On 2015-11-26 13:14:11 Jameslasting said:
Not exactly fresh, Cayla, it has been a number of years, but then again they were pretty good years (all 12 of them, especially the last 10) which I ascribe it to my vulnerability management policy.

True that ladies "bounce back" far quicker than gents. I also respect the many cribriform gents who find it in them to "bounce back" at all. Personally, such thoughts are akin to skydiving -- you only get one opportunity to bounce -- and its definately not back. :-)

I'm surprised that you are still in country. Planning a White Christmas this year?

Oh my luv; I want to be witty and clever ... Although feel I'm treading on delicate ground. I think everyone needs love, no matter what sex or size or color. Unfortunately some of us love more and give more of ourselves. There is no wrong here, it's just a mismatch - different people coming together, perhaps for the wrong reasons; and not sustainable long term. Another reason could be the institution of marriage itself! I have allot to say about that, although maybe for another time.

A favorite saying of mine: 'women give sex to get love' and 'men give love to get sex' and it's very true. We all exist in our our paradigms (view of world) and rarely step out of it to completely, to understand another. Yes some women and men bounce back from heartache much quicker than others and sadly true that the rest sometimes don't at all.

You know they talk of the 12 start signs? For me it's more of a capacity to love, empty harts, half and half, the full harts and the 9'other variations in between. You must surround yourself with people who are like you, you know those friendships which are easy, you buzz together, there is no fighting or explaining yourself (too often). Their friendship fills your soul! I believe there are 12 identifiable groups of people who who possess a common thread and can therefore be categorized together. Your relationships won't be happy nor will you be satisfied within mismatch!

So how do you find them! In truth, you got to be busy with your own life, doing your own thing. If you are not a whole and happy person, no one can be happy around you! In my experience, every 2 years such people come around into your life, it maybe for a season, reason or lifetime? The point is no matter how brief the time you have with them is, it's everlasting!

All I'm saying is don't give up on love, appreciate what you get, and constantly be working towards been a super human being! There is so much more out there for an open hart and mind x

I'm staying grounded my love, too many good things going on here xx

On 2015-11-26 22:07:20 kameshang said:
I think I'm a b,c,g kinda person but curious to know what I'm really thought of as.

Kameshang :) let's break it down! You are welcom to email me your answers ;)

B) wants to play out a port he wants saw and be a bad boy
What was it about the porn - porn star that attracts you, specifically which part of the movie sticks in your mind?

C) addict, can't stop, wants more and more
This is a problem, like all forms of addiction it will eventually take everything away from you. Obviously you will need timore and more time to feed your monster ... It'll cut off your relationships, effect your work and ultimately your sexual performance and responses.

I've worked with sex addicts and cured them! If you want to get better call me. I can help you wean yourself off the porn and start to enjoy a natural and normal sex life with your partner.

G) Nothing wrong with a fetish!

On 2015-12-01 10:43:19 Strontium said:
B, C, & GGG

Strontium I'll ask you the same, and you welcome to email me your answers ;)

B) wants to play out a port he wants saw and be a bad boy
What was it about the porn - porn star that attracts you, specifically which part of the movie sticks in your mind?

C) addict, can't stop, wants more and more
This is a problem, like all forms of addiction it will eventually take everything away from you. Obviously you will need timore and more time to feed your monster ... It'll cut off your relationships, effect your work and ultimately your sexual performance and responses.

G) Nothing nothing nothing wrong with a fetish!

On 2015-12-09 05:18:26 zben said:
I am an E & H

Cayla your categories are spot on

Thanks Zben :) it's tough out there hey! I know I'm single 36 white female with no kids (or baggage) how do I find a mutual partner. It's the law of averages, 1 in every 100 will be a good match for you, and you gotta play the game, I dated a girl once, yep when I was 23, for 3 months, she was a total nightmare! Needy, bunny boiler type and nearly ruined my life. Dating isn't always the best option for romance, if I were a man I would definitely be a punter; in between dating, till I found someone.

Hi there.
C (addicted but more to sensual massage with possibility of sex)and I (love to return the favor and see the lady satisfied/happy as well) for me!

On 2016-09-13 15:25:29 MinuteMan said:
Hi there.
C (addicted but more to sensual massage with possibility of sex)and I (love to return the favor and see the lady satisfied/happy as well) for me!

Lady Jane aka Cayla Britt

Hello minute man, I don't feel that you quite fit into C! Addicts are very selfish, in that their hunger is only for their own satisfaction. They have simply forgotten how to enjoy all the before stuff, and only operating on a physical level. We are 3 part being (mind, body and soul).

I would put you in 'I' his a pleaser, he wants you to have a good time / 'G' his got a fetish (massage / oral).

