Very well said.

All along Society has been creating these boxes that we were meant to conform to. If you don't conform, then you are weird.

Funny thing is that some or others may see this uncornformity, and want to try it. They might just like it, but then have to hide their actions from society.

Then again nothing we learnt in school was true, they still don't know how many planets we have, or if beacon is good for you or bad for you or a superfood now.

What's in a name?


How important it is to be on ones best behaviour at all times. How important it is to be true to oneself and who one may be.
When one lives a lie through ones spoken word, through ones presentation of self...the probabilities of being caught out are ever present...living in a constant grip of hesitant breathing, waiting for the axe to fall.

If one chooses to occupy a space derogatory, a space questioned and shunned by society, maybe for no other reason but, simply, because one fears the unknown, then would it not be right to educate and prove how wrong those are, that are looking in.
Being defined by hearsay, falling in the trap of adhering to that hearsay, and thus giving it credibility, is usually the trait of those who question their own self on various levels.

Not all are born under the same stars...some luckier than others, more fortunate at what may be at their disposal. Good fortune bestowed on them without much effort. But, that should not be a valid excuse for the rest of us, who do have to work hard at maintaining a life credible, a life fulfilling, to resort to questionable means tarnishing oneself beyond a 'come back'.

One may ask oneself....then what would be beyond a 'come back', beyond repair? beyond salvaging ones name. ....apart from the obvious henious crimes toward humanity and any other living creature.
Could it be something as simple as a lie, being a bully, deceit, support of those that lead to the degeneration of peace...? what would it be?

Does society know what morals and scruples are, or have they changed simply because we have moved the boundaries on so many things that it doesn't matter how one behaves anymore.
....whats in a name anyway...?

WHATS IN A NAME????.....everything that one may be....thus cherish and look after it like the unique diamond it is....no matter the space one may occupy...even if considered derogatory by society.

RB.

Pandora's box


Time is a luxury. Time is a commodity priceless. Once lost, never to be regained.
It can be cruel in its passing...challenges life changing
... and then at times kind and blessed for it can heal a pain deep a loss shattering.

How easy we forget that time is not ours to keep...not even for a zillionth of a second. How disrespectful we are in our treating of time.

How forgetful we are to share in each other complete no matter the circumstance, the honesty and sincerity in the share tarnished with selfish thoughts of jealousy and intrigue.
That statement..."I will do it tomorrow" or "tomorrow is another day"....make sure the day next, is the right day to leave an action undone, a statement unsaid, a realisation procrastinated for no other reason than simply thinking that time is on ones side.

Yes. One should not be like a bull in a china shop and bulldoze ones way through life....but a common thread seems to have popped up among humans....
the tiredness of facing financial uncertainty
the tiredness of facing a relationship rocky
the tiredness of global uncertainty
the tiredness of a path forward uncertain.
An apathy settling... that things cannot be better than they are... a sad acceptance of the mediocrity of a life influenced by much that is out of the control of the normal man on the street.

It feels as if the time when a legacy left by a parent, no matter how big or small, ones roots, an honour in a family name, a friendship meaningful and deep and lifelong, a family unity, a job proud of.....is not within the grasp of humans....a tarnishing has taken place....a forgetfulness of what is important....or maybe ....a maze of confusion with wrong turns over and over....slapping one down into submission....are we puppets of our own doing or are we puppets of others in seats powerful?

We have opened Pandora's box...and what we have found seems to be destroying us....TIME.....relative or not....it is what we make of it.

RB.

Cyber bullies...a vile pandemic rise among youth and people. I see it every day and the effects on society as a whole... how small and degenerate we have become.

It takes a lot out of an individual to stand in the face of adversity....adversity aimed in discrediting another unfairly.
We all know the power of social media...the discrediting of another, on such a platform, can have devastating repercussions.
Even though one may never come face to face with ones "attacker", the negative effects are worse than those felt when facing ones enemy.
The unknown , the inability , the unfairness of the attack...a cowardly move to do so on a platform hidden.

This is the highest form of cowardice in my opinion. A show of a predator at it its worst. A crime committed without being held accountable.

To know how to fight a bully at his/her own game.
Watch them. Read. Take note. They do reveal themselves.
And stand powerful and firm knowing....they nothing more than simple words, typed on a keyboard.
......NOTHING MORE.

And thus, those that feel the pain of a cyber bully....don't. They not worth it. None of us are any better than the other....and they too....are nothing different from you and i.
Human....made of flesh and blood.

BUT...never forget u have one up on them...they are cowards of the worse sort, keyboard warriors, weak of heart and courage and small of mind.

RB.

How much is enough...financially.

Conversations.....do know to shed wisdom , even in areas where one may imagine oneself wise enough already.
For those that think they too wise or, know it all, at any point in their lives...sorry for u...the world will pass u by, sooner rather than later, u will be shown up for your desire to stay in a state stubbornly ignorant.
Lending a keen ear, does not mean one is expected to believe or take on anything heard. But, it does leave the option open for further investigation and application in ones life, should it make sense and be suitable for further growth and success .
I love pioneers...and by that i mean...not only those that dare to venture into unknown territories but, also those who dare to better their lives and adopt and adapt to a new way of thinking or lifestyle positive.
To aspire and surround oneself and intentionally will positivity even bigger than that which one may possess, should be a normal state of being.

and thus the story...

