Sorry to say, you weren't the only one suckered! The story is so different but almost exactly the same! :(

He's a serial seducer and revels in fucking with our minds, only to leave us feeling more a whore then ever before!

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My years of being here on ESA and in this world have lead to me believe that Men and Women are in fact 2 different species. We don't think alike, we don't act alike, our needs and wants are so different. We are just really, really exceptionally different on so many levels?

Perhaps love is just an illusion?

We tolerate each other, but can we truly live with each other in unison?

Arz

My first lessons about love and heartache I learned from my parents. They were insanely in love with each other, totally consumed and absorbed in their tempestuous love for each other. They were either having these violent arguments accusing each other of affairs with colleagues, friends,
extended family members,
neighbours.........or madly chasing each other around the world trying to save their marriage.

My parents loved each other but
they were not a good example of
being inlove, marriage and being responsible parents. So when just
finished my secondary schooling I
accepted the second proposal for
an arranged marriage and was
married three months later. He was
19 years older and my naive self thought it would be calm and pleasant marriage very different
from my parents. I thought that
being in love made my parents so self absorbed with each other that they forgot about their duty to take care of their children.

The first time I fell in love with a
man was in this industry in 2013. He was a young Canadian who just
landed in Jhb on 31st December
with a sore neck and booked me for
a massage. We dated until April when he left the country. The time we spent together was the most happiest, care free and content that I had ever been. We still keep in
contact. We both treasure the time we spent together and love each other dearly.

Subsequently over the years in this industry I have fallen in love with two others and have had amazing
experiences with them. We see each other whenever they in the country and we are content.

I do not believe in monogamy and will never enter into a relationship where it is enforced. I also do not believe that the length of a relationship determines the strength of your love for each other.

There are also a few of my regular clients that I have grown to love and care about over the years. I know that they love and care for me too. We just have the emotional maturity not to make mountains out of molehills.

Please tell her the truth. She might get mad, but none of it is as bad as her not being able to trust you again. At least if you tell her the truth, she'll forgive you in time. But if you were to lie to her, despite having good intentions like you weren't trying to hurt her, still she's going to be hurt because she expects better from you and she expects you to always be honest with her. No matter how painful the truth may be she can handle it! But if you lied to her you're making her believe that she's not worth it. Tell her the truth rather than her hearing the story from other people. There isn't much she asks from you, but keep it real because you're the one she's with. Be straight forward and she'll be fine, but if you're gonna lie to her, you're putting yourself at risk of not being trusted anymore. And all of your truths in the future will be considered lies.

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Arz

Best not to be involved with someone while a WG in my opinion.

On 2017-09-13 00:59:15 Fire said:
Best not to be involved with someone while a WG in my opinion.

Easier said then done....We are flawed and our hearts rarely respond to logic!

Was just thinking (wich is usually not good). What we are talking about here is exactly like in "normal life"....no different.Doesn't matter who do what kind of work or if you're a Wg or punter or keybord hero .....or whatever. People fall in love (sometimes with the wrong one). People get hurt. People carry on with their lives in whatever way they can....sometimes lives happily ever after even. Just like in the movies (not porno's). All of us here are basically normal then. Well done everybody!!

(Obviously I should've been a philosopher or Professor or something)

It seems all the veteran was have the same opinion based on experience ;)

To the younger ladies love if you must. However remember it's short lived and you are nothing but a piece of meat ;)

refer back to my initial post as to why punters visit us.

I too had a relationship in this industry lol a match made in heaven he was perfect we were good together lol bottom I was nothing but his free weekend fuck.

ladies when he moves on from the free fuck you have now lost both the punter and his return business ;)

Never mix business with pleasure ;) In this industry it almost always ends up badly ;)

We here for money and we are not Julia Roberts playing a role of fantasy.

There are ladies that married and left the industry sitting at home looking after families while their husbands still visit other ladies or brothels. Lol if this is the success love story your looking for then go for it because this is settling.

Vee likes to use the saying smoke and mirrors that saying applies to this thread.

Some may look at us veteran ladies and call us Jaded lol it just means we are so much more experienced ;)

Remember as Veterans not only does the lady speak from her own personal experiences but all from other ladies experience in the business.

Ladies remember you are all that and so much more and you deserve better than what you as a ladies will find when searching here. We need to learn to have lives outside this industry which sadly most don't.

It's easy to think if he met me here he will be more accepting and more understanding the truth is if her met you here you are nothing but his next free.

To the romantics at heart I admire that but this industry is the wrong place to carry your heart on your sleave.

Will my opinion in the matter ever change the answer is no.

I have way too many men that pay me for my time to keep happy than too invest energy in just one man.

Does it mean I don't know love no I was blessed enough to have my till death do us part and he was perfect for me in every way he set the bar so high that I always say to my self Neil never would have spoken to me like that he never would have treated me like that he would have done this in this situation and I know it's not fair on the next person to be compared and that to a deceased person but I do he was my Gold and yes life goes on and I've moved on but his memories are sweet and our love was amazing with that said and done it never would have worked if I stayed in the industry even though he was never a punter to begin with.

Again that's just me but who am I to say don't do it the beauty in life is that we all learn from experience ;)

Love begins within ourselves ;) There's more to love than finding a relationship that message you happy because much like love happiness too begins within and if you can't be happy on your own you won't be happy with another person much like if you don't love yourself it will never be enough no matter who loves you but that is a topic on its own as I have to much say about that ;)