Does life owe you?


There be those cycles we go through. Each and every one different, with their ups and downs, challenges and rewards. They be the cogs of our life. They remind us we are alive...well and breathing.

The important thing being never to under-estimate or forget every moment we live is beautiful, in its own right.
What would we do if our lives were smooth sailing. If we didn't know what it means to pine or long or desire or ache or cry...how can we then be thankful and grateful for the contentment we feel in a lovers arms, the kiss of a loved one, that accolade received for achievements worked for.
How could we appreciate a laugh sincere, a smile broad, brought about by something we may have said or done.

When sharing something special with another, how precious that share.
To be arrogant and nonchalant about our own birth, thinking life owes us only the best, no care to understand the value of life itself...be a tragedy.

To understand the value of another persons life and respect it with a kind word, a greeting, a helping hand, the care to not insult or bully unnecessarily, to know to be patient even when frustration simmers...adds depth and value to our own being.
It be a moment of self-realisation when one can be introspective and grow when discovering ones own weaknesses or fears and more. Knowing the optimism of such moments and the richness in their challenge.

But. also knowing not to wallow in self pity and get lost in the winding corridors of questions without answers. There is only so much we will be blessed with in this life, we like it or not.
Those answers eluding us...in this life, one should not fret too much about and forget to live.


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look carefully for there be an imprint
in the creation of each one of us a blueprint
like our fingerprints we be unique
the creation of each one of us, though, oblique.

be there no preconceived idea of why
to understand we may try
does it really matter if nothing be clear
for there be so much around that one holds dear.

we were given to sigh, to cry but then laugh and smile too
the quality of our life given to us to brew
yes destiny and fate may have a hand in much
the preference should be the best of everything to clutch.

so being innocent and naive, much inexperience
at times one may see it as an inconvenience
but isn't that half the pleasure of discovery
in the learning through many pitfalls, the recovery.

RB

The value of being human

What is it about some people that just know how to make one feel great about oneself. Even when one selfishly goes off on a monologue of nothingness, pure blaaa-blity-blaaa.
There they are patiently listening...maybe even not
but, still, having the decency to stick it out until one has unwound to such an extent that has left the listener drained and frazzled.

Those people that are always around the corner, no matter the physical distance and are the first to come to mind when one feels challenged or slight
ly lost as to what may be the next best step in ones life.
They never complain...yes, do roll their eyes at times, sigh in total surrender to ones stubbornness of not hearing, shuffle in their seat...do hold ones gaze, watch intently as one goes through various emotions...and at no point in time make one feel stupid for being so melodramatic.

I have learnt, i have been blessed, I have observed...and as each year has past me by...realised how little i had known the year before. I have learnt what emotional maturity is ...have been blessed with the wise - young and old - each offering something unique, a lesson valuable.

How content the Soul feels when fed with company serene, peaceful, knowing that loud is not necessary all the time. How rewarding when one hears the words spoken by another, telling one, one ain't any different from them or anybody else....that life may be cruel, may be unfair, may be a shit-hole at times, but it is ones own life, an asset worthy of all that one can be, give, dedicate, nurture, nourish, and care for.
And should one not know to pick people kind and understanding , definitely not stupid or unworldly, to surround oneself with
but
tend to be swayed by instant gratification, short-term rewards, praise false, flattery unnecessary...yet knowing within ones soul of souls how empty it leaves one, over and over...then best one look into the mirror and for once...just for once...ask oneself why is it that one seeks such potholes in ones life...what is it that makes one feel less worthy of another sort....a sort maybe not the most popular, maybe not always agreeable, honest to a fault..is it their ability to not sing praise false but, rather, know to bring the best out of one
because
one knows ones own self worth.

To learn to accept and know oneself before anybody else can...otherwise one shall wallow and rot in self-pity and be at the mercy of self abuse and that of others.

RB.

Coincidence

A chosen road travelled where challenges faced make one deviate off the path travelled.

A perchance happening. A meeting unplanned.

Imprinted on ones mind forever. A ripple so intense to change choices made.

What is a coincidence.

Is it a coincidence to come across a crime and be able to stop or slow it down yet put ones own life in danger.

Is it a coincidence to witness a person in peril and be able help but, to the peril of ones own life.

Is it a coincidence to witness a situation so dire and not part of ones everyday but at the price of ones own sanity.

Is it coincidence to be hurled on a path less travelled.....and yet.....perchance.....it may just not be a coincidence.

Whatever our choices, in that instant, will stay imprinted on the vastness of existence. Not only affecting us but, others too.

Coincidence is not coincidence...it is a further defining of how much is potentially out of our control.