"It has been so long since i have seen u! Trust u have been keeping well?!?" An enthusiastic and sincere greeting on seeing an old acquaintance that had been missing in action for quite some time. She did notice though, that his demeanour was not one filled with energy and if anything, he seemed to be a little "out of it"...a quiet disassociation of what was around him.
"Are u ok....?" she asked, since his response was a mere shrugging of shoulders.
"Ag...just feeling a bit narfy..." he responded.
"Well. I think i know what narfy means. But what do u mean by that. Are u sickly?"
"Not at all." He said. "Its just i have no interest to be busy anymore, i know the wrongs in my business but....i simply don't care. U know when u aware that they taking u for a ride yet, u make no effort to rectify it because it will make no difference in your life? I am there. How much more do i want? It is time to sell off everything and just be plain lazy. I have worked hard enough and made enough."
All she could do was stand back and smile..."I like your narfy." she said..." wouldn't mind being narfy, just like u. Yes! one day i shall be just as narfy as u!"
He was definitely a character she had much to learn from. His positive outlook as to his dedicated application to hard work that knew to reap rewards later in his life, was worthy of noting and hearing how he did it.
Their visit was an interesting educational one for her and for him, a realisation that maybe it was time he wasn't tooooo narfy and best get out there and tie up the lose ends and work toward freeing himself of unnecessary existing responsibilities. It was time to put the full stops to his finished endevours."

RB.

A reminder for, that time is creeping up on us when nostalgic pangs become deeper and more painful and many may wish for the comfort of another...the recent past of a pandemic against humanity where one could not be there for ones loved ones when most needed, will have left its mark most debilitating.

.......

Selfishly individualistic.


If u had to think of one thing that your mind rests...that one thing that places no pressure, no uncertainty, needs no forgiving, understanding or even effort on your part...what would it be?

If the first thing that comes to mind is a person, then u are blessed. Then the question would be....do they think of u as their sanctuary, their sanctity, where nothing needs to be feared, bargained, explained, excused...

Could it be that in that situation they be your sanctuary and in return...u will be a sanctuary to someone else...that it could never be a situation returned, for once u are the one leaning in for help...they feel obliged to always be there for u and somehow...u too, view them as individuals that need no rest from life and its challenges...they seem so put together, and u being so selfishly self absorbed, u miss the tell-tale signs when they may need your shoulder and u, as their rest place.

Even the strongest of people, the most put together people, those successful in their right...need their rest...need their safe haven where they are allowed to breath and be insecure and needy.

Sometimes those people need it more than those that wear their emotions on their sleeve. Sometimes the most obvious cry babies may simply be drama queens that need to be tut-tutted aside and rather, attention given to those who manage to fly under the radar struggling with themselves.

It takes courage to admit to feeling challenged.

...could it be nothing to do with courage...

but
rather

that there are very few people who know and understand what it takes to be a place of rest.

.... and thus high walls built and a withdrawal from society as a whole for it seems to fail many too often....
a mere shell of a person
living
socialising
and grappling in instances challenging.

How selfishly individualistic we are in our existence.

The robotic era upon us?

RB.

Shrewd...?

How important it is to listen and hear what another may be saying. In the words spoken, no matter the tone or occasion, much can be learnt about the person speaking. But, coupled with the ability of listening and hearing one should take note to read the intentions of company shared.
I suppose many prefer to see the best in all situations, giving the benefit of doubt to a niggling feeling....not resorting to be suspicious of nature.
In that case, does one fall easy prey to predators.... Is it foolish or sheer stupidity to be taken for a ride over and over by those dabbling in intrigue and deceitful behaviour?

i happened to mention to a dear acquaintance how shrewd he was, and his response was one of hurtful surprise. He near took it as an insult, and i meant it as a compliment, a characteristic i would be proud of, in this challenging world.
As per the definition of the word 'shrewd'...

astute, sharp-witted, intelligent, savvy, perceptive, observant, wise, far-seeing, far-sighted.....

now....

Why would i not want to be shrewd?

For me, to be shrewd, means a happy medium, where one looks after ones interest and at the same time can make a moment, a situation work for another too....it is not a quality i would compliment a person untruthful, abusive and deceitful.
But then he pointed out.....many a successful questionable character was shrewd enough to abuse the goodness of others for their personal benefit. And thus i had to admit, like anything in life, it all boils down to the character of the person and who they may be...
I assured him....he was shrewd in the best of ways.....and when he left...i had to ask myself....could it be he had a guilty conscience for some reason or other.....?

I suppose we all have the good and bad in us....and sometimes to be shrewd could be to the detriment of another.

RB.

Ms. Russian Bridgette... You are, quite simply, amazing.

On 2021-11-16 21:56:12 StaalBurger48 said:
Ms. Russian Bridgette... You are, quite simply, amazing.

