On 2017-06-22 09:06:24 raul28 said: Would it be harsh or otherwise if I ask the lady to stop telling about whatever the hubby is doing?
Why isn't she telling all this to her female friend
Actually I think you should to her to stop telling you about your cuzzie. Tell she must work it out with him or outright divorce him.
Is the cuzzie's wife hot? If she is, and your cuzzie is obviously bored of pomping her, why don't you make a move on her. Sounds like an easy fuck buddy scenario for you.
I have a very strong relationship with my cousin and doing such to him ain't on at all and that's the worst betrayal ever.
As much as she's hot at some point i thought about doing it but nothing stays as a secret forever and if my cousin finds out its gona something or perhaps I'm coward.
MrJ786] On 2017-06-22 08:38:04 Johannesjacobs said: Not your Zoo not your monkeys!
Ditto.. exactly my thoughts
Guys I'm not saying I'm interfering in their business. As much as I don't wana be involved the lady keeps on telling me about what the hubby is doing and she doesn't know that I know she's doing the very same shit too.
All I'm asking for here is how do I let her know that I may really not interested in knowing what's happening
The best advice I was given when the same happened to me and I was the one complaining...
"Look, I love you and I love [the other party]. This isn't about loyalty to either of you but to both. I cannot handle one of two people I love telling me how bad the other is. Here's what I want, no what I demand!"
"Its your marriage to do with as you see fit, if you are unhappy then do something about it, speak to [the other party], see a shrink, proactively ignore the situation entirely or choose some other course of action, but do something and stick to it."
"Please do not speak to me any more about [the other party] regarding this particular point again. I am your friend and [the other party] friend. But it is not possible for me to do anything about this. It's not that I am unsympathetic; it's just that it is impossible for me to help in any way with something that is so intensely personal to the two of you.
"I am here for you both but I cannot take sides with two people that mean so much to me. It puts me in a position where I have to be disloyal to one or both of the most important people in my life that I owe total loyalty and love to."
"Sort it out, it's not you and not [the other party] it's both of you, remember you are both one."
The provider of this advice, a beast of a guy, and I remain friends to this day. If Mrs Le Roux and I have one of our periodic crockery throwing sessions he just shakes his head, helps sweep up, calls us both nuts and we all move on.
Dude, playing the church mouse messenger ain't gonna help anybody in this situation. Take le Roux's advice and call them both to order, whether they like it or not! Also give them time and their own space to sort it out. Most of the time our family ties tend to cloud our judgment in making the correct long term decisions, which often involves short term pain and drama.
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Re: Ladies and Gentlemen please advise
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