If there is a genuine connection between you and the WG and there is honest and open conversations about what each of you would like from the relationship as well as firm boundaries then there is no reason it can't work. However the man will have to be confident in his sexual abilities as well as not being an overly jealous person. And if he finds that he isn't as open minded as he thinks he needs to tap out before things get to a point where harsh words are said. All women deserve respect and not to have to hear the people closest to them say hurtful stuff because his ego is bruised.

No guys don't date or marry a WG and WG don't date or marry a punter. I'm sure I'm going to get some slack about this or be told not to procreate (Sabrina babe why are you always so angry on the forum? Just be chilled)

I'm going to state this upfront because I'm sure some of you will be triggered, this does not apply to 100% of WGs and 100% of punters so if you feel like you're a unique snowflake, good for you.

There are proper psychological issues on both sides of the table, punters and WGs.

As a guy, once you enter the glorious world of pay for pussy a few things change up there in the brain area. You won't be able to quit. Punting is addictive. You all know deep inside that once you're in, you're in. You'll have a bad experience and swear you'll never book another WG again but give it a few days/weeks and you'll be back on the purple pages jonesing for the next appointment. Next, you become too used to instant gratification in a relationship. You want sex at your convenience. Third, you can't stay monogamous don't even kid yourself. Next, despite the simp-like behavior of some of you, you still find a thrill in the fact that you have power and control in the pay for pussy world. All these things don't work in relationships. That's why for you dudes in marriages/relationships it works as a side hobby.

As a WG... I'm almost scared to go down this road but screw it. You have seen the worst sides of men, the abusers, the unhygenic, the weak, the druggies, the ones leaving their kids in the car during a punt etc etc etc etc etc. Your perception of men, whether you admit it or not, if skewed by this and you have some sort of deep seated, subconscious level of distrust and in some cases loathing of men. Next, you become used to the life of a WG not showing up at an office from 8-5 with an hour of lunch and one or two smoke breaks. You also have become too used to living a double life, the lying, the sneaking around, the manipulation, the fake personality. At some point this becomes a norm and will find its way into any relationship you get into. Next, you've become too used to the cash and spending it. WG are notoriously bad at budgeting and now you're gonna sit there at the end of the month with some dude and plan the monthly household spending?

Now take these two messed up individuals put them into a relationship and you have a fukn disaster on your hands.

My advice:

Dudes go find a normal, vanilla wifey from the burbs and fulfill your extracurricular desires here in the pay for pussy world.

Ladies, find a vanilla husband who does shit like crossfit or kayaking and lie to him that you're an admin assistant or salesperson while you continue your WG ways. Alternatively find Farmer Koos at the kerk, marry him and move off to Bethlehem.

Damn that was a long post.

On 2022-03-15 10:00:47 JeremyR said:
On 2022-03-14 21:17:32 Pomi said: At the rate i am punting i will probably end up marrying a WG. I've never been the jealous type so its not an issue for me. I have been in a relationship with one, theres nothing special or different about it. Same old stuff as the girls that are not in the industry. of course if you are an insecure man stay the hell away from any of that lovey dovey shit with a WG because you will lose your shit with jealousy.

Are they not too "tired" at night to give you sex after a full day working?

She did not work while she was with me. The deal was we would be exclusive provided i cover what she made in a month plus a premium for exclusivity for each month we were together. She managed to complete her studies and is now a candidate attorney. We ended up breaking up due to the normal stuff though none of which had anything to do with this industry

@jtrdbn not going to quote your extremely long post but I have to agree with you. Probably the most sense I've read in a long time

On 2022-03-15 13:13:23 jtrdbn said:
Next, you become too used to instant gratification in a relationship. You want sex at your convenience. Third, you can't stay monogamous don't even kid yourself.

I concur

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