A huge compliment that be...and graciously i say...Thank you and at the same time blush most profusely. x

the duality of supporting what society considers taboo


A write inspired by much discussion taken place around sensuality and partnerships.

Finding oneself in a space sensual, where emotions run high and the intimate self is laid bare, in more ways than one, it takes a huge amount of courage and understanding and acceptance of self to let go and take a leap of faith , believing that something good can be gained from such an exploit.

Before i continue, i would like to stress that, i, in no way, condone or promote any form of promiscuity but, matters sexual and sensual know to lead to unnecessary misunderstanding and breakdown in relations that could have been sorted if acknowledged and addressed....and thus my meandering post.

Having had a conversation / debate with a gentleman, and then, being contacted by a stressed lady with respect to what she thinks is happening in her home, the duality of addressing sensuality and saying it is ok, i know will raise a few hairs on the backs of some people. But, possessing the maturity of emotion and logic, (quite an anomaly for logic tends to be without emotion) is needed in matters when it comes to intimate relations...and in most cases an outsider is able to do that rather than the parties involved in the crisis.

There we were indulging in each others good company when conversation took on a serious note.
It revolved around sensuality and the need to acknowledge and understand the sensual and sexual needs of partners.
Due to the conversation being held with a gentleman, his comment was interesting as to the benefits of 'training' a new bride in the arts of intimate relations between husband and wife. A sort of 'school' where she would be taught how to please her man .
Of course...i had to ask him...that in return she would be pleased by her teacher?...for in order to reach that ultimate satisfaction and sweet spot, where both lovers are satiated and satisfied and understand each other..... it is a two way stream, is it not?.....and thus becoming a 'tarnished' new bride to be...?...acceptable?
My other question was based on how a potential bride is viewed and what is it that men, (many may not admit to it) look for in their potential wives and mothers-to-be of their children.
Derogatory words i shall use but, i am sure it is not a 'slutty' type of girl that admits to having enjoyed sucking cock and sleeping with a number of men and knowing to swing from chandeliers and taking it from behind doggy style screaming 'Ride me baby! Fuck me harder!"
This kind of girl is the epitome of a porn fantasy many men would love to indulge in but, prefer to keep it a fantasy and not bring it home.
And before anybody thinks i am judging such behaviour and classifying it as unacceptable...if that is what u do with your partner / lover / husband...mutually agreed upon and enjoyed in private...well, heck why not!!

it is not to say that wives and those that are mothers do not know to be 'slutty' and drive their other half up the wall, with their seductive sensuality but, somewhere along the line she may have lost herself in the role of being everything else than that which she could be, feeling less attractive and sexy....plus....her belief of what a decent good wife is all about, all of a sudden takes on a different look.
There may be that belief that being 'slutty' is religiously unacceptable, will make her other half think less of her and thus viewing herself above such 'unacceptable' and 'lowly' behaviour.

I find it strange and don't understand nor accept that something as beautiful as lovemaking and the possible discovery of each others bodies, in various ways, is viewed as sinful and lowly and that the Almighty would frown upon it and curse those that indulge.
But, i do understand that as humans, preconceived ideas and societies viewpoints, that anyway are so fucked and confused and change from day in and out, tend to carry sway and know to influence, even the strongest of mind and belief, leading to unhappy situations in the home and behaviour questionable and hurtful.

And now to the call from a lady who was clearly stressed and concerned about what she thought were the dabbling of her husband in lurid lustful desires.
Again, i am not saying there are not those that do not indulge in the unacceptable, but knowing the environment on offer for such an indulgence, it is sad that the first thought of her partner would be that he is weak of character and easily turned to lustful wanton escapades.

There is no one answer as to why the need to consider and indulge in matters intimate, out of ones home, for each home has its own dynamics and issues .

Is it weakness of character? Is it lack of intimacy? Is it a comfortable routine confusing it for satisfaction and happiness? A drifting apart yet accepting of each other?
The answer lies in being truthful with oneself and including the other half...wife or husband...as to one state of dissatisfaction.

I know, easier said than done.

I am a great promoter and advocate sensuality , erotica and all those wonderful human intimacies The Almighty has blessed us with.
For those who find it difficult to understand my unapologetic acknowledgement, maybe it be time to re-assess your understanding of what it means to be human, and learn to start living.....unapologetic and without judgement...with your partner of choice.

and in closing...contradictory it may be viewed as....

The question being....when we are with someone...are we looking for a 'sole' mate or a 'soul' mate...in both cases...are the possibilities for those idealistic of thought and wanting to look at the world through rose tinted glasses?
Am i saying it cant happen?
Not at all.
The right place at the right time is what it takes.
And for those who live happily in an unknown naive state of mind...why not...what counts is that it is your reality and of nobody else.
Many a time certain things are best left untouched...it knows to reap its rewards later in ones life.
The choice is yours...what u seek u will find....and once u find it...if it makes u unhappy, ask yourself why and don't project blame onto the world, but take the bull by the horns and sort it out...if u happy...blessed be your state of mind!!!

Now ride the crest of erotic sensuality and smile at the image of your satisfied being. There will be those who love u dearly and will smile with u and ride the same crest.

RB.