On 2018-04-05 16:16:16 Lanavol said:
Tell your vrou you are going whoring tonight. You will know immediately if it is considered cheating.
On 2018-04-04 09:57:10 ronsard said:
I am curious to hear other's view on this...is going to a massage girl for a rub and tug considered cheating? No sex - just a typical massage with happy ending session.
On 2018-04-05 22:54:41 Andy9669 said:
Some relationships find a happy space where permission is granted. My wife acknowledges that there are professionals who offer a fantastic foot massage or facial that (despite my best efforts) I cannot match.
She had overly said to me that she is not interested in giving head, but knows I desire it, so in the same way that she will sell some physical satisfaction elsewhere, I should do the same.
Truth be told, I am skeptical that she's be happy about it, but it's an implicit agreement between us...
On 2018-04-05 22:54:41 Andy9669 said:
"..... so in the same way that she will sell some physical satisfaction elsewhere...
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On 2018-04-07 08:57:24 Lanavol said:
We will always come up with arguments to defend our particular point of view. On any topic. Fact is, I have not seen or heard of any wife telling her husband "Oh darling, you look tense, you need some distraction and release, here is a grand, go see a commercial sex worker".... lol
On 2018-04-05 04:29:24 K!nky M!nx said:
On 2018-04-04 15:01:32 Vivian Lee said:
While on the topic, can anyone state to me where is there a law. or something that men can't have more than one woman. Not to marry, just to make one happy, who says it is wrong?
Vivian
Open relationships and polyamory are just two of the ways of doing ethical non monogamy. The law in most westernised countries doesn't generally allow for marriage to more than one person, but many people don't get married these days, and since the dawn of time humans have been known to need sexual variety. And historically speaking in many cultures it has always been known and accepted that men will have a mistress. Some wives will accept it without too much fuss as long as you are discreet and do not embarrass or humilate her with this. It's always been seen as less acceptable for a woman to do the same, yet many have and do.
We all have many partners in our lifetime.. Some of us have them one at a time, one after the other (serial monogamy).. Others prefer to have multiple partners at the same time. If there is no openness and honesty it's essentially cheating. When it's done with full honesty and consent of all involved, it's ethical non monogamy.
As to the original post, I view the amazing services offered by MG, WG and specialists (ie Dommes etc) to be a type of therapy. It can be healing and can fill needs or void that for whatever other reason is not being met.
As to how much information you share with your partner, they will be determined by your unique individual relationship and the agreements you have between you for how the two of you have decided together to work your particular connection.