@ Savanna , i don't mean any harm by what i'm saying but unfortunatley we have to force ourselves to be friendly at times. As i said , if a guy is abusive its a different senario altogether. Me referring to him being an ass , is him having no manners.

Wow Valentina though...what just happened there! Unrivaled unparalleled untouchable unbelievable understanding indescribable unmissable...and the list goes on and on...

Dear Valentina
I am astounded by you generosity, but that is what we have come to know from you, isnt it? When I posted my 2c worth, I was simply getting something off my chest, and once again you step up with an offer that is simply impossible to pass up.
I will be in contact, and I must reiterate that I never looked for a free handout, I will be in contact.

U just raised the bar a thousand miles in the right direction proving u the ultimate val. Hopefully when the time is ryt I'lle be meetin u miss v last time was just not meant to be. Think mutual respect needs to be shown for both punter and wg.

Dear Valentina
I am speechless to say the least. This offer to spend time with you is unbelievable and unexpected, but so appreciated. It will be a long road to your door but I will be there.
Thank you, thank you
That is all I can say at this point in time ;-)

Very very relevant post. I am certainly no seasoned punter - but view a sp profile for quite a while across various sites, and have to kinda pscyh myself up before making the call.
To receive dis-interested sloppy service is rather a let down.

I guess we have to respect those ladies who we cant get hold of - theyre prob spent for the day and would prefer no further clients, over taking a booking and delivering sub standard service.

And yes - kudos to the wonderful Ms Valentina. Its as clear as day that this topic was not directed at you - but the wonderful human being in you steps in to restore some joy. Well done

Never forget ladies and gents that respect goes both ways
I am sure the seasoned punters will never stand a lady up with out letting her know and same goes for the true ladies out there

its those a-holes who call and wank while listening to the lady describe her services and drugged up skanks looking for their next score that give bad names

Good morning to all on this thread.

I did chose this particular thread referring to bad service given in the escorting business (which seem to be a constant and something that plagues this industry) to publish my desire of giving around 40 hours of my time which represent a gift out valued around
30 000 rand before year ends to few gentleman on ESA.

This WAS NOT a decision based on business sense at all (it doesn't make sense to my finances..lol), nor was carefully calculated to gain something from it, in fairness said, it was very much a decision I took by impulse originated in a personality trait I possess:
GIVE without wanting anything IN RETURN. An unconditional gift...
from time to time that desire burst out of me in whatever form.

The selection was not arbitrary of course.
I did chose in first instance the gents in this thread that distinguished my business as exemplary and unparallel and act upon it by expressing it in a praising manner publicly but which ones have NOT YET visited me and can't gauge how much of it, is exactly as I say it is.

Of course I have received 1000s of glorious compliments public and privately from 100s and 100s of people in this very site, I have come to adore most of you over the past 4 years without even meeting you, as it is for example Honeybear to mention just one.
I have come to admire many others for the amazing ways they go around although I seem not to see much of life through their lenses...still I love them!
But this wasn't base on preference, and likes or on praises received... or else I would have to accommodate 10000s of you and I simply can not.
I do beg understanding in this regard, please please..!


SOME CLARIFICATIONS MADE PUBLIC:

1) NO gifts, NO presents of any sort in RE-payment or gratitude. This is a gift TO YOU..take it in full!

2) No reviews expected.
Making an OBJECTIVE and ACCURATE review without overlooking the flaws about an escort that just gave you a free session it might proof to be rather impossible BUT if you have to, then keep in mind that I am foremost a business woman and a grown up that can take constructive criticism.
Feel free and be impartial as much as you can!


3) NO compromise of returning to me at all or having to pay a repeat visit out of gratitude or feelings of obligation either...
if this is your ONE OFF time with me for whatever reasons let's celebrate live our moment.
(reasons could be really any:
-your likes of services been strictly massage only.
-Been my fees out of your range or affordable bracket.
- not liking having regulars but rather enjoy the variety.
Having to fly all the way to SA just for this. (2 gentlemen already are going to do this)
Whatever it is please don't feel OBLIGE!)

4) I don't know your inclinations and because it wasn't you the one that chose my service but me, there is a chance that you only opt for massage in this industry...
You don't have to go "THE FULL MONTY" with me...!!! We will find plenty to do in our date!

NOTE* I AM OH SO NERVOUS, not too sure what I have got into..hee hee lol.
So, easy on me.
But I am on the horse now....
I will make it gallop.

MAKING A DIFFERENCE and differentiating in this industry:

It is intrinsic in me to aim to make a difference in whatever industry I get involved with, but mainly in those that have to do with providing a service.
I was out to prove, first to myself, that this business can be conducted with beauty, dignity and even glamour even in the less upmarket environments with shortage on finances even when offering the whole full extreme porn.

In my view the first real impediment is:
The VICTIM MENTALITY, the "poor little me" mind set that runs rampant and at the very core of this industry among the escorts.
We are not going anywhere with that mindset.
The mentality that the world is out there to get you and hurt you...the world at large is taking advantage of you...
because life and circumstances "has forced" you to do a job that YOU yourself* deep inside and unconsciously frown upon it while in denial shouting that you love your job.
In the victim mentality there is always someone or something causing and been responsible for the destruction and misery in their lives, the BULLIES are always at their door and there is always someone at fault that will be the excuse of such bad service (the punters, the advertising company, society at large, the....whatever)
There are many gentlemen paying premiums for an hour service to end up getting a MacDonald's drive-through experience which burger is even missing one side of the bread

Many of us are charging rates equivalent to our lawyers and doctors yet deliver a sub-standard job.
Taking advantage of a "physiological hormonal impulse" and making last such excitement minutes and kicking them out has a name. We are bullying the living shit out of them.

In my book of life we attract into our lives the people, events and circumstances that matches our belief system and our programmed mind set.
THE VICTIM AND THE ABUSER will always find each other and meet at the same space one way or another.
The victim become an abuser in the long run as a "defence mechanism".

Change that mind set and a WHOLE NEW WORLD and a beautiful side of this business will be shown to you.

I have yet to see a gent crossing my door to be anything short from amazing.

Love always.
Valentina Dibella.

Well done Valentina, lucky chaps they are indeed!!! However i do want to point out that sometimes the victim mentality resides within the minds of punters as well. Many times there are bad reviews where the punters show extreme disdain for the WG's inability to cater for some of their desires, sometimes I don't think its that the WG doesnt want to cater for punter but more the approach the punter takes in engaging the WG.

Respect goes both ways and i think in the proper engagements where there is mutual respect this is never an issue but when punters walk in with the 'meat market', 'piece of ass' im going to dominate you b***h mentality which seems to be prevalant in some of the comments on profiles, it's hardly surprising that they feel disrespected when their ego's are challanged and then come to the forum complaining they have been treated unfairly and victimised by the WG's.

Naturally there are cases where the punters have a valid case but i think its more the exception than the rule.

Midrand Spa - this place excels at disrespecting customers and wasting your time.

Avoid it!