Just had a private message from someone, asking why some people get incontinence, and some - don't. As I said, any forced entry will cause a disruption of the sphincter. If the sphincter is well controlled and relaxed enough to take whatever is penetrating with minimal, or at leat controlled effort, then trauma is not likely. No trauma - no incontinence.

The best recognised authority on anal sex in the world is a sedx worker called Tristan Taormino. I refer all interested to read her work, and watch her video "Tristan Taormino's Ultimate Guide To Anal Sex". There she explains everything, guidance is step by step, and on top of it is one of the sexiest videos I have ever watched.

Just a couple of points to add:

1. buy yourself a douche, douche your rectum with water at body temperature or slightly warmer, multiple times until only clear water flows back out.
2. Glyceryl trinitrate cream on the anus helps relax it, highle recommended aid for beginners and experienced anal players alike.

The rest is as pointed out in my first post:

Douche, apply the cream, wait a few minutes, and then :
1. Lots of lube, water based (KY jelly or any purpose gel from the sex shop), never can be too much;
2. Master the art of anal masturbation, i.e you and your hand (fingers);
3. Always stop if there is pain;
4. Learn to keep the anus open after removal of the object/fingers/penis;
5. Be patient, and expect patience from your partner;
6. The more often you do it, the better it gets;
7. Will not cause incontinence, unless forced, as in rape;
8. The main culprit for anal and urinary incontinence is vaginal childbirth.

Take home message: No trauma - no incontinence!

Happy choc-dip games!

tristantaormino.com/

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tristan_Taormino

Havata, you forgot some other tips LOL. I never really looked into the author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women but it’s nice to finally put a face to her. I have had the ebook for a while, still reading it and it is a very well written and informational read for any female(or male) beginner to intermediate when it comes to anal sex as she starts by dispelling myths surrounding anal such as it being dirty, immoral, unnatural etc. Then she discusses anal hygiene, eroticism, toys, masturbation, penetration, health and includes illustrations etc. The tone throughout is very friendly, humorous and reassuring. It sort of feels like you are getting advice from a fellow very open-minded and well versed girlfriend.

Thanks havata for this information which is very useful in helping all of us, especially WGs, to look at such issues from a more scientific point of view and avoid being surrunded by dispelling myths about anal sex, as pointed out by nonvanilla too. Hoep to see less dislikes for Greek!

@monsieur I second that.

Hi nonvanilla, welcome back! You were gone awhile, were you locked up at Leila B's? :-))
If you're referring to viennas, russians, carrots, cucumbers, candles, deodorant cannisters etc etc, I did not mention that on purpose, in case some newbie walks tonight into the local ER with a fuckin' stirfry or lasagne up their arse, lmfao!
Tristan - the best, feminist, sex goddess, anal professor, university lecturer in some of the most prestigious colleges in the US and abroad, author, guru!
Any news on the shemale front, NV?

And to add a few more

- Use a condom, unless ridiculously monogamous, intimate and kinky!

- Do not remove object from anus and stuff straight up vagina. Controversial issue and some believe it is a myth, because the truth is infections are more common from-mouth-to-vagina. And people always take penis out of mouth and put into vagina. However, the idea of having even minute particles of fecal matter pushed up your reproductive tract is considered by most people rather unpleasant.

- open an anatomy book and see the angle of the anal canal and rectum, or you may end up with a cucumber passing through your gut into your abdomen, peritonitis and death. Never heard of that happening with a penis though, no matter how large.

- always keep a grip on whatever you are inserting, or you may lose it inside and not be able to pass it and have to go to ER rather humbled with a very very pink face indeed... Better use butt plugs, they have shielding and can not diappear inside.

- DO NOT USE SAVLON OR SIMILAR ANTISEPTICS FOR DOUCHING!! Was shocked when a shemale did that in my presence. It is toxic, can burn your inner lining of the intestines, will get absorbed into the blood stream quickly, and does not offer additional protection against infection. a very very mild solution of mouthwash (NOT Listerine, too caustic!) may do if you are paranoid... However, warm water is enough, as long as you douche until clean comes out.

Nivia, you still alive babe?

Clear cut, accurate and truthful information havata! Thank-you.
Regards Valentina