On 2024-09-20 23:25:01 pta_shagger said:
I did not want to worsen the situation so I just left it at that, but feel that I wasn't in the wrong, maybe she was having a bad day and I was the lucky recipient of her outburst? Who knows.

This does happen too - we're human. More than that, we're women, who deal with our own set of struggles and stressors on the daily. Work our bodies and socials and mindsets into the ground. We come onto sites we pay to market ourselves on, and face abuse from every angle.

Some are single moms, going through a divorce, some are having to provide companionship to strangers whilst suffering deeply from loneliness. Some are facing addiction, or illness. Or death in the family. So sometimes it does take one straw to break the camera's back.

I apologize on behalf of the SP in question and of myself, for every time I allowed my stress to seep over into what's meant to be a euphoric space.

I try every day to show more empathy, and not to let yesterday's trainwreck from getting me where I need to be.
I encourage others to do the same.

All we ask is that you be mindful, because it legitimately can be SO hard, providing luxury and vulnerability to people on a day where 50 others have made you feel worthless.

On 2024-09-20 21:16:00 Hazel Arabia said:
This has happened 3/4x in a single day for me. It's why I'm hesitant to book longer dates with new clients, lest they secure that time slot with a deposit.

Wow, 3/4 times in a day, that really sucks, sorry to hear you ladies are being stuffed around like that!
Come on guys , you can do better!

As this a confirmed appointment or not?( below is just an example of how we as ladies might think we have an appointment and guy might not have meant it as confirmation)

Guy 1 :"are you available in next half hour for an hour booking "
Me :"no sorry I aint but have an open slot at 14h00.
Guy 1:"ok send me adress"
Me :"adress link" see you at 14h00"

No communication after that i go into my booking as my client just arrived. Finish hour later clean up shower get dressed look at time.. okay i still got half hour till 14h00 let me have something to eat quick.

Phone rings- Guy2 :"can i see you in half hour" me: "no sorry i have an appointment set for 14h00" but can fit you in at 16h00.
Guy2:" sorry thats too late for me"
Me: "sorry maybe another time"

Now almost 14h00.. I send directions on how to get into building to guy1 that I expect at 14h00..I get one tick no reply. I still wait till 14h10 still message on one tick.

Decide to contact the guy2 i just spoke to and tell him i now have an open slot. He replies "sorry i just stopped at another lady down the road from you as you where not available."

So did I misunderstand that guy1 accepted 14h00 by asking the adress? Or was he a no show?

I will not lable someone a timewaster and send then horrible text for not showing up on first fail but should I find your number listed as a no show time waster by more than one other lady if I go check, I will send you a text and tell you what a waste of breath you are and inform you to never try to book me again and I will block you. There is no reason to give you a second chance as you have already done this to someone else and had second chances and still keep doing the same thing.

There so many things that can go wrong for SPs and Punters.. even I had to cancel or reschedule appointments life happens. We all get that.

But the no shows seems to be turning into some sick game beibg played daily.. it aint just one a week or every now and then, it happens almost daily multiple times a day to way to many ladies.

That is the nice thing about being a regular. You trust each other completely and when a cancelation happens you know it is genuine on both sides.

I have a regular that i see almost every Saturday morning. I make the appointment by Wed or Thu and can start looking forward to it. Knowing i will not be let down and if something unexpected comes up we both can cancel without any hard feelings whatsoever.
Almost similar arrangement for Sunday afternoons.

This is what WG dreams are made of :*

On 2024-09-21 07:55:05 Vrik said:
I have a regular that i see almost every Saturday morning. I make the appointment by Wed or Thu and can start looking forward to it. Knowing i will not be let down and if something unexpected comes up we both can cancel without any hard feelings whatsoever.
Almost similar arrangement for Sunday afternoons.

I often lose out, especially on the spur of the moment. I get an unexpected gap to have some fun, but nobody on my list is available. Not anyone's' fault, but the reality unfortunately. I save my money for another time. Wink.

Have to agree with Candice its how we would all prefer things to work.. no drama even if an appointment gets cancelled for whatever hickup happens in life;)

Well done Vrik for establishing good report with your lady.

I love having regular clients they hardly ever have "hickups of life" derailing an appointment.

Some do get a bit too comfortable when seeing a regular lady and will either be late or early regularly but you get to know this is a thing with them and start blocking out a little extra time to accomodate that because you dont want to loose them as a client because you are too anal about a few minutes either way.

I must say this almost all no shows happening are from unknows it aint clients you have already met or regulars.

This is why I ask for advance bookings and deposits. Sadly it seems to turn many gents off.

Some have been burnt by deposits and the SP doesn't show up.

But with the rate of no-shows that SPs have to deal with...

On 2024-09-20 18:54:10 Kylie @ Elements said:
Wow, thank you for this post.

It is truely becoming a huge problem and many service providers have lost out on legit bookings.
Along with expenses, that the service provider have to pay, out of their own pocket.

Kylie

You're most welcome, I think the gents need to remember that the next person's income depends on this