The fact that you mention "sensual massage with possibility of sex" tells me you well in control of your sexuality and are matured lover! I recon you are lovely to meet!

Thank you for your reply to my comment - and I graciously accept your assessment "smile".
I do still think however, that there is an element of addiction in my behavior.
I can go for months without a visit to a venue, forcing or willing myself to abstain, but then something will trigger the hunger again, and I will book as often as I can - sometimes 2 or 3 times a week - for a few months, but rarely more than 3 times with the same SP.
I think you too, would be lovely to meet - perhaps in the not too distant future.
Have a great day.

Your welcome minute man! It's because of your discipline that you go long periods without. And therefore binge in the end. If you could find a mediim between none and allot, in more regular intervals - you would be a more satisfied and less frustrated. We all need a bite to eat and starvation isn't healthy. I took a selbasy vow for 3 years, from 23 - 26. The rules were no touching below the waste, unless it was my bum and over clothes. In these 3 years I literally died, And felt like grandma.

Contact, kissing and intamacy are very important part of men and women's life, we need it and should all be doing it.

Unfortunately, we won't ever meet under the above circumstances, as I'm no longer an escort. And moved into a new vocation coaching Life and Sex - in a non physical way

Hi CaylaBrit
That is always the trick with anything in life is it not? To find a happy medium.
Work, sport, food, sex (among many).............none should dominate anyone's life to too great a degree, and yet many people find themselves in just that position.
It certainly seems as though you have also been through quite a life journey as well, and have decided on the way forward for you.
Don't worry about my expectations of you - I understand what you are here to do.
I have read your other thread and conversation with Q, and I must say that I thought he asked a valid question, which you answered very succinctly.
Unfortunate that we will not meet in a sexual way???? Perhaps and perhaps not "smile".
I am sure it would still be great to meet you, as I am sure there are many things your coaching could help with.
Just as we all want to be better at what we do, be it cooking, or welding, or driving etc, we - men especially I suppose (as its part of being a "man") - want to be better lovers.
Just a question for you out of curiosity if I may - do you find that there are times during your sessions, that YOU suddenly have ah ha moments that resonate with your life and your experiences, and that you can use to grow and improve yourself?? Not looking for specifics and I understand if you don't want to answer.
Finally, I sent you an email on the address listed on your profile, but not sure if you received it. I shall send you a PM just now.
Have a super day.
K.

Cayla Britt aka Lady Jane

Absolutely! Minute man, there isn't a bigger critic in my life, than my self. I have these moments all the time. I'm not perfect and not proclaiming to be, but i know the stuff I'm made up of, is good. I'm ok with some of my imperfections, thats the quirky in me. Although had 2 huge flaws for many years, 2 big stoppers in my life. We're the lies I told to protect the people I loved, and the drugs I used to dull my senses and heighten my physical experiences, were the very shackles that bounded me in cloud of darkness. This past year was the toughest year of my life - in a good way. I went on a soul searching sabbatical, I wanted answers, i asked tough questions! The reply was "you may not like the answers". I was committed to making changes in my life, and received confirmation thereof and steered in a new direction. I had lost everything I loved, I was alone and afraid. But i knew that this was not a recipe for a long lasting and happy life. Change had to happen. I didn't know how, when, where or what but I had faith, I had a power bigger than me to believe in, and it propelled my healing and nourished me from the inside out.

I've always said, to master life we must understand the principles of life. If we know that in order for one thing to exist so must it's opposite i.e. Hot cold, light dark, left and right. If this is a law of life: we can therefore believe that "life" will give us 50 / 50 equally good and bad. However, if we keep the same attitude when things are going great, as well as when it's going badly, you have mastered life. And describes that being human requires a discipline all the time. To neither run too high or to low but to find yourself in the middle.

I therefore also believe there are 50 / 50 good people people and bad people in the world. I described it in a above thread:

I quote: "You know they talk of the 12 start signs? For me it's more of a capacity to love, empty harts, half and half, the full harts and the 9'other variations in between. You must surround yourself with people who are like you, you know those friendships which are easy, you buzz together, there is no fighting or explaining yourself (too often). Their friendship fills your soul! I believe there are 12 identifiable groups of people who possess a common thread and can therefore be categorized together. Your relationships won't be happy nor will you be satisfied within mismatch!".

Thanks I'll pick up your email in a bit! I've known Qcumber through correspondence, and yes I am very direct and straight forward in my eyes, the problem is if it's viewed succinctly then i must review myself. I have and cure toy reading a book on communication and how to better handle myself when I feel threatened.

[ SMILE ]

Thank you MM - I've really enjoyed our Chat! Have a lovely day too