So.

When the chance presents itself and you find yourself, coincidentally, in a place you can help, without any devastating repercussions to yourself or others.....

May you be blessed 100 fold and rewarded richly for being the Good Samaritan that ended the misery of another

RB.

A piece written many moons ago and will hold true forever...

"Guardian Angels".


There are times in ones life when going it alone is made easier with the support and wisdom of another.
Having the clarity of mind to recognise and acknowledge another's advise and guidance, is a step toward potential success just waiting to happen.
Who doesn't like to be acknowledged for their efforts in whatever space or sphere they find themselves in?

The danger being when the ego is bigger than the reality of the person themselves....forgetting humility , forgetting to listen, to hear.....and thus finding themselves in a

everlasting circle of repeat failures and challenges....not progressing much in ones personal space and otherwise.
The arrogance of a mind stuck in the hallucination that there is nobody better. Forgetting we are all indisposable.

There are Guardian Angels out there. They sit patiently, quietly.
Observing.
They spread their wings and fly silent, attaching themselves to people receptive to their help.
People who have opened themselves up to the Universe.....their behaviour, that trump card, calling for a winning hand.

I always say...be careful how u conduct yourself...even when your pride is on the line and u feel real stupid and have been taken for an ass-ride.
A knee-jerk response may cost u in the future.
And is that knee-jerk response worth it anyway?
To pick a fight and get involved is easy.
To sidestep it.....is a totally different kettle of fish.

There are Guardian Angels.....and they are very alive and walking on this fine Earth.
I know....ask me. My wings do care to spread in flight again.....i like to think i can be someone's Guardian Angel.
And my Guardian Angel is worth more than all the salt on this earth. He is bigger than big and his wings shield me from harm and stupid decisions....a careful kindness i

choose to accept and respect and thus curl in his quiet wisdom.

We all have Guardian Angels.....we just need to acknowledge them and allow them to teach and guide us without always wanting to be right.

RB.

This is so beautiful and so true. Very few will realise it until it's too late. Some will never

Dearest AE...to know to continue to be that hope for another, no matter them being blind-sighted to the longterm benefits, is all that matters.

x

"When you connect with people who are good for you, you feel it. This is a big deal. Don't forget to acknowledge how great it is to be around Someone who lights you up. Tell them, even if you feel a little weird. Your people love your weirdness." - The Minds Journal


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Have courage...Why? Say it as is...


How often one worries to express what one feels, especially in a situation where one feels attracted to another, not only on the physical level but, any level being intellectual, amusing, thought provoking, friendship and much more.
Why is it that we find it easier to show anger, frustration...those feelings of negativity.
Yet to show the softer side of self is so daunting. The fear of exposure of the inner self. The fear of being refused or ridiculed or being wrong.
And what if ones courage to simply say it as it is, taking that first step to acknowledge, vocally, a fact, enriches and grows what is already there.
One need not be brave ...one need simply to say it as it is...no over thinking as to what the response may be...a liberating selfish indulgence of telling the other how happy they make one.

I prefer to be selfish in that sort of indulgence and tell my special ones how awesome they make me feel!!

RB.

Chains of habit..a rut excusable?


"The chains of habit are too weak to be felt until they are too strong to be broken."
Samuel Johnson

When the fear of failure, trepidation in moving toward change starts to thaw ones conviction, purpose and reserves of energy, belief and faith , then sets in habit...behavioural patterns repetitive , safe, in an environment familiar and comfortable.
The idea of the unknown too challenging to consider.
A laziness to apply oneself , self contentment and satisfaction taking second seat, preferring a 'rut' known.
When monotonous mediocrity of ones life all of a sudden becomes too challenging , a realisation that ones life is being wasted away yet, the pull of the known seems safer than the unknown that call of promised fruitful new beginnings, like anything in life, requiring that new found energy to apply oneself paving a new pathway, reaching for a rediscovery of the 'self' ...then begins the struggle of standing at crossroads...choices to be made, considered...applied.

An analysis of what is required to start on a journey new. A demand for commitment, conviction and purpose, faith in the new found call...all of a sudden grasping the enormity of the task at hand.

And once again, to slump back into 'habit' promising oneself baby steps toward change, excuses acceptable as to why things may not be as bad as one imagines.. 'the right time and place'....

Courage. Is it about courage? Is it about truth? Is it about acceptance? Or, is it that as humans, we complicate our lives with the choices we make and then don't know how to extricate ourselves out of the 'shit' we have created? Then again, are we simply too lazy to reach for possibilities new, ignoring the flame that burns in each one of us, egging us forward on a journey rewarding no matter how big or small.

