On 2017-10-08 19:04:14 I never learn said:
Why don't we start a "Lonely Hearts Sunday Club" ?

We select a different venue each Sunday and whoever is feeling lonely can join in. No pressure, just like minded people spending a day with like minded people.

These venues should not be a restaurant, because that is a time sensitive place. Rather an open air market, for instance the Fourways Farmers Market opposite Monte Casino. Good food, good music, good company, fresh air.

Voila, problem solved.

Because the ONLY cure for loneliness is good company. No need to delve into the other dark options.

Just a random thought.

Cheers

I like the way you think mmmmmmm

@Ms Paige i saw what you've posted i reed it morethan 3 if not morethan that was really touched hey because at the end we human we miss that thingy the real love or company but at the very same time am not seeing myself in a relationship TJO I AM SO SCARED BAIE BANG,,,,,


@ I never learn
I support the thought dear.

I thought I was the only one who felt this lonely especially on Sundays..Great you brought up this topic Mia.

You not the only one Girl! I have the same principals and it does get to a person every now and then... hugs xxx

A while back a lady on this forum also hinted to loneliness when I visited her.
She has no family close by and no real friends, - I was told in the discussion we had.

I called her a few days later and asked if she wanted to go out for dinner and a movie on the Sunday evening as I was staying over in JHB. I also said, I will pay for dinner and the movie and i will also pay her Uber return. (I could not pick up as I was still with friends)

Her reply to me was , "that sounds fun sweety and my rate for a dinner and movie is R2500."

My reply, I am in JHB and last time you said you don't go out much, I am offering to take you for dinner and a movie and nothing extra,on a Sunday night when you are apparently quiet.

Sorry for the misunderstanding but I just thought I would be treating you , instead of you sitting alone at home. Like I said, I did not want something extra. It was just a random act of kindness.

Uber, dinner and movies would have been close to R2000 already. I understand if it is in her busy time and she lost out on clients, but she told me she did not see anyone yet that day/evening.

Sniper, you have just described me to the T! , nice to know I'm not alone.

Girls in this industry most work 7 days a week. Does not leave much time to go out and just do the normal living thing. Most girls family and friends don't know they work in the industry. So yes I get that it can get pretty lonely.

You have to make time for yourself away from this industry. You really do not have to work all day everyday. You will find there are people already in your circle who would love to do things with you but in this business we tend to freeze people out. You could start by setting aside a half day exclusively for friends and/or family. This industry does isolate you but you have to make the time for 'normal' life. For years it was just about myself and 1 bestie and even that friendship went south to a degree because all I did was work. And when I took time off I just wanted to be alone and chill. So now I find it easier to take off on Saturday. Yes, sometimes my friends are busy with family things that I am not a part of. That's when I make a long phone call to family and friends who live in other provinces. You have to make the effort. Often the only company on a weekend is a friend's little boy. But I give his mom a bit of free time by keeping him busy for the day and it charges my batteries by doing so. Up till about 2/3 years ago, I was totally different, completely in my own cocoon.

This industry is not easy. Its a challenge in many ways. Being alone because off working is just One of them.

Depending on what kind of loneliness we are talking.. if it's in terms of relationships, then it is definitely difficult in this industry specifically. But if it's friends, etc, similar problems arise with any one man business. Nadia is right. Taking scheduled time off is essential, but oh so difficult , for fear of missing out on that booking or order (in the case of other businesses). It's a choice you (I) have to make