Posted: 2012-05-16 22:14:23
@saint: dude, thank you for the vote of confidence!! :-))
Hi Nivia! We "met" on the review forum, I hope you read my reply...
Damage to the anal sphinctrer, resulting in 'leakage', as you call it, or anal incontinence, can only occur with forced entry. Every day stools pass out of there, and often a lot larger than any penis that will potentially go in, especially in periods of constipation, and that can hurt. And one still does not get leakage. Conversely, if something goes in, it should not result in damage to the sphincter, provided the sphincter (ring, as we call it) is allowed the chance to dilate gently on its own accord. Anal sex requires a lot of skill and patience, and that will be rewarded by intense orgasms and psychological satisfaction, as it is the ultimate expression of intimacy.
Therefore: start slowly, with a lot of lube, and a small object - finger or dildo or whatever, as long as you take utmost care not to lose it inside! Starting yourself with a finger is probably the best, careful of manicured nails! Lube the anus, insert the finger, keep it in and move it slowly back to forward (not sideways). You will feel the sphincter giving way. In case of pain - pause and go ahead gentlier. Once ready, insert a second finger and let the sphincter get used to it. Now, remove the fingers slowly, consciously taking care NOT to constrict the ring as the fingers exit. That will teach you to keep it open when you want to. Carry on with the other objects of your choice. Once you decide on a cock, the person better not be a punter, or make it a regular punter and give him free time, or have a boyfriend or whoever rocks your boat. Start with the fingers again, slowly and gently, and when ready -0 insert the penis. Once in, moving in and out will not cause pain if you have trained yourself not to clench it. If you have trained yourself well, after removing the penis you will be able to consciously keep the anus open (gaping), so numerous insertions/removals can give an intense feeling of pleasure, sensual to you, and visual to your partner, very satisfying experience. The orgasms are intense, especially if you play with your vagina and clitoris during the anal act. You can also have a vibrator in the vagina while fucked from behind - priceless!
Summary:
1. Lots of lube, never can be too much;
2. Master the art of anal masturbation, i.e you and your hand;
3. Always stop if there is pain;
4. Learn to keep the anus open after removal of the object/penis;
5. Be patient, and expect patience from your partner;
6. The more often you do it, the better it gets;
7. Will not cause incontinence, unless forced, as in rape;
8. The main culprit for anal and urinary incontinence is vaginal childbirth.
I salute you for willing to do this, and wish you good luck! Let us know how you progress, I am sure you will get lots of business your way from this thread!
Peace