There are a few problems with isolating yourself from the normal world.

1.) You get caught up in this web of games in this life that you forget what it is to sit around a braaivleis fire and socialise with people from outside this industry.

2.) This leads to isolation, and with it the loss fof your remaining friends/family. They will invite you up to a point, amd when you reject them enough times, they will stop inviting. And then you will not even receive that irritating call when you are "busy".

3.) You start spending time in your bed instead of venturing out.

4.) You believe that work is your only saviour.

4.) Depression is a small step away from here.

5.) Coping mechanisms start kicking in. Read bad habits.



In any kind of life, you have to force yourself to venture out and spend time with friends/family. Even if you dont feel like getting up, get dressed and get you butt out of the house.

There is a life out there.

Oh, and don't forget the positive influence of a healthy body. Join the tennis club, go on the fun walks, hit the gym, whatever.


Just my random thoughts.

Cheers

Some more thoughts.

The fact that you are now on an even keel does not mean that you will always be like this. Life changes on a dime. One day you can be the King of the World, only to end up frumpled on the floor with a serious condition.

We are not promised tomorrow.

So to say that I will do X,Z and Z at some future date is paramount to challenging the gods to spew forth their wrath.

Rather be thankful for what you have, and live life every moment to it's fullest. If you want to do an overnight booking, do it. If you want to have a braai, invite people around.

Life is really simple. We complicate it.

Loneliness is a drink best shared. Think I said this before. Before you end up in that dark spiral of loneliness, step out into the light and do something positive.

There is always someone that will do something with you.

Really deurmekaar thoughts, so please forgive.

Cheers

INL, your thoughts may be deurmekaar and random, but they do make a lot of sense!!

If Only

This is actually very coherent in relation to some of my Bacchus induced ramblings that I try to keep off the forum late at night...

Thanks

I agree INL. Just to add a couple of cents...

There are lonely individuals who think if they could just find that "someone", their world will be complete and their loneliness something of the past. The other person will magically resolve all their short comings.

Not true, you first have to be content with being in your own company, for a healthy period of time. As INL said, don't become too content by just living in your bubble though. There is still a life to live "out there".

There is also not a more lonely place than having people or a person around you, but yet you still feel like you are on an island....

Mr Shy

You are using the same analogy of couples that can't stand each other, and then decide that a baby will sort out their deep-seated problems.

No, it won't, and will in fact worsen it.


I had that "island" feeling, and it is not nice. But it is still better than to be moping on your own.

It also helps to start with a positive attitude. Look at the positive side of things. There is always a silver lining, even when things are not going well.

Yup, it is exactly the same. Another person, adult or child, can't fix something they had no part in breaking in the first place.

On 2017-10-08 17:48:24 I never learn said:
Loneliness is a drink best shared.

I could not agree more...
No one wants a relationship while in this industry and yes it gets lonely and depressing!!!

Good Night

Thank you for all the advice. Yes being away from home just makes it worse. I will keep in mind all your comments and especially thank you to the awesome appointment yesterday that helped me understand why I feel this way. I appreciate the knowledge that I am not alone in this.


Hope you all have a fabulous day.

@i never learn great idea to have a Sunday get together when someone is feeling down.

Just drinks and good convo maybe see a band etc .
Who knows people might click and have a good times - no sex required.

Think the thought of loneliness keeps many of us in unhappy marriages as wife gets to keep kids house cars etc and in mAny cases also family friends tend to side with the wife.