Hello Ladies and Gents of the Purple World,

I come to you for some advice and insight on what I should do about my situation.

I recent fell for a girl unexpectedly and now she is constantly on my mind all the time from the time I wake up to the time I go to bed and even while i'm dreaming so yes I have it extremely bad.

This girl i've come to know and we are very similar in personality and get along quite well. She is the girl next door type, the one all the guys dream about and the girl that all other girls get jealous over.

I tried getting a feel for her interest by judging the way she interacts with and what she tells me. One day I randomly asked her if there was some else in her life and on several occasions she kept telling me that there is no one else and that I shouldnt worry about anything however my little gut feeling kept telling me that there is someone else but she isnt being honest about it.

She mentioned that if there was someone else then she would of been snatched up by now however and that she is being completely honest with me in everything she is telling once again my gut feeling tells me that there is still someone else cause she is a damn Goddess of note and there is absolutely no way that she cant be interested in anyone for so long.

I decided that I would sit back and see what happens. I recently discovered that there is someone else in the mix but for some reason he doesnt want to commit to her cause she is working in the industry and as a normal guy thing one will definitely have a problem with a lady he is interested in working in the industry.

This girl hasnt spoken to me in awhile cause she is too busy trying to win this guy over but I have a strong gut feeling that this guy is the guy she wants to marry and have a family with and so the nightmare of the love triangle begins.

When you have a gut feeling without the girl of your dreams telling you and seeing the way she acts towards this guy kills me emotionally every single day but I dont think she really cares cause all she is worried about is herself and who she wants.

This guy keeps rejecting her but she still wants him and she keeps going back fighting for him regardless of how he is hurting her cause she has fallen in love with this guy but she wont admit it so she keeps me stringed along incase this guy doesnt not materialise like how she wants it to.

Now i'm sure you are thinking well idiot if she doesnt care and has more strong feelings for this other guy then close the door and walk away.

Fellow ladies and punters I wish it was that easy for me but emotionally I am connected to her in ways that I dont connect with most people and how can you walk away from someone who is everything you were looking for and more in a person that you can see a future with.

I can fell her pain and I can feel how hurt she is getting but she is not a quitter and she is not going to give up until she gets the guy she wants and I am the same where I dont want to give up and quit cause she is the girl I want, period.

The questions I ask you and want your honest opinion and advice is:
1) How can I get her to admit that there is someone else in the picture?
2) What should I do going forward?

Please help

lil_d xxxx

hehehe you are so screwed, and not in a good way

You are wasting your time. Go out and f**k someone. The answers you seek you already have, you dont have to be told. You will be the ultimate loser in this game. Learn to invest your emotions wisely where you are rewarded back. This game of perpetually going after that gal who doesnt really want you is dangerous. As I said just go punt and look for another gal. Wish you all the best

Dude, you know the answers. Walk away.
She will probably not admit the existence of the other guy in fear of loosing your business, since she knows about your feelings, even if she doesn't know explicitly.

When you have the emotional connection, and she doesn't, it is a recipe for disaster. Close your heart, and move along. Ask yourself what are your intensions, medium/long term with this girl. You will save yourself a lot of future heartache.

...listen to your gut. Your subconscious "sees" things that you don't ...or won't.

On 2018-03-11 17:46:58 MrShyGuyV2 said:
Dude, you know the answers. Walk away.
She will probably not admit the existence of the other guy in fear of loosing your business, since she knows about your feelings, even if she doesn't know explicitly.

When you have the emotional connection, and she doesn't, it is a recipe for disaster. Close your heart, and move along. Ask yourself what are your intensions, medium/long term with this girl. You will save yourself a lot of future heartache.

...listen to your gut. Your subconscious "sees" things that you don't ...or won't.

I concur with MrShy ... rather walk away now .. she is busy brainfucking you !!!

Dear lil_d... you've been brain fucked... there's a thread about it on the forum "Off the Beaten truck"... I had NEVER fell in love with a client while in this industry so I can't give you any advice but I know how you feel... We always want something we can't have... If your not strong enough to deal with it, try to walk away... but being second best will slowly kill you...

I totaly agree with Mr ShyGuy! Unfortunately i can answer you out of personal experience..... WALK AWAY! Its gonna hurt like hell, but in the end , its worth it!

Agree with shyguy, I know its easier said than done but walk away. To put it bluntly you are the spare wheel or break open in case of emergency option. Been there, done that, paid the school fees, life is too short to bother with any one who doesn't see you as a priority.

You are nowhere near ready to hear her admit it to you. In any case she will still deny it. Just walk away, take some time off, book a holiday, leave your phone at home and just get your headspace back.

Exactly Milo ... I also got that t-shirt .. rather getting hurt now because later it will hurt a hell of a lot more !!!

On 2018-03-11 18:02:03 Ms Paige said:
Dear lil_d... you've been brain fucked... there's a thread about it on the forum "Off the Beaten truck"... I had NEVER fell in love with a client while in this industry so I can't give you any advice but I know how you feel... We always want something we can't have... If your not strong enough to deal with it, try to walk away... but being second best will slowly kill you...

Ms Paige .. great minds thinks alike !!!