On 2022-01-21 21:04:40 Frank the tank said:
Relationships are hectic and serious stuff.
Humans are we afterwards all with warts and shortcomings. Money, lust, unfaithful sluts and whore- chasers, no good for marriage material.
And yet, we all yearn to be respected, loved and cherished. And that one day all will change...
So dont judge too soon, and allow everyone to keep on hoping.

Love this!

Well said Frank.To the ladies who spoke about money don't make money your only consideration. Finding someone who really cares about you and accepts your job and is genuine about wanting to be with you is far important and very hard to find.

If you need to so carefully do the finances to make sure you not ending up earning R5 less, then you should really not consider this...

Marriage is not supposed to be mostly a business transaction.

On 2022-01-21 21:23:01 YesIamIronMan said:
...don't make money your only consideration...

AMEN to that..
That sir, is one of the main reasons most relationships breakdown!
The chase is real!

Most will tolerate a wealthy cheating partner, but will ditch a broke lover, irrespective of how passionate he/she is!

And yet women ---- good women ---- frightened me because they eventually wanted your soul, and what was left of mine, I wanted to keep

Here's an idea, if you looking to date someone, how about getting a girl that has her own income which has nothing to do with her fucking random strangers.. Worth giving it a short maybe?

Both people must have a realistic discussion on the way forward. Moving from an independent woman to be partly or mostly dependent person is difficult. Finding a job in this economy that pays well is difficult to find.

Over the years I have met 2 ladies that I wanted. In both cases a good discussion was held and in both circumstances we decided to wait and see what happens in the future. We keep in touch and are good friends so maybe it can happen.
Yes this is not a dating site but at least everyone know what may or will happen. Their are alot of male and female gold diggers in the "normal world". So my advise is to let it happen. If it works it works. If not then as Forrest Gump said "Shit happens"

On 2022-01-21 23:16:00 Blaza said:
Here's an idea, if you looking to date someone, how about getting a girl that has her own income which has nothing to do with her fucking random strangers.. Worth giving it a short maybe?

Aah my friend, you think with your brain and not your heart and your penis. Where's the fun in that?

Hehehe. Random message telling me.....How can I expect a man to be the soul provider, blah blah blah.. I am just a gold digger.. and the final piece of "wisdom" thrown my way.. you will never get a man. Hehehehe

Dear "nameless", yes you chose a platform where you could hide your name and number to send me that message.

You must learn to read and most of all to comprehend. None of what I wrote is me or how I feel. All of it is examples of how things goes in this industry or how things might turn out. I just took senarios others mentioned and pulled it apart, to show that choosing a life partner from this industry has many pitfalls.

As for the chirp about not getting a man..I get them daily.. I just choose not to try and keep them;)

I get the best of every guy I meet and send him home to his wife/girlfriend/partner/mother so she can deal with his drama and iron his shirts.;)

Who knows maybe one day, my heart/ my soul will find a heart or soul that reflects what it feels, that day, it really won't care about everything else.

When people are focussed on external things like money, sex, stature,occupation all that, it is not 100% real. Real love don't give a flying fuck about anything but being with that other person.

On 2022-01-22 07:09:21 Miss Red (aka Louise) said:


Who knows maybe one day, my heart/ my soul will find a heart or soul that reflects what it feels, that day, it really won't care about everything else.

When people are focussed on external things like money, sex, stature,occupation all that, it is not 100% real. Real love don't give a flying fuck about anything but being with that other person.

well said.