On 2018-03-11 18:13:17 MrShyGuyV2 said:
On 2018-03-11 18:11:03 Pruveooo said: More importantly 'You are never responsible for the actions of others; you are only responsible for you....' Don't hate her for it, it just isn't your path accept it and let it go.

Well said!

Agreed!

Oh sweetheart I have such a passion for this subject and can write a book if aloud the time in response to this.

Though you asked to basic questions the answer could be so much more complex and in reality already with in yourself.

The easiest answer was supplied on this forum though not necessarily the only answer.

Relationships is greatly dependent upon each person's ability to be unselfishly selfish and overall maturity.

Your def of the above 2 key words could also influence the outcome of understanding and therefore it could be difficult to respond shortly though I will do my best not to bore you and not intended to judge anyone merely an opinion.

1. How can I get her to admit

1.1 The desire for her to admit something she is not really willing to discuss would indicate a desire to dominate a truth or your desire upon her.

If she was willing or ready she would have done this and if you really cared about her you would need to focus your attentions on respecting her choose rather than finding ways to push her into something she does not want.

1.2 her not admitting to the there being someone else would be a clear indication that she most definitely does not share the connection you may feel.

This in the end is her source of income and she will need to protect this, if she did however share the connection with you she would have been willing to discuss this with you .

She could pitentially be avoiding and keeping her private life separate from you.

2. How to go forward

Only you can be the judge of your ways and decisions forward as only the basics is supplied in a situation and only you have the whole situations and discussions you may have had.

The basic advice, if she does not commit to you back then she will not even if she does walk away from the guy she met.

If you still feel for the girl and don't want to walk away from her, then except what you are and enjoy the punts with her for yourself or walk away.

You can also be a friend but you can not settle to be second choice nor can you object emotions upon her.

Anyway good luck and have fun

I have the same problem there's a girl that I started to chat to she is so amazing can't get her out my Head

Is it a real connection or is it what this world is about..... the unknown..... the excitement of secrecy.... the adrenalin..... is it real or is it the picture she allows you to see. Is that who she really is or is she in fact a brilliant actress.... how do you know in this twisted scenario? It's wrong of her to do this to you.... drag you along on your real emotions and feelings like a puppy on a leash.... and she knows exactly what she is doing and the sad part is.... I don't believe you are the only one.
Yes.... it's true, we do have stronger connections with some people more than others.... that is how life works in general.... you either click with someone or you dont... but the question is.. does she think of you when you are not there? When you are not paying for her services? Are there moments where she just longs to be in your arms without any financial payback?..... probably not...

Like lookingforfun said.... don't be the second choice. No matter who you are or what you do in life..... NOBODY deserves to be someone's second choice. We are all unique and awesome in our own way and are created to have all great lives... choices.... decisions.... that is what determine our paths...

I hope you will make the right decision even if it will be the hardest one ever.... rather get on with your journey of life and find that one person that you know goes to sleep thinking only about you and wake up with you on her mind.... that's called love..

Xxx

On 2018-03-12 06:54:32 Meg said:
Firstly why should she confess in having someone in her personal life?

To her this is a job.

Gentleman dont want to understand that our whole lives don't just revolves around our jobs.

We do what we have to to survive.

My honest opinion, if her intentions is pure regarding you... it won't hurt to ask if there could be something more.

But I'm my opinion, don't let your dick guide you in thinking you have more in common the money (her) and your needs.....

Sorry for the cold reality... but if she met you in this industry...she won't trust you in the long run.
Once a punter, always a punter.

Meg

This is why I respect you so much. You have the courage to stand up and face all us guys to tell the truth.

So many women have told me exactly what you said here. But you actually had the courage to post it.

I take my hat off to you and I want you to know that even though some guys will take offense, I appreciate your honesty. I really mean it. You gave insight from a lady's perspective. Us guys should take notes and learn from it instead of going about insulting you.

Respect.

Guys we all want the ultimate GFE for that hour or 2. That is whar we pay for. If the lady is so convincing in the delivery theroff, don't blame her because you have fallen in love with her. That my fellow punters is what I like to call "value for money".

Thank the lady and book snother session or 10, as you might not be that lucky yo experience it again.

On 2018-03-12 19:53:36 GreyKnight said:
On 2018-03-12 06:54:32 Meg said: Firstly why should she confess in having someone in her personal life?

To her this is a job.

Gentleman dont want to understand that our whole lives don't just revolves around our jobs.

We do what we have to to survive.

My honest opinion, if her intentions is pure regarding you... it won't hurt to ask if there could be something more.

But I'm my opinion, don't let your dick guide you in thinking you have more in common the money (her) and your needs.....

Sorry for the cold reality... but if she met you in this industry...she won't trust you in the long run.
Once a punter, always a punter.


Meg

This is why I respect you so much. You have the courage to stand up and face all us guys to tell the truth.

So many women have told me exactly what you said here. But you actually had the courage to post it.

I take my hat off to you and I want you to know that even though some guys will take offense, I appreciate your honesty. I really mean it. You gave insight from a lady's perspective. Us guys should take notes and learn from it instead of going about insulting you.

Respect.

Respect indeed! Well said Meg!!

Right as an older guy, there has been some sage advice, but in my opinion life is too short to die wondering. Make a move, declare your intention/thought/ feelings, then sit back and hope for the best, Good luck, I hope you find happiness

Thank you Greyknight... you know me for awhile now.
And all I've ever done was give an honest opinion.
Thank you Doll house much appreciated.

Ps: I'm not bitter, this has happened to me twice before (with punters) and i always fall back to the one thing that gives me security.
In the long run trust runs out, you start questioning your ability to keep a punter happy... what I'm saying is... he met you on ESA he can meet anyone!
Live by the sword die by the sword.

Now on the other hand, if you a hopeless romantic...give everyone a fair chance in life when it comes to love and fantasies.
But you sir pay for what you get... we here for your needs, and you there to help us contribute to our lifestyle and way of living.
And we are thankful for it.
Face it one can't do without the other.....;-)

My two cents worth.

Run and carry on running.
It might hurt like hell now but that's nothing like the hurt you going to endure should you persist.

We all long to. Love and be loved.
Not gonna happen here .