There's an interesting SP here I saw again last month. I shocked myself by finishing pathetically quickly with the first round yet she was still about to chase me out so I (reluctantly had to) ask for round 2.

Now this is the interesting part: she, almost sounding frustrated with me, starts insisting that I treat her "like a whore". She says she needs it to get her wet. She tells me she needs to be degraded. She even taunts me, "I don't think you have it in you. You are too nice."

This sounds like the ultimate PSE fantasy, but when she demanded it from me I sort of froze. I spanked her arse awkwardly and then I just softened up. (Then I got annoyed with myself for wasting my first round. lol)

One hypothesis I've come up with is that I just didn't want to let that side of me out because I'm not sure if I could control it - but I recognise the hidden self-flattery here basically feeding into my perception of my virility.

The other part of me recognises that I...maybe...just don't have it in me. What about you guys? Have you ever been in a situation where it caught you off guard like this? If not what would you do, or have you done? Keen to read both the success stories, and tragedies, like mine.

I don't have it in me either. I've had more than one potential GF tell me that - and the second they do I put the brakes on everything and usually end things with a rather worried "sort your head out lady." Sorry, I just think any woman who asks for that is NOT without abuse issues and any guy that indulges it has them too. Just too much potential for things to go wrong. Its obviously different with a WG but I think I'd feel the same - abuse is abuse whether you are paying for it or not and I just don't have it in me. I see that as a positive thing, not a negative.

I wondered the exact same oraljim (regarding the abuse). This is the second time's she's demanded this from me - but this time it didn't have that same playful pornstar tone. I think the authenticity I read from it is what shocked me...it didn't sound like she had a safe-word if you know what I mean.

Would you extend your view towards BDSM in general?

On 2021-10-18 18:47:00 oraljim said:
I don't have it in me either. I've had more than one potential GF tell me that - and the second they do I put the brakes on everything and usually end things with a rather worried "sort your head out lady." Sorry, I just think any woman who asks for that is NOT without abuse issues and any guy that indulges it has them too. Just too much potential for things to go wrong. Its obviously different with a WG but I think I'd feel the same - abuse is abuse whether you are paying for it or not and I just don't have it in me. I see that as a positive thing, not a negative.

In essence I agree...lol... I'd rather choose to stay out of trouble.

Yet you can still be rough, fun and adventurous without causing harm or injuring. Just think for yourself.

Definitely don't have it in me either.

Agree with Oraljim

On 2021-10-18 18:47:00 oraljim said:
I don't have it in me either. I've had more than one potential GF tell me that - and the second they do I put the brakes on everything and usually end things with a rather worried "sort your head out lady." Sorry, I just think any woman who asks for that is NOT without abuse issues and any guy that indulges it has them too. Just too much potential for things to go wrong. Its obviously different with a WG but I think I'd feel the same - abuse is abuse whether you are paying for it or not and I just don't have it in me. I see that as a positive thing, not a negative.

I don't have it in me too, but if she wants I will tie her up in Shibari

One of my bookings, I was busy with doggy and the lady repeatedly shouted,
"pull my hair...pull my hair"....

I went like WTF???!!!!!

I tried and I just couldn't do it! ...fortunately I came moments after that, if not it would have been one of those incomplete endings for me.

I am that slow, gentle passionate kind of guy...Getting rough is not my thing!

On 2021-10-18 18:55:52 modnarmodnar said:
Would you extend your view towards BDSM in general?

Absolutely not. BDSM, as an art form not as a tagline on a sex site, is about profound respect and trust, not about sex at ALL. Almost all of the "mistresses" and "dominatrix"-es I have seen and visited on this site are, in my opinion, complete posers who think using a cane makes you a mistress. It's pathetic.

I have come to the conclusion that all you beautiful men, commenting on this post are all LOVELY AND GENTLEMEN!!!!

It is so nice to read....you make me smile. Xxx

On 2021-10-18 21:11:33 oraljim said:
On 2021-10-18 18:55:52 modnarmodnar said: Would you extend your view towards BDSM in general?
Absolutely not. BDSM, as an art form not as a tagline on a sex site, is about profound respect and trust, not about sex at ALL. Almost all of the "mistresses" and "dominatrix"-es I have seen and visited on this site are, in my opinion, complete posers who think using a cane makes you a mistress. It's pathetic.

so agree with you this OJ