With all due respect and no disrespect to ladies and the fellow punters.. I am sure if I apply 80/20 rule then there are reasons for both sides. 20% of the punters could be disrespectful etc. and causes problems for 80% of punters and on the same note the 20% of the ladies causes issues for 80% of the ladies.
From my own experience.. I would like to say
1) why to advertise availablity as 24/7, when one is not. I have learned to not phone a lady after 8pm if their profile says 24/7 and make use of available now feature after 8 in the evening.
2) I can give few examples of ladies (some top rated ones) that advertise they are in one area but work in another. For e.g if a lady says,working in fourways but works in Douglasdale or bryanston.. then even though it's next to each other, the sheer traffic can put one off from getting from one area to another...
3) being in a situation, where I went to visit a girl in house which had some dodgy dudes at the house and have to fork out money to leave.. I am also cautious as to whether to visit a lady who works on her own or at a house. Please note that, just as you are vulnerable so too are we..
4) something that really pisses me off and hats of to the ladies who say it on their profile, please put ROAR on your profile to reduce the calls from other races and nationality punters. I have a bit of ascent as I have lived and punted in many parts of the world and something that amuses and pisses me off at the same time is the question "what nationality are you?" Btw.. I am Mexican.. if you wandering...
5) To conclude .. there will always be some dickheads, stupid, vulgar and rude people and there will always be some rude and disrespectful ladies.. so let's not generalize but make use of forums to create awareness..

Hi Joy,

It sounds like you were having a really bad day!
I have learned that trying to teach "etiquette Shelley 101" to the entire population on a forum is futile and unfortunately not enough read the forum.
I have also learned over time to be more and more tolerant and accepting of others as I know we don't all think the same.

He may be asking silly questions just to get a feel for you....

I don't allow myself to get annoyed when I'm asked silly questions I don't mind!
If someone is rude I simply block them !
If they don't honor their appointment then I save them as "no show" and I know that space will be filled as I always tell the gents that call if I have a cancelation can I call you.

I switch my phone off when I'm not working.... there are many ladies that say they are only avail between 10 and 17:00 but that day she may be working till 03:00 and the guy gets lucky.

Dressing up... many do this so asking is not rude.

Specials .... many have specials so that's also not being disrespectful.

I advertise under massage but many call and ask for FH it's ok, I don't get offended, instead I'm flattered he wants to f*ck me!

Your last question is very important to me, don't ever take your success for granted, every call is a potential client and many are crying it's quiet......

I humbly RESPECT the guys that pay my bills!

Warm hugs may your days be filled with happiness

Shelley

@Shelley Bbw. With all due respect, I don't believe that @Joy was having a bad day. She simply expressed what she deals with on a daily basis, as noticed by all the other ladies that commented, they too experience the same and had the same questions on their minds. It is now out in the open. Yes I agree that respect should be earned, as @Joy stated she has earned hers. Also I agree that every phone call can be a potential client, then that is what it should be, not a time waister because time is money for all of us. Every client's money pays our bills.

The subject is RESPECT

Please allow me to vent about something on this thread.

I see a bit of a trend lately where punters purposefully post shit on ESA to embarrass and hurt SP's.

They are posting all sorts of negative comments, either on the general forum or WORSE, on a lady's review page. Those comments stay and other potential clients see them.

I can only think that for some sick fuckedup reason they are trying to hurt the lady's business. I can't help but wonder the magnitude of a LOSER such a person must be?

Now one can say these punters are new members and they are actually SP's that are trying to hurt the competition, but a quick scan shows some well known punters posting shit remarks that embarrass and hurt ladies with good reputations on ESA.

Why do that? What do you gain from it? Once you've posted your crap and moved on, she has to deal with the aftermath. She has kids to support ffs! Don't you care?

These ladies give us access to their most intimate space for our enjoyment. Respect that you bastard!

You must be a very sad and unhappy individual. I pity you!

(I won't name you. You know who you are)

Joy

The use of the word "respect" I believe is incorrect here. Lets look at the definition of respect :

"a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements."


When you meet someone for the first time, you don't respect him/her initially. That comes with time and with the admiration that you build up over time re their abilities, qualities and/or achievements. So for me it is time bound. I will meet you today, but won't necessarily respect you immediately. I might ADMIRE you, and even LIKE you, but respect for me is build up over time.

Almost the same as trust. Trust is earned, you don't just trust someone that walk into your room, especially not some of the fucknuts on this site. Give it time, and even then, well, choices hey ?


So the difference really lies in the fact that respect for me is timebound.

Hope that makes sense ?

Regards

@ I never learn

Thanks for the English lesson.

Again I ask.....what word should I have used? Will you then please change the Subject Title for me as well.

RESPECT made sense to me at the time I wrote the post....but then again, maybe because I am Afrikaans, and think in Afrikaans, it was wrong accordingly to you!!~!~!

As you can see, most of the punters and working girls understood exactly what I meant to say.

Joy

Dit was slegs my eie gedagtes rondom die woord respek.

Enigiemand kan hulle eie afleidings maak en woorde gebruik wat hulle pas.

En ek is nie Engels goed magtig nie, sit maar met die Woordeboek hier langs my.

Jou boodskap het verseker weerklank gevind met die lesers en kommentators daarvan, wat die doel was waarom jy dit geskryf het.

Groete

Good manners,
courtesy,
consideration,
gallantry,
gentility
etc
is what the word RESPECT encompasses.

Well
I ask if a lady is working a "Joyville" or not.

I don't mind a house with one or two or 3 ladies.

But "Joyville" gives me the feeling of a prison. Everything is locked and needs to be unlocked.

Safety gate between the kitchen and lounge. Safety gate by the passage.


Just not for me.

So that is why I ask do you work at Joyville or alone.

Rest assured, after my visit to Joy ... Who was not bad! The impression of the venue is what is stopping me from going again.