On 2024-07-18 08:22:44 J_J said:
I fully understand your situation Hazel (and that of many SPs) and would always abide by the SPs preference; just giving the perspective of what goes on in a clients head (mine not all) on the matter. And it doesn't mean I don't trust SPs who ask for cash upfront. My personally philosophy in life is 'as a fellow human, you have my trust and respect upfront, until you lose it'. I know it's not a philosophy many SPs can apply, or any business in general, but when I find similar minded people I just connect with them alot easier.

Have I been hurt by this philosophy? Countless times. Am I naive? No.

I stand by this and am just like you...

If I may quote from you, for myself too...

"Have I been hurt by this philosophy? Countless times. Am I naive? No."

RB.

On 2024-07-18 08:22:44 J_J said:

Have I been hurt by this philosophy? Countless times. Am I naive? No.

100% hear you and hope my original reply didnt come across as argumentative at all. I was merely stating why trusting strangers isn't common business practice.

By the time you'd arrived for a booking, she would already have put a substantial amount of work into making the booking happen, and already has more to lose than the stranger at her door. It's only right to pay for her time, so as to give her peace of mind at which point she's able to fully focus on giving you the best experience.

Hey sexy Hazel

If I may ...

I get your point and that of many ladies.

As to me....

Money upfront or not my focus on my man is NEVER distracted by money on the table or not.

Nor do I look for it and even make a joke with those who wish to pay upfront.


BUT....VERY clear conversations are had while an appointment is being made and confirmed as to fees and payment

How many times have I been burned? Toooooo little to remember but, I have.

RB

Cash upfront and apart from that also clarify the "rules and boundaries" of the session.

The less the lady has to "worry about" the more attention she can give to the task at hand.

On 2024-07-18 08:41:28 Russian Bridgitte said:

BUT....VERY clear conversations are had while an appointment is being made and confirmed as to fees and payment

How many times have I been burned? Toooooo little to remember but, I have.

RB

Hello Ms RB *purrs*

I hear you completely. These are conversations I've also learned to have in the buildup to the booking. Adjustments made to boundaries and policies, over years of experience is optimal for anyone in any business.

I'm not one to dash for the cash or make demands as soon as my lovers walk in. Especially after a relationship has already been garnered. Nor do I even have a clock in my room. But what I said still stands, and was merely elaborating on what many others in this thread have said - peace of mind for the provider = a better experience overall.

Not sure if what I'm saying somehow still ain't making sense.

Yep sexy Hazel you making huge sense.

Maybe too many bad experiences have made many an SP over careful considering scammers are quite rife among the punters too.

It is good to have such revealing conversations and experiences shared so that punters too can understand the "life and challenges " of a "sex worker ".

Being the devils advocate does know to make all of us think a little further than our personal self.

Bad apples on either side of the fence.

Rather safe than sorry .

Huge endearing hugs your way.

RB

Think and feel it's better to pay upfront. It puts both parties at ease. Sometimes also direct deposits into wgs account on immediate transfer or paysnap or perhaps even payment via cards on ladies that have card machines before booking starts.

I personally don't mind either way, but I have noted that most ladies that I visited that ask for cash upfront tend to have, at best, very mechanical sessions or at worst, will be utterly terrible and will change the agreed upon services on you. I try to actively avoid those kind of ladies

On 2024-07-17 08:46:56 Chris31 said:
Is it better to pay before or after the action?

I don't mind at all. But a couple of times I'm so dazed from a session that I have almost forgotten. And once I forgot altogether and had to wallet the cash.

On 2024-07-18 08:41:28 Russian Bridgitte said:


Money upfront or not my focus on my man is NEVER distracted by money on the table or not.

RB

When I'm about to leave and you remind me to pay, take it as a compliment. I call it the real GFE, so good that one forgets it was transactional.
___

With another lady, on one occasion I did actually leave without paying and she didn't remind me. A few blocks down the road I frantically call her, and she didn't flip. She just said you can sort it out next time. That must be the most romantic thing a SP could say to a client; she knows I'm coming back and she expresses full trust in me ... elevating GFE to wife. Needless to say I turned around and settled the transaction.