Hi all
Long story short - just after i joined this site, i met a lady ( non working girl who is not in this industry ) whom i was attracted to. Later feelings developed from my side, but there was always something personal holding her back - which i tried to understand but just couldn't get through to her. I was always there and listened to her and helped her out where i could eg helping her move or something like that - not really expecting something in return, but just being there for her as a friend and hopfully more than a friend one day.

Now during this time, i never visited any of the ladies on this site or others out of respect for her - so it was always "Mrs palm and her 5 daughters" for me...

Over the past 4 months, I hardly heard from her, and unknown to me (as she blocked me on fb) she met someone and they are now together. Im happy for her... BUT I was "friendzoned" unfairly i think.

Shit happens and thats life i know, however i was thinking of having a revenge punt, seeing as though i wasted all this time hoping that i would be given a chance. Yes - i " have a face for radio", but i would like to think i have something good to offer the ladies out there.

To the guys out there that have been in this type of situation before - is a revenge punt a good idea ? Is my mind in the right place to do something like this, or is it dangerous as i have not been intimate with a woman for a few years ?

I realize that this is no "bleeding hearts" column or "agony aunt" section, but any advice from the guys or ladies would be appreciated. Should i go to mistress kink and have the shit beaten out of me for being so stupid ?

Muchas Gracias !

Move on with your life,u were used it happens to a lot of people out there.

OH, NO. He wasn't used. He read more into the situation than what was actually there. The feelings were one-sided. Most of us have helped friends of the opposite sex but that doesn't mean there's anything more than friendship. I would also unfriend someone on FB if I know they have feelings for me and i happen to have feelings for someone else....just so there's no misgivings.
She's moved on, so should you.....if you need a revenge punt to do so, then do it.

I understand what you want to do, but setting out with the idea of a "revenge punt" is not going to work. The lady in question will not even know about it, neither does she care what you are doing. With that mindset you not going to enjoy any punt. it will be a matter of cutting your nose and spoiling your own face.

Rather change your mindset and just go with a positive outlook to enjoy a good session with one of these wonderful ladies on ESA. My advice would be to rather wait till you feel better about the situation before you venture out there for your first punt.

Sorry about your situation but don't take it to personally stuff like this happens all the time. Analyse yourself and after careful and a bit of a think do what u must that's within limits to get your head and heart sorted. Gud luck whicheva way.

If she doesn't know or doesn't care it actually isn't even a "revenge punt" as you put it.

Thanks guys for your input. Its true what you say. I had a feeling that it would not be the best of ideas to have a revenge punt. Although both parties ( her and the chosen lady from this site) wouldnt know about it or the reasons for doing it, i think it would at least give me some sort of satisfaction as i would know.

Thats what i like about this forum - straight up answers to questions posted. You guys rock !!!

making it sound as if punting is bad

That was not my intention dogmatic.

Rather call it a Consolation punt NOT a revenge punt. You'll be consoling yourself from the disappointment of losing that prospective girlfriend. Go on and book that one lady and console yourself. You were definitely used and discarded like a chewing gum that has ran out of flavour but hey that's life, get over it...with a mind blowing punt.