In the last couple of months my ex girlfriend had me indirectly exposed to the bdsm community. Bruises and burns are the softest thing they get, and they do it for free (for fun and "excitment"!). I have no doubt many wgs would do it for extra cash.

"Consent" might be the magic word in the legal arena, but from the psychological viewpoint all these self destructive conducts (even if damage is not permanent) are considered "disorders". In this context "fantasy" is not a magic word... they have the head fucked up.

let the mistress and her slaves answer this one..... i battle to get my head around this even if its consensual as a therapist I see huge emotional disturbances from a lot less