Habit.

A rut invented and propagated by most humans and excused by the fear we feel when asked to step forward courageously and map a path new.

Excusable? RB.

Recognised for ones achievements


How often the need to be acknowledged and recognised for ones achievements. How pretentious and silly to claim not to care. Promotions. Earnings increased. Growth.

Progression....a definite climb toward personal gratification...until a position held.

To be acknowledged for ones application, dedication and success at ones work is positive reinforcement that will bring out the best in the achiever...ever striving to do better.
As is constructive criticism. It may not sit easy to hear another bring out factors that do impede ones further growth.


But, achievers do not personalise constructive criticism and rather rationalise, what is said in good faith, keep their feet firmly on the ground, and aspire to do better.

Knowing what needs to be 'heard' is another trait achievers have fine tuned, taking note of empty words of criticism from others....just in case (damage control if necessary) ....but brushing the emptiness aside without giving it the power it does not deserve....refusing to make a mountain out of a molehill.

Sometime, even the best of the best, fall off the track and need to be reigned in. Nothing wrong with that except when one thinks too highly of oneself and sees oneself not worthy of guidance and criticism.
To climb high also means, should the fall come....damn....it is a long way down .....to dig oneself out of debilitating situations takes emotional maturity and strength of character....sounds harsh yes but, the truth is, whiners do not get very far.


Sadly, in this world, a hardening of the outer shell is a necessary 'evil'.Even more important is being real about oneself.

Pull up a chair. Sit in front of that mirror....and be honest.

Not about the good points but, the less than good.....and in the process learn to NOT be self-deprecating but, rather, love what one may see and unashamedly admit, a change would be good, if necessary.

We forget, the way we see ourselves may not be how others see us and in return...they may not see that which we know of ourselves, for, erratically we forget to be "self" , ever adapting and changing falling into the cesspool of what society and others dictate.....showing us up for weak of character or desperate to adapt and be acknowledged.


To know oneself and stand with conviction and firm in the face of adversity and attacks from others will be acknowledged in the long run, even by ones deepest enemies.

To be liked is one thing. To earn the respect of another is much harder work and an honour and accolade of the highest degree.
Further it requires harder application , deeper understanding and greater maturing of self.....not caring too much to fall in with the crowd yet, also knowing how to not be an outcast.

And thus i say...one should not forget to respect oneself, first, even in those moments of foolish behaviour....everybody makes mistakes....nobody is perfect.

We are human after all.


RB.

What is it that makes u doubt?...u yourself?

"A head full of fears has no space to dream..." - Ege Avci

What is it that stimulates a person's mind and body in the most positive of ways.
That knows to awaken thoughts fruitful, decisions firm and actions energetic and rearing for results.
What is it that drains one of hope and the need to apply oneself in ways rewarding and fulfilling and growing.

How often does one get lost in uncertainty, indecisiveness, something holding one back, unable to pull oneself out of that rut that keeps one from taking that next step toward a form of personal growth, a progression toward a new goal.

Is it the environment one finds oneself in, that company kept, not comfortable in it, yet, accepting to be surrounded by such.
That non belief in self that one is worthy of something better.
A settling for second best for it is much easier to do that than imagine to fight the obstacles and uncertainties one would have to face. A fear of failure, a fear of the unknown.

If that be the case, then would it not be correct to imagine to surround oneself with those who know to remind one of all the good points one possesses, to remind one of that inner strength that we all possess.

Would it not be fair and kind to treat oneself to a space in time with company, maybe daunting for they seem bigger than life itself, yet know to bring out the best in one. To treat oneself to those who are accepting of what they see before them, that understand how a human mind ticks and accepts a situation for what it is without being judgemental but, rather, constructive in their advise and guidance.

How often people find false friendships and align themselves to others knowing it holds nothing sustainable and good for the future. And even though that niggling truth does eat away at ones conscious, one tends to ignore it and then begins the slow downward spiral.

Not all that society preaches is right and not all that the majority accepts is right.

What may be important is to know oneself. Why bother to lie to oneself? It doesn't change ones reality.
Having that courage to sit before a mirror and learn to love and hate and cry and laugh and...eventually....see oneself. See oneself for what one is...for once that has been realised, there be nothing or anybody that can make one feel less worthy than the perfect creature one is in ones own imperfections.

One tends to forget there is no such thing as perfection in the true sense. What many may be are those that know to progressively strive to be a better version of self as their days pan out before them. The desire to learn from ones mistakes and try very very hard not to repeat them.

To be perfect is to be the best imperfect one knows to be.....take a leap of faith....you may just be surprised at what you may find.

RB.