I agree with the Chappies legend 1001,

Indeed it's possible, Naledi.
....but Vicky just received a "col" from an Indian lady she says...

Read. If you don't get it, read again and again.

Intertwining the potential for social mobility with ethnicity rehearses a colonial omniscience that attaches varying value to skin color.

"Racial preferences reduce people to their ethnicity and reinforce racial hierarchies by insinuating that race alone is a powerful enough factor to negate everything else that someone has to offer.

Claiming that someone is unworthy of associating with you because of race and hiding behind the flimsy excuse of sexual tastes or lack of hypothetical romantic chemistry is racist.

It’s true that anyone can have undesirable traits and you shouldn’t feel obligated to be with a person solely for inclusivity’s sake, but that doesn’t mean that those traits are ethnically specific." -

To those calling Alilazi and any person a shit stirrer etc for asking a legitimate question - one that affects them and not you, you need to just leave it alone. Why does it bother you so much when these questions come up.

Just because you have never had to deal with the negative aspects of racial preferences, their exclusionary nature and heavy generalizations, does not mean that the effects are not there.

Prejudice is real and hiding behind the guise of preference may be your only comfort zone for now but the world is catching up to this.

“Sexual racism… is closely associated with generic racist attitudes, which challenges the idea of racial attraction as solely a matter of personal preference.”

All of a sudden in an industry where hygiene, respect, and of course money is key, you want to bring in SKIN COLOUR. All of a sudden you a well groomed, respectful human being is not GOOD ENOUGH.

A number of punters with the assistance of some unknowingly "prejudiced" punters come here and simply perpetuate, "Sexual racism"… which is closely associated with generic racist attitudes, which challenges the idea of racial attraction as solely a matter of personal preference.”


"Implied universalism is not only biased, but dangerous in the ways that it allows racial and cultural hierarchies to persist while enabling the individual to avoid any self-introspection of the factors that led to the formation of this perspective."

Alilizi - There are lots of wg that do not use ethnical "preferences" as a means to blatantly sideline black punters. Unfortunately, the environment we live in does not allow them to openly come forward and in many regards I feel they do not have to come forward because this should not be an issue. They provide a good service and I am willing to share some names privately with you so you can make contact.

Our personal behaviors and expressions don't have the same burdens of responsibility that government policies or public businesses do - but this doesn't mean that our personal behaviors can't still be racist.

You aren't obligated to make yourself romantically available to anyone - but that doesn't mean that it's impossible for your "preferences" to be racist.

To those who prefer this color and that color, it is a preference produced by racism (by living in a racist culture).

What happened to Rossia?
She boldly went public about a shift in ROAR her policy and didn't exactly make many friends...
Interesting times we live in....

Sorry...A shift in her ROAR policy...

Freedom of choice . It's prostitution not slavery .
I also take offence to the statement that black men have bigger shlongs .... that is racist generalising ... it might be true but opinionated

Michelle and Blackdiamond, I like your input. Very well stated.

dahewolf, I want to work for your boss.

@NotSoShyKev
In an earlier post you made, what in my opinion, was a rather disingenuous claim to modesty by stating that you are a "newbie". You may well be a newbie to this site and that is altogether acceptable and in fact welcomed. That post was in fact quite valuable as it was what appeared to be an honest expression of your opinion and I was left with the impression that you were a poster to be followed as you lucidly outlined your views and position on the topic.

However, your post above completely, and again this is my opinion, destroyed any credibility you may have tried to illicit.

Plagurism isn't clever or attractive. It simply shows that you have respect neither for the intended readers of your piece nor yourself.

@Kev, have a little faith in your own opinion and tell us what you think and feel rather than putting forward other people's views as your own simply to impress. You can take a leak from a number of contributors to this forum who express themselves in what is sometimes less that perfect English, but at least apply basic principles of honesty and congruence.

I will, in future, not make yours the first post that I read on a thread.

I am, by the way, aware of the irony of my comment above and acknowledge that this is signed SloJoeJhb.

"Why does it bother you so much when these questions come up"

@Kev, I speak for myself... I've realized that these threads are used by certain people as a platform to insult black men and I dont like it much as I dont like it when a punter says Julius is an ass...
My sentiments are like those of Franklin Roosevelt towards the former dictator of Nicaragua

Every online forum gets these posts...

The Internet and trolls go hand in hand.

If ESA does in future start locking threads or deleting certain 'offensive' ones, may they please also add sticky threads to their list. Just a thought...it would help eradicate the clutter and multiple threads on the same topic.

Anyway, I'm done trolling the streets. Off to bed I go.

I once had a lady of colour tell me “I love Big East African cocks but smaller white cocks are fine for work!” I laughed. No problems no worries. Her attitude towards customer service may have been lacking but her preference was hers and hers alone.

Sighhhhhh.