my mind that I would not let that fear ever stop me from having a blast. At the recent social I had a blast, deliberately faced my fear by welcoming all to the social, kicked that doubt in the ass and had a jol. At the end of the day we are all just human beings and innkur ourple world there is no room to judge others....okay maybe a little....but not much.

Just amazing how supporting this community is, even if we're not commonly accepted by civilisation, the minority is not necessarily wrong, just not always socially correct

On 2017-04-11 19:58:21 dirk1977 said:
Just amazing how supporting this community is, even if we're not commonly accepted by civilisation, the minority is not necessarily wrong, just not always socially correct

Dirk what would you like us ladies to say?
No please don't go, don't f### up your marriage or relationship for a hour of playtime.
Rather go home and do the wife and play with the kids and be the man that faces his responsibilities?

I trust the bad to stay consistent in there behavior....then the good man that changes for the moment of weakness?
It doesn't matter how we or society see you(us)...or what's socially acceptable.... it's how YOU see YOURSELF when the deed is done and how you cope with yourself.
You go home and go on with your lives....
Tomorrow the need is bigger... the lust for something else is bigger....

Now is it wrong?
Yes it is....
You need to think if it's effecting your personal life.
That's your choice.
Ps: If you have a addictive personality and punting interferes with your personal life you have only yourself to blame.

We not going to say no thank you for putting food on our table.....

Rules are for wise men to guide them and fools to obey , socially acceptable is a farse and why care what society deems right or not let your morals guide you in life from right and wrong and if you have a addictive personality and your punting habits become an issue in your personal life that is something only the player will have to handle and live with !! But being single does unfuck allot of issues but it brings its own issues to the table also ! 6 of the one half dozen of the other ...... Play and have fun eventually you realize your chasing an unquenchable desire and dissapointments are more than highs !!

Every guy who has ever jumped this fence knows that you have thought about how k@k a punt was more often than not and that you could have jerked off and felt the same allot of times , but still that once in a while moment of bliss makes us what we are suckers and desperate horn dogs and suporters of single moms !!

On 2017-04-12 06:44:29 Loco said:
Rules are for wise men to guide them and fools to obey , socially acceptable is a farse and why care what society deems right or not let your morals guide you in life from right and wrong and if you have a addictive personality and your punting habits become an issue in your personal life that is something only the player will have to handle and live with !! But being single does unfuck allot of issues but it brings its own issues to the table also ! 6 of the one half dozen of the other ...... Play and have fun eventually you realize your chasing an unquenchable desire and dissapointments are more than highs !!

It's like a dark circle of life.... what you put in is what you'll get out of it at the end of the day.
For some it worked.
But for others....the lost was so much greater then that moment of pleasure.
One thing I've seen in this industry and in life....more men ending up with a divorce and loosing everything in the process because of there addictions.....
Hmm all I can say is... have a open mind and don't loose sight of what we offer....our time.

Your completely right in saying everyone makes their own decisions, and have to live with it.
It all depends what your moral code is, that you live live by, the way you treat others, and how you are perceived by others.
Meg, I really appreciate the girls, in some cases, more than woman I've know my whole life! It's the experiences troughout life that shapes character.
What i was trying to say in that this forum place where likewise individuals could express themselfs, without judgement.

On 2017-04-12 07:23:42 dirk1977 said:
Your completely right in saying everyone makes their own decisions, and have to live with it.
It all depends what your moral code is, that you live live by, the way you treat others, and how you are perceived by others.
Meg, I really appreciate the girls, in some cases, more than woman I've know my whole life! It's the experiences troughout life that shapes character.
What i was trying to say in that this forum place where likewise individuals could express themselfs, without judgement.

I agree...this is actually the only place where we can say what we feel...or atleast some of the thoughts that crosses our minds.
Good thing people aren't mind readers lol.
I'll get in a lot of trouble lol!
I'm still amazed by some people....tongindiekies.
Where in the world can you go and say what's on your mind without really being judged?
Only on the purple site.... where we all buy a fantasy;-)