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Posted: 2017-05-02 11:27:22

Thanks sibyl... Honesty is the main key to any relationship...Imagine going out to the bar with your woman and guys looking at her thinking shes offering outdoor services because they have slept with her and you think shes only offering massages till one of them tell you exactly what she does so tell me how do you defend your woman or protect her?
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Posted: 2017-05-02 11:47:28

Perfectly said Sibyl!

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Posted: 2017-05-02 14:08:53
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On 2017-05-02 11:27:22 Pussyeater980 said:
Thanks sibyl... Honesty is the main key to any relationship...Imagine going out to the bar with your woman and guys looking at her thinking shes offering outdoor services because they have slept with her and you think shes only offering massages till one of them tell you exactly what she does so tell me how do you defend your woman or protect her?


By the same token, even when she only offered pelvic before, those same guys in the bar could have been thinking that "shes offering outdoor wanking services", because she has wanked them before and could have come up to you and told you that your woman "is a slut and that she gave him a wank". Would your reaction then be any different? Will you feel less angry and embarrassed, because you knew already that she wanked her clients? Equally, if you knew that she has penetrative sex with her clients and a client told you that "I fucked your woman", will you feel less angry and embarrassed?

Point I'm trying to make, it is irrelevant whether her services include penetrative sex, only a wank or only straight massages in lingerie or in the nude, she IS offering services of a sexual nature, meaning in the minds of clients, she has given them a service of a sexual nature before.

BUT even if she was not in this industry at all and had a normal job, you will still always get a wanker in a pub, who will try his luck or drool over her, regardless if she is with her partner in the pub or not.

I feel that it is the woman's duty to tell wankers to fuck off, when they try to get into her and believe me, most women are very capable of doing this, so you do not need to protect or defend her in public.


My advice: Stop worrying that she may have a big sign on her head that tells the whole world what she does for a living - she does not - in fact most people will probably never even guess that she is in this industry, unless you tell all and sundry that she is. Stop worrying about what other people think, especially her clients. Don't let it influence your relationship. Their opinions mean nothing and certainly mean even less if they paid to be serviced by your woman. In fact, you should see it as a compliment that they have to pay to spend an hour or two with her, whereas she CHOOSES to come home to you every night, despite the fact that you are not paying her to do so.

The only two people who matter, is you and her. Don't lend importance to other people's thoughts or actions, because in the bigger scheme of things that should not be what defines your love for each other and what you have together as a couple.



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Posted: 2017-05-02 15:05:27

Has this ever worked practically for any punter and sp?

Has there ever been a Beauty & The Beast love story which worked out from here?

I heard of one, where they got engaged but it ended. Not sure if it ended in divorce or before marriage.
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Posted: 2017-05-02 18:59:15

On 2017-05-02 15:05:27 Montoya said:
Has this ever worked practically for any punter and sp?

Has there ever been a Beauty & The Beast love story which worked out from here?

I heard of one, where they got engaged but it ended. Not sure if it ended in divorce or before marriage.



Are you ever guaranteed that it will work? Divorce rates say not
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Posted: 2017-05-02 19:53:39

Sibyl, your advice you gave hear... man!! Spot on and so so true.

Thankyou for stating your opinion, as it helps me aswell as I'm kind of in a similar situation as the guy, and while every situation is different, your sage piece of advice is priceless.
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Posted: 2017-05-02 20:22:36

On 2017-05-02 11:27:22 Pussyeater980 said:
Thanks sibyl... Honesty is the main key to any relationship...Imagine going out to the bar with your woman and guys looking at her thinking shes offering outdoor services because they have slept with her and you think shes only offering massages till one of them tell you exactly what she does so tell me how do you defend your woman or protect her?



Honestly if something like that happened I would have taken my partner out of there after paying the bill.
Walk right to this ass and say... you know what, you PAID for her service because you seem like a gentleman who can't get a girl otherwise.
Then saying you had her( you paid for her time), now she's mine.
Why do you worry about what other people think of her?
Don't you love her enough to stand up for your lady?
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Posted: 2017-05-02 20:34:11

On 2017-05-02 20:22:36 Meg said:
On 2017-05-02 11:27:22 Pussyeater980 said: Thanks sibyl... Honesty is the main key to any relationship...Imagine going out to the bar with your woman and guys looking at her thinking shes offering outdoor services because they have slept with her and you think shes only offering massages till one of them tell you exactly what she does so tell me how do you defend your woman or protect her?

Honestly if something like that happened I would have taken my partner out of there after paying the bill.
Walk right to this ass and say... you know what, you PAID for her service because you seem like a gentleman who can't get a girl otherwise.
Then saying you had her( you paid for her time), now she's mine.
Why do you worry about what other people think of her?
Don't you love her enough to stand up for your lady?



Meg i know how many jerks have beaten up to defend her..its my responsibility but this case its what i dont know about i mean i have asked her on many occasions to tell me more about the what she does but she lied
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Posted: 2017-05-02 21:10:25

Sir it seems like nothing we say will convince you ever but to follow your own head.
A lot of us ladies talks about firsthand experience, me included!

I wouldn't lie to my partner,and I would expect him not to lie if he punts.
Honesty goes both ways.

What I don't understand is why would she feel the need to do more if you pay her that much?
Fuck it doesn't make sense!
Haven't she just always been a working girl and kept quiet about it?
I for one wouldn't do what I do if someone looked after me.
But then again independence is a issue for me and a lot of us( it's a ego thing).
I've been alone to long.... but if the relationship is worth it I would give it all up in a heartbeat!

No one likes to struggle, today you can't survive on 10000! Some have 2 jobs just to pay there roof over there heads!
And she have a kid?
Now that's motivation at its highest level to do what she's been doing!

My advice is... talk to her, don't blame her or say it's her fault that things are the way they are.
Never show a finger it could backfire in your face because how did you get on ESA?(think it was in your mind)

People won't just go on a porn site after a breakup... they would go out and socialize and try and talk to normal ladies (and in your case yours is in this industry) so you definitely don't want to book someone to take away your sorrows.
You falling back to one thing that drove you apart in the first place.
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Posted: 2017-05-02 21:16:21

Thanks meg

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