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Posted: 2021-10-13 20:11:28

On 2021-10-13 12:25:46 Lupe Luxe said:
...He said "You're very beautiful, for a black girl.".....What does this even mean???...



It simply means that he is still trapped in his selfish perceptions' of his superiority!
Irrespective of race, he would probably say something similar to "fat" people, if he prefers slender, or vice versa, or short people, if he prefers taller...see where I am going here?
Sadly, there are still people like that out there!
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Posted: 2021-10-14 04:37:52

On 2021-10-13 16:30:25 cremesoda said:
Just saying,

Some of the
"You're (insert compliment) for a (insert defining characteristic that they are not)"
Compliments are of the most sincere you could come across because it means that person has overcome some bias/prejudice (possibly for good) for them to say those words.

Not saying it isn't insensitive, but it's always helpful to understand context in a society as complex as ours.



Interesting perspective.
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Posted: 2021-10-14 05:40:13

On 2021-10-13 20:11:28 semensquirter said:
On 2021-10-13 12:25:46

It simply means that he is still trapped in his selfish perceptions' of his superiority!
Irrespective of race, he would probably say something similar to "fat" people, if he prefers slender, or vice versa, or short people, if he prefers taller...see where I am going here?
Sadly, there are still people like that out there!



Mmmm... I see it.
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Posted: 2021-10-14 07:57:50

On 2021-10-13 12:25:46 Lupe Luxe said:
He said "You're very beautiful, for a black girl."

What does this even mean???. After all the visits... I shouldn't have let you touch me , really.



I may be wrong, but maybe he just ment it as a compliment with no other agenda behind it. I just told the last lady I visit she's very beautiful and I ment it with no disrespect to anyone else.
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Posted: 2021-10-14 08:26:06

It means exactly what it says.

Black girls aren't supposed to be beautiful, but you are.

The definition of beauty and desirability has been measured by its proximity to whiteness. The closer the better.

What is beautiful about our enlightenment as a society is that we realising what a great lie this has been, for centuries.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the beholder alone. Not what's told to you on tv or in social circles.
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Posted: 2021-10-14 08:51:29

Until you're on the receiving end of such a remark, you have no idea how it makes one feel. He might not have meant to make you angry but it did. Some people need to catch a wake up. Did he think you would take it as a compliment?
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Posted: 2021-10-14 08:52:12

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Well, then she is extremely pretty for a black girl.

Beautiful will be beautiful, regardless of shape, color or ethnicity.
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Posted: 2021-10-14 08:55:08

On 2021-10-14 08:26:06 Lexington Steele said:
It means exactly what it says.

Black girls aren't supposed to be beautiful, but you are.

The definition of beauty and desirability has been measured by its proximity to whiteness. The closer the better.

What is beautiful about our enlightenment as a society is that we realising what a great lie this has been, for centuries.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and the beholder alone. Not what's told to you on tv or in social circles.



Say that again, I was walking my fish . =D
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Posted: 2021-10-14 09:00:20

People don't realise that we are still in 2021, back in Shakesperian times people spoke funny and that was accepted. Language changes.

Today when we write or say things, it is important to consider people's feelings. They are no longer just words these days. They can also mean different things, even the spaces between the lines have a meaning and can be be read differently, then also can be understood or misunderstood differently too.

Hence the need for clear communication.
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Posted: 2021-10-14 09:02:13

On 2021-10-14 08:26:06 Lexington Steele said:


The definition of beauty and desirability has been measured by its proximity to whiteness. The closer the better.



Why are Ferrari's red? Don't we all bleed the same color?

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