Working girls fulfill a social need in society. They are lovers, confidantes, friends, mothers, sisters, psychologists -- sometimes less, sometimes more. Perhaps the sex is just a man's way of saying "I really need you to make me feel good right now". Whatever the need, men are willing to pay people to fulfill this need, and the WG's understanding of this is key to their success in the business. Considering this, do working girls need advanced social skills, or do they just need to look like the bomb and be great in bed?

I have studied some of the comments in these forums, the initial comments as well as the responses, and have come to the conclusion that many are seriously lacking in social skills, both punters and WGs alike. Punters are generally ok, but some are seriously lacking in social skills (plainly put, they are cretins). This is patently obvious when doing a search on a punter and examining the quality of the dialogue (and in many cases, the monologue). Whilst this is inexcusable, this is largely the way that men are built (a subject for another discussion).

More concerning though, some WGs tend to be far worse. They do one of two things: they either robustly attack the feedback with vigour, or they simply withdraw, change their hair, get another prepaid starterpack and post and pay for a new ad. Some do this on a consistent basis, regardless whether they receive any feedback at all. It is seen as a way of life, one of the perils of the trade. These girls are seriously in need of PR skills.

Just an observation: the punters pay the WGs, and then go the extra mile by giving feedback, for mahala. Considering that a business consultant would charge *way* more than most WG's hourly rate, this is really a good deal for the WG. She gets to see feedback, and an opportunity to fix any issues.

Even if the pounter woke up with shit on his liver that day (yes, there are some real assholes amongst us), it is an opportunity to showcase social skills in handling the complaint in a friendly manner, regardless whether unfair or not. Looking at the dissenting WG responses, some of the ladies on this forum are in serious need of social skills, which is a pity because social skills are core and fundamental to what you do.

Therefore, here are two golden rules for a response to a negative comment:
1. Thank the punter for politely for taking the time and trouble to post some feedback; and
2. Never, ever, argue with the punter in a public forum! Even if he is an ass and he is lying!

Girl, if you are arguementative with your (ex)client in a public forum, then you are doing your business serious damage. You are on public display here -- and the manner in which you handle negative feedback speaks volumes about:
The maturity of your social skills;
Your emotional intelligence;
Your social grace and etiquette; and
The social service that you deliver.

Remember that a gentle answer turns wrath into discomfort(for the ass). Leave the vitriol and animosity to the men -- they are built to mete it out (and also to take it). Don't damage your business even furher by emulating the sharp tonmgue of his wife / girlfriend / SO.

Just my 2c: Use it or lose it.

Thank you for bringing these pointers to the public eye.
I can agree in both cases of punters and wg's alike on this forum.
I love my job and take time in making an effort into my etiquette aswell as how I dress. It isn't just about looks and money but also personality and how you approach and respect someone that little bit goes a very long way, and that is in everything not just business. You are bound to earn a lot more if you can do that though as people appreciate it a lot.

One thing that I have noticed is that when some of the ladies gets a bad review, the first thing they would say is that the person that gave them a bad review has never visited them.

I fully agree with Tamzin, and I think it also boils down to how you view the service you provide as a working girl. I feel im more than the physical and thats what I provide.

The problem with the review system is that punters read what's being written but their brains register something else.
Almost all my negative reviews begin with the words: I don't know why everybody makes a big fuss about this girl...

Most punters think a good review whereby a client said they had a good time, it means he got porn star treatment. Guess what? some clients like a good conversation, they like a woman who stimulates their mind. Those guys are my target market. A lot of my regular clients say they could pay me just to chill and talk. I'm good at that. That's the service I provide with sex added on top. My brain is my sexiest assets by far and it doesn't hurt that I'm shaped like the number 8 and taste like banana cake.
This is my marketing strategy. Look at the boobs and drool, call to make an appointment. Come visit me and find that time goes by very quickly when you're with me, play with the boobs, do nasty things with me and walk away thinking... I want a girlfriend like that.
Occasionally I will let a guy jump me in the kitchen but I'm not about that come on my face life.
And it really annoys me when a guy acts like I promised them a porn star experience. My profile doesn't even mention gfe, much less ps

I think WGs need a level of people skills unlike in any other industry due the the intimate and personal nature of this business. I'm not a people person in general, but I have no difficulty relating one on one with a client. For the same reason i do not really do bookings longer than 2 hrs unless we really connect on a mental level as well as physical.

Some good insights, ladies. Thank you.

I just love this post! Men and women are so different, we are definitely wired differently and thoroughly enjoyed reading this. It's my opinion that WG do need social skills sometimes, and other times not. Let me explain ... If you divide the pool of punters into 2 groups and define them by who they are and by what they are looking for; group A are more into f...ing and behaving like porn stars e.g. Players, addicts, plastic gangsters. Group B are as you put it 'I really need you to make me feel good right now" and looking for intimacy and connection, physical contact and the enjoyment of been wanted.

As far as the reasons for men visiting WG I put these into my own words in an earlier thread titled 'which one is you'

A - looking for connection, affection, passion (Good guy, loves his wife, no action at home)
B - wants to play out a porn he once saw and be a bad boy
C - addict, can't stop and just wants more and more
D - faithful husband looking for a once off - it's a guy thing
E - busy business man, no time to court, quick safe option with the same result
F - player and wants to test his skills, his game is the nice guy, wants u to fall in love, a freeby ends the game
G - his got a fetish
H - mr play it safe! His single, it's been a while, the dating scene is a waste of time, he can't find what his looking for
I - his a pleasure! And wants you to have a good time, no one else will let him try

Indeed Jameslasting, it is very much a business and if treated like a professional career the ladies would reap the financial benefits, we all agree money creates opportunities and ultimately freedom. Like all businesses you have to put something back into the business and keep upgrading to stay ahead of the game. WG can also be divided into 2 groups, defined by how they look, talk and dress ie The ladies and The tarts!

To answer your question; do working girls need advanced social skills, or do they just need to look like the bomb and be great in bed? My answer is: sometimes, if that is what the client requires. Group B punters are more likely to want her mind and body and therefor a prerequisite to be socially advanced. Group A punters will hardly even notice her telephone manner provided the price is rite. The truth is that some WG match with some clients and others won't. The more attractive, well groomed and intellectual the WG is, the higher her asking price. The punters need to have an excess of R250 to R1500 to be part of the game. Clients with more money have more options and therefore can afford a lady who is more seductive and attractive.

We all know prostitution is the oldest profession in the world and I do often wonder how each girl came into the business. Yes there are some that are brighter than others which is largely influenced by their upbringing, education and life experience. The clients on the other hand, we can't be too harsh on them, we know your unruly member takes over all systems when u see a hot chick posing naughty in her underwear ... And upon adrenalin and impulse call and book. Thus without the necessary checks on compatibility ie calling her, hear each other's voice, get a feel for one another (chemistry) and share our thoughts about the session (to ensure u both want the same things).

I think in spite your criticism been targeted at the WG on ESA, CONSIDER its just the world we live in. People are shallow and self centered, out to get all they can for as little as possible and not batter an eye lid! For me it's so sad, I don't know if they not smart enough to evaluate themselves and make these improvements or If they just oblivious to it all.

Social skills are not only important they necessary to ones quality of life. A great attitude and willingness to be flexible will go a long way. I have this saying: tact is a social skill used by intelligent people! Simply put simply been socially apt is proportionate to level of intelligence. Perhaps these 'WG who robustly attack the feedback with vigor' tell tell the reasons they cannot hold down a job and aren't interested in self development. Good luck to you!!!

Jameslasting, your a classy guy and I bet we would have all sorts of things to chat about. Thanks for writing your post and offering such sound advise to us all, it could not have been written any better or by a one else.

Have a fab weekend everyone and remover stay classy!

Jameslasting - thank you for bringing these out in the open. I appreciate that both sides of the coin are viewed as it takes 2 to tango as we all know. WGs always need to be polite, well mannered and in general ladies. Punters should also be polite and well mannered. There's nothing worse than having a rude punter at any point in time.
I truly enjoyed reading what you typed out and I hope all of us (guys and girls) will take some good advice from your post and apply it

Ladies, once again, thank you for your feedback. In a way, I am pleasantly surprised at the level of response, as well as the responses themselves, many of which are really deserving of further dialogue (and some fascinating insights).

Also to the singular "Punter" who responded -- Wors13, thank you for your observation and contribution to this discussion.

It is also worthy of note that an overwhelming majority of the responses came from the WGs and not the Punters, which begs the question: Why is that?
I also think that it is time (in this age of "equality") to launch the other question: "Do "Punters" Need Social Skills (Or Just A Fat Wallet)?" but I need to be careful (because of obvious bias which may lead to discrimination (in an already hugely discriminatory industry!).

So, if anyone has some pointers / pearls of wisdom to share on this, then I would be happy to receive it, publically and/or privately (if you